Little Girl’s Concern For ‘A Single Father’


Today people marry in haste and divorce …?.

They do not think about the offspring.

How a child would take it never occurs to them in their Hedonistic pursuits.

Story:

Dating with kids isn’t easy — unless your kid takes it upon themselves to find you a date.

One little girl decided to do exactly that recently, as the adorable note Redditor moodysimon posted on Wednesday shows.

(huffington post)

Now look at how a child cares for her single Father, which does not seem to occurred to her Mother.

Child' Note about her Single Father.
Child’ Note about her Single Father.

Saw this on my FB feed: “A little girl wearing one rollerblade just stopped me on the footpath to ask ‘do you know any single adults’? I asked her to explain and she replied ‘as in single girls’. I said yes. She then handed me this note and skated off! Any takers?

http://www.reddit.com/r/aww/comments/1labbk/saw_this_on_my_fb_feed_a_little_girl_wearing_one/

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Why Babies Cry Reasons Medicines

If a Baby (less than a year),cries incessantly, one is rattled.

We do not what the reasons are and what to administer.

There are may reasons why a Baby cries for apparently no reason.

They could be because of any of the following factors.

It is Hungry.

Mother can usually differentiate the cry for food.

Feed the Child.

2.I need to be held.

Cuddle the Baby

3.Feel like crying.

Babies sometimes cry because they want to cry.

Biologically this prevents Acidosis, when the Acid content in the metabolism becomes high.


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Baby Crying

If a Baby (less than a year),cries incessantly, one is rattled.

We do not know what the reasons are and what to administer.

There are may reasons why a Baby cries for apparently no reason.

They could be because of any of the following factors.

It is Hungry.

Mother can usually differentiate  the cry for food.

Feed the Child.

2.I need to be held.

Cuddle the Baby

3.Feel like crying.

Babies sometimes cry because they want to cry.

Biologically this prevents Acidosis, when the Acid content in the metabolism becomes high.

The Baby cries.

When it cries, Carbon di oxide in the system increases(mouth open) and the balance is restored, the Baby stops crying.

4.Change the  Nappy.

5.Feel extremely hot or cold, React accordingly.

6.Check and feel the tummy.

If the child winces or cries louder, it means it has a tummy problem.

Give the child Colic drops , prescribed by a Doctor and consult a Doctor immediately.

 

I shall post some Home Remedies for babies.

Some more tips.

Rock-a-bye baby

Babies usually love to be gently rocked. You could:

  • Walk around while rocking her.
  • Sit with her in a rocking chair.
  • If she’s old enough, sit her securely in a baby swing.
  • Take her out for a ride in your car.
  • Take her out for a walk in her pushchair.

Try a massage or a tummy rub

Using massage oils or cream and gently rubbing her back or tummy can help to soothe your baby. It may also make you feel better, as it’s a practical way of reducing your baby’s distress. Ask your health visitor about local baby massage classes.

Try a different feeding position

Some babies cry during or after feeds. If you are breastfeeding, you may find that improving the way your baby latches on helps her to feed calmly without crying.

If she seems to have painful wind during feeds, you could try feeding her in a more upright positionBurp your baby after a feed by holding her against your shoulder. If your baby cries straight after a feed, she may still be hungry.

Let her suck on something

In some newborns, the need to suck is very strong. Sucking at your breast while you are breastfeeding, a clean finger or a dummy can bring great comfort. Comfort sucking can steady a baby’s heart rate, relax her tummy, and help her to settle.

Give her a warm bath

warm bath may soothe your baby and help her to calm down. Check the water temperature before placing her in there. But bear in mind that this may also make her cry more. In time, you will get to know your baby’s likes and dislikes.”

Source:
http://www.babycentre.co.uk/a536698/seven-reasons-babies-cry-and-how-to-soothe-them#ixzz2XzIi3IbC

God As Mother

As I have been mentioning in my posts, Hinduism relates to God in a very personal way, though The Vedas declare that The Reality .is Formless, Attribute-less’

Yet Worship of Personal God(Iswara) is encouraged as it disciplines the mind to shed off its encumbrances.

And Hindus relate to God in very intimately.

God is seen as Mother, Father,Lover,Child, Preceptor and Friend.

As there are many individuals , all of them being unique, so are their dispositions.

You feel close to your father, Mother, Lover or friend.

You relate to God at that level.

Mother!

Who can replace Mother?


As I have been mentioning in my posts, Hinduism relates to God in a very personal way, though The Vedas declare that The Reality .is Formless, Attribute-less’

Yet Worship of  Personal God(Iswara) is encouraged as it disciplines the mind to shed off its encumbrances.

And Hindus relate to God in  very intimately.

God is seen as Mother, Father,Lover,Child, Preceptor and Friend.

As there are many individuals , all of them being unique, so are their dispositions.

You feel close to your father, Mother, Lover or friend.

You relate to God at that level.

Mother!

Goddess Lalitha
Goddess Lalitha

Who can replace Mother?

One who suffered, at the time of pregnancy, forsakse her pleasures for us,

Gave us her food,

Never slept when we were awake or asleep,

Made us eat when she had nothing to eat,

Weathered the storms of Life,

Suffered when we were in Pain,

Never left us even as we kick her around,

We remain  her infants even when we become grand parents,

Would we ever replace her?

Having Borne (me) for ten months braving all discomforts, happy at having
begotten (me) taking me in both her arms and giving her precious breastfeed, such a
one will I ever see in any other birth?
2. Having borne me for 300 days after doing penance to Lord Shiva day and night, can
I apply fire to such a mother?
3. Fondling me on the cot in her lap, on her person with love, protecting me always,
how can I light the pyre to such a mother?
4. Having Borne (me) bearing the pain at delivery and giving me her milk cheerfully
day and night protecting me, how can I apply fire to such a body?
5. How can I, instead of getting happy with rich offerings to her, offer rice to the
mouth which lovingly called me as honey, nectar, fragrant flower etc.?
6. After showering rice on mother’s head how can I place the burning ember on it
without flinching , which lovingly kissed me, calling me endearingly “my son”.
7. The earliest fire lit was to Tripura, the next one was in Lanka, and third was the
spark lit in the mother’s womb, let the fire lit by me now be over.
8. Alas! The hand that fondled me is now being roasted in fire. What a cruel sinner I
am?
9. O Lord of “Shonagiri”, has she been burnt and taken refuge at Your Feet, one who
did penance to you ‘day and night’ to beget me?
10.Mother was alive yesterday at home or in the street, today she is consumed by fire
and has become ashes. Come ye, one and all without hesitation, to sprinkle milk.
Every thing in the world is Shiva’s Form (Shiva Mayam). – Pattinathar

That’s Mother.

Can there be anything more natural than identifying God as Mother?

When we can say thus about a Human Mother, what can we say about the Mother who gives Birth to the Universe?

She is the One who creates The Universe within a fraction of batting of an eyelid.

‘Unmesha nimishodhpanna Vibanna Bhunavali” lailitha Sahasranama.

She reaches to you even as you disown Her.

When your Mother leaves you, she reaches out to you as she did for Gnana Sambandar whom she gave her Milk, which she didd not to her son, Lord Subramanya!

Lord Siva reached out to a woman in Labor when she called out to Him !

Lord Subramanya called out to Avvaiyar, a Tamil Saint ‘Mother’.

Lord Vishnu made ‘Vakula Devi, as his Foster Mother(In Lord Balaji of Tirupati Avatar) for he wanted to repay the debt of having been brought up by Deakai in Krishnavatara.

He was both a Mother  and Father to Dhruva.

Lord Siva is called  Muniye Mukknnappa( Yogi ,My Father with the Third Eye)

The Great Kalidasa calls Kali as ‘Matha, marakathasyama’ in Shymala Dandakam.

Lalitha Sahasranama starts with ‘Sri Matha

Abirami Bhattar calls her mother in His Abirami Andhadhi.

Such is his devotion to Lord Abirami as His mother,

He calls her as ‘ My father’s wife’சுந்தரி எந்தை துணைவி ‘

Father is difficult to approach.

As children we approach our Mother to intercede on our behalf for getting any thing done.

Sri Vaishanavas call Lakshmi as ‘Thayaar’ , Mother. as they are convinced it is She who can represent us to Him.

Abirami Bhattar leaves evry thing to her saying,

‘ I have given everything to you, even if I were to be stranded in the midst of an Ocean to see me ashore is Yours”

If one were to have such Faith?

Listen to Abirami Andhadi by Sirkazhi here.

http://www.hummaa.com/player/player.php

http://www.hummaa.com/music/album/abirami-andhadhi-vol1/24028

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Moms and Babies Photo Essay


Moms and Babies
Moms and babies

 

http://www.stumbleupon.com/su/25wB7b/slowrobot.com/i/39424/

 

 

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A Mother’s Agony’ Over Her Son.You Are Not Alone.


I read a moving article on blogher,by a Mother on her son..

It was agonizing to go through the article.

Why is it the children behave the way they do?

Is it because they take the Parents granted?

Or is it because they are the people who would not hit back because of Love and Affection?

Yes Children raised themselves on their own.

Parents did nothing.

Parents are some thing to be ridiculed  and insulted.

A seed also becomes a tree begetting seeds.

The last line of the Mother was poignant.

‘I don’t know. But please tell me I’m not alone. And that it will be okay.’

Rest Assured, You are not Alone.

Read the Related Story.

I can only quote Shakespeare.

‘How sharper than a serpent’s tooth it is
To have a thankless child.
King Lear (1.4.280)

Story:

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A Mother’s Agony Over Her Son.

I’m going to be honest with you guys. I’m really tired of my son.

The level of disrespect and general level of unhappiness is becoming so distressing that I’m barely functioning as his mother. I don’t want to be around him. I don’t want to do anything for him.

I’ve given this so much thought — maybe too much. What am I doing wrong? Why is he so unhappy? Is he depressed? Do we have a real issue here?

I don’t have the answer. He is generally a normal, happy boy. Until it comes to me or his father. The way he treats us is just…horrifying. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING is ever right. Ever enough.

Why? How did we create this person who disrespects, demands, and blames us for everything? How did he become so… spoiled?

What do you do when all you want to do is scream, and cry, and hit, and run away?

What do you do when it’s always just boiling. Festering.

When the last thing you want to hear is anyone’s voice. Whether disrespecting, whining, asking, needing.

When you can’t for the LIFE of you imagine what else they could possibly need. What you AREN’T doing?

When the more you give them, the more they want. The more they complain. The more they tell you they hate you. What a terrible mother you are.

Who am I raising? And what am I doing wrong. Isn’t the way he treats me a reflection on my motherhood?

I love him so much. This is not the mother I wanted to be. I wanted to be the mother who has long talks, and listens, and encourages moving away from the norm. Using imagination, experimentation. Trial and error.

But I’m not.

I’m the mother who needs strict adherence to the rules. The routine. Do it now the way I want it done before my head blows off.

I don’t know why. Because I work from here, and I need some level of understanding and order? Because I just need people to not be contradictory even for just a little while?

http://www.blogher.com/one-where-i-spill-my-guts-about-my-sons-behavior

Related:

Sons Leave Dad to rot and Die.

Two West Seattle brothers accused of literally leaving their father to rot to death now face felony elderly-abuse charges.

King County prosecutors contend Kenneth and Keith Shaw lived rent-free in their parents’ Alki neighborhood home while their 86-year-old father wasted away, neglected. Police contend the pair of 50-somethings refused to move their parents into a nursing home because they wanted to inherit their parents’ ample savings.

Conditions were so bad when paramedics arrived in November 2010 that a trail of blood followed Kyle Shaw Jr. as the first responders carried him from the home, Seattle Police Det. Suzanne Moore told the court.

 http://www.seattlepi.com/local/article/Sons-accused-after-elderly-West-Seattle-man-rots-4042130.php#ixzz2CNEWvPKQ

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Now Teen Moms Have ‘Facebook Page’


While it is not correct to approve of the Teen Moms, some comments bring forth these Teens‘ commitment to the child.

 

However it is boorish behavior to comment nastily in this page .

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Teen Moms’Facebook page.
Image Credit.Facebook.

Teen mothers have taken to a Facebook page called “I Hate Teen Moms” to fight back against comments they are “sluts” and a “burden on society.”

“I’m not struggling at all because I do my responsibility & I also work hard for it still able to have time for my child more than 8 hours a day. I receive no help at all from anyone,” a woman identifying herself as a 17-year-old teen mother wrote.

The “I Hate Teen Moms” page, which has garnered more than 26,000 “likes,” includes rants and name-calling that the administrator insists are simply “satire and dark humor” that is not violating Facebook’s terms of service or breaking any laws.

The social networking site declined to take down the page because it wanted to protect “expression,” ABC News’ affiliate KOMO-TV in Seattle reported.

“This page is against children having children. That is the main point of this page,” the administrator wrote.

But some say the comments on the page, such as one that says teen moms should be killed with their babies, aren’t doing any good.

“They already have the kid,” 17-year-old Mark Robinson told KOMO. “I don’t think slandering other teenage moms is going to help.”

 

 

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Career Re Entry Especially For Parents


I came across an interesting article in the New York Times , which is quite interesting and relevant for the young to-day.

I am posting the Excerpts with my comments .

Life is changing constantly and our plans for future, which includes career ,marriages and children, assumes only the quantitative aspect of Life.
One can not go by the experiences of others as the experiences of an individual in Life and his/her reaction is unique and these can not be predicted beforehand.
As the assumptions here are hypothetical so are the results.
So when a situation arises in Life, to deal with qualitatively and emotionally,’thinking’ is not a solution.
Feeling and the way we take and manage our feelings , they are important.
A mature approach to Life, which includes career and children, would be to take things as they come and take decisions at that point of time.
A ‘thinking life’ will be miserable..

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Standard Deviation for Personality Score for women.

“Last week, Jennifer Romaniuk wrote the Motherlode with a passionate parental quandary. “I voluntarily walked away from a promising career,” she e-mailed. “I had no idea how long it would take to claw my way back.” The decision to stay home seemed like the right one when she made it. Spending more time with her children would be fun; ending the race between work and child care for her two kids would make life feel less daunting for her and for her fast-tracked husband.

But when the child-care pressures began to ease, Ms. Romaniuk was a different person in a different employment market, overqualified for the entry level but not experienced enough for senior positions, and facing businesses (in her case, law firms) who aren’t taking many chances on employees any more. Re-entry hasn’t just been hard, it has been making her regret the choice she made almost a decade ago.

It’s one peril of all the conversation that surrounds the choices parents make when their children are young (primarily mothers, but fathers as well): when we emerge, we may feel less like one person in the midst of a transition than like some sort of cautionary tale, or icon of the ways policy and culture undermine women and parents. It’s hard to view ourselves with compassion when judgments are more common than understanding. Parents moving in and out of the job search right now aren’t the only ones in transition. The ways we see work and gender and balance are shifting as well. The result is a world in which it’s nearly impossible not to find some way to regret our choices while at the same time being forced to contemplate how “lucky” we were to have the ability to make the choice.

It’s later — when the grumpy, hungry children are older, when the baby is walking herself to school, when the wild immediacy of life has calmed — that the full impact of the change intrudes itself. Even people who loathed their former jobs, or who left the business world planning an eventual shift to art or writing or entrepreneurship, or who are more than happy in an at-home role, can find themselves blindsided. When the baby is tiny, or the children are all under 5, or the special needs demand constant advocacy, we don’t have to find our place in the world — our place has got an iron grip around our knees. It’s only when that grip loosens that the onus is back on us.

And that’s the tough part. How many books have been written to ease us through transitions and change? How many poems and songs and odes and Web sites dedicated to figuring out who we are in the world? Oodles. One transitive moment is not the time to look back and assess — it’s anything but.

So my advice to Jennifer echoes the words of lynninnyAW, and CC Mom: try to take the long view (or maybe, for the moment, don’t take any view at all). It’s not just that “what’s done is done,” but that the way you really feel about your years and choices is colored by your current discouragement.

http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/10/18/career-re-entry-for-the-at-home-parent/

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