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Thank You My Son


Many People often leave the world without thanking those who deserve it.

One of the fundamentals of any religion is gratitude.

Thirukkural says,

எந்நன்றி கொன்றார்க்கும் உய்வுண்டாம் உய்வில்லை
செய்ந்நன்றி கொன்ற மகற்கு.

எந்நன்றி கொன்றார்க்கும் உய்வு உண்டாம் – பெரிய அறங்களைச் சிதைத்தார்க்கும் பாவத்தின் நீங்கும் வாயில் உண்டாம்; செய்ந்நன்றி கொன்ற மகற்கு உய்வு இல்லை – ஒருவன் செய்த நன்றியைச் சிதைத்த மகனுக்கு அஃது இல்லை. (பெரிய அறங்களைச் சிதைத்தலாவது, ஆன்முலை அறுத்தலும், மகளிர் கருவினைச் சிதைத்தலும், பார்ப்பார்த்தப்புதலும் (புறநா.34) முதலிய பாதகங்களைச் செய்தல். இதனால் செய்ந்நன்றி கோறலின் கொடுமை கூறப்பட்டது.).

There is no salvation for those who forget  Gratitude.

Here I do not take the meaning of Parimel Azhakar for the word ‘Makarkku’ meaning son, but the meaning people.

Often in Life we do not adequately thank people.

It is a slur on the Soul.

I am not very demonstrative in showing my emotions, even to my children.

I am of the view that love for the others would be felt by those who are loved .

They need not be vocalized.

But I belong to old school where the term Love was not even uttered in relationships and they were/are a part of the Being.

My father was the least emotional Man I have come across.

He would never express himself.

But Psychologists would say repressed emotions might lead to stress.

But my father was never stressed.

When my paternal grandfather died , his body was lying, my father was sitting an as Easy chair displaying no emotion.

I was around 12 or 13 then.

I remember asking him as to why he was not crying as others, he  replied if some one would guarantee that his father would come back alive , he would definitely cry!

When my mother died, with whom my father has lived for over 50 years, he just woke me up at the dead of the night, told me’

‘Your mother just died, you go to sleep and we shall see in the morning!

But , after the death of my mother, my father who weighed at 130 Kg.came down to 65 in a matter of six months.

During this period he  never spoke a word about my mother.

Probably I belong to those people who never exhibit emotions.

My Daughter in law says that I am the most  unromantic person she has ever seen!

Many of my friend say that I am cold.

Excepting to those whom I am close with.

Notwithstanding this, it is time I record my sentiments, though my son would say sentiments are non sense.

But isn’t Life all about all sentiments?

I may not be expressive but I know that sentiments make one live through the Life.

My son is very sensitive and never expresses himself.

He is more rational, according to him.

But behind this veneer I can detect the undercurrent of affection, love.

He is close to the family, that’s all.

And we are close as Friends.

He has been  taking responsibility of the Family from the time he was 17.

He never interfered.

He let me do things my way, despite some objections by him,

He has made my retired life pleasant by enabling me do things I wanted to do but could not during my working days.

He never lets me worry about anything.

Doing research in Hinduism.

The comfort he gives me gives me time and vigor to do what I want to do.

I have never appreciated him because I believe, as the Sastras say,never praise your children, point out their faults’

Parenting is not for popularity .

It is for their welfare.

I wish I could have done more for my son.

I could not.

I am sorry.

I have never expressed my appreciation of him, though I am proud of him.

As I near my death, I am running 65 years, I would not like to depart without saying how much I thank him and love him.

Thank you Anand, my son.

Wish I had been as good a Father as you have been /are a son!

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Hinduism

High Heels Portable Mirror See through Skirt Ancient India


History would like us o believe that Fashion is something the west introduced in India.

They were supposed t have been introduced after the landing of Vasco da Gama in 1498.

Woman In tight fitting see through Skirt Sculptue. Image.jpg Woman In tight fitting see through Skirt.

The sculptures in the Konark Temple, dedicated to Sun God(750AD has sculptures of women wearing High heeled shoes, carrying portable mirrors and wearing even see through skirts!

Classics belonging to Tamil Sangam period detail the procedure for make up of women, even to the extent of the process of preparing eyeliner.

Sanskrit Literature too talks about the make up used by women of ancient India and the Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana talks in detail the make up used by prostitutes !

Tamil women did not wear upper garment in the ancient days.

But they wore a strip of cloth, tied by a string to cover their upper torso, which resembles a Bra!

Transcript.

Have you ever seen a 750 year old sculpture in an Indian temple carved wearing high heels? One of the most surprising sculptures I’ve ever seen is from Konark Sun Temple in Odisha which was built at least 750 years ago. You can see here that this beautiful woman is carved with high heels on both her legs.

This is absolutely incredible, because European women started to wear high heels or platform shoes for beauty only after 1600 A.D. And this temple was built around 1250 A.D which is 350 years before that time. People from around the world have worn platform shoes for different purposes like horse riding etc., but you can see that this woman is just wearing this to look beautiful while posing for the sculptor.

If you watch carefully, you can even see a strap on the ankle that secures the shoe. Now, compare this with modern day high heels and it is almost an exact match. This is not the only carving in this temple and you can see a few others where the women are proudly showing off their high-heeled footwear.

I have tried to search online if anyone knew about this, but it seems to be an unknown fact that ancient Indian women wore fancy shoes like these. This information is not mentioned anywhere including Wikipedia, so I think this has remained a secret for many centuries.

Does this mean that ancient Indian women were very advanced in terms of fashion? I would say yes, because you can also see quite a few sculptures where the women are shown looking at their personal hand-held mirrors. Again, remember that we are looking at a temple that was built 750 years ago and women must had had personal mirrors in every household at that time. Compare this with a modern day woman who carries a small mirror in her purse. These gadgets are perceived as European inventions but from these carvings, it is quite possible that Indian women also carried portable mirrors many centuries ago. There are many such sculptures of Indian women getting dolled up all over India, so it is fair to say that they focused on their beauty a lot.

But what about their clothes? How fashionable were their clothes in 13th century? Here is a fantastic carving that shows a woman wearing a see-through skirt. This is a skirt because you can see the outline, but we are also able to see the entire shape of her legs. This must have been sculpted by a genius, because it is very hard to carve something like this on a stone to show both the skirt and her legs. You can see other sculptures which show various degrees of transparency in their clothes. For example, this sculpture only partially shows through her legs which implies that a variety of clothes were designed at that time.  I think ancient Indian women probably spent a lot of time primping and thinking about fashion just like modern day women. What do you think?

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Sumangali Prarathanai Hoovili Habba Procedure


Two essential ceremonies are conducted in Brahmin Households in the South.

These are followed as a More than as one sanctioned by Sruthi or even Smriti.

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Pudavai Kalam, Sumangali Prarthanai.

More is a Group of practices followed by a specific group rather than as a matter of personal choice.

These are followed in the South of India, in the States of Tamil Nadu,Karnataka, Kerala and Andhra.

One is Samaradhanai and the other is Sumangali Prarathanai.

Samaradhanai is conducted before or after an auspicious occasion like Ayush Homa, Upanayana, Pilgrimage , Marriage.

This is conducted for any auspicious occasion.

This is conducted either before or after the event .

In Samaradhanai , Family Deity is worshiped at Home and people are fed.

In Sri Vaishnava Sampradaya, this is called Dhadhiyaarathanai.

In those case where people are not sure of their Family Deity, the Pooja is offered to Lord Subrahmanya, in the case of Iyers, and in the case of Sri Vaishnavas, Lord Balaji.

The other ceremony is the Sumangali Prarthanai.

This again is a custom practiced and it does not find a reference in the Sruthi or Smriti.

This function is more of sentiments practiced in the Family.

This has to be performed, as a thumb rule, following the practices of the ancestors.

While it is not advisable to start this practice if it has not been practiced by the ancestors, it is equally essential note that the practice is not to be discontinued if it had been in vogue in the Family.

This is a function meant for women, married with Husband being alive.

This has to be performed once a year for one Gothra and more than once in year should not be conducted.

Tuesdays and Saturdays are to be avoided.

Fridays during the Waxing of the Moon is advisable.

Wednesdays/Thursdays are also permissible.

Ashtami,Navami Thithis are normally avoided.

Panchami is preferable.

In this function the Blessings of the departed Sumangalis, those whose deaths precede the death of their husbands are sought and those who died young before getting married.

Generally, if the daughter is getting married, the event is done before the marriage.

In the case of a son getting married, this is performed after the marriage, with the Daughter-in-law conducting it.

7 ladies and 2 young girls (preferably below the age of 10) are invited to participate in the function, partake the feast and receive thamboolam.

 

The total number of ladies should always be in Odd numbers.

The maximum number of ladies allowed normally is 11.

Minimum is 5 +2.

Advisable that unmarried Girl is about Eight Years as it is believed that she represents the Devi.

 

 

The ladies who sit for the puja represent all the women of the family who are no more alive.

The function is presided over by the elderly lady members of the family.

Usually the kartha is a sumangali from the family.

The gifts to the ladies vary among families and depend on the financial status of the kartha, very similar to the nandi sradham.

The menu for the feast is also very similar.

9 yds saree in silk or cotton is be bought along with a Blouse piece.

The preferable colours are red, yellow and green.

Invite and procedure.

Those to be invited, kumkum, haldi, oil, shikakai, vasanai podi  are to offered at thier Home a day earlier

On the morning of the day, wash the 9 yds saree & a blouse piece with madi (shuddam)after bath & dry.

The Person conducting the Sumangali Prarthana should not take an oil bath.

Kalyana kolam/Rangoli in the entrance, and semman & tie “ mavilai” at Home.

For the pudavai kalam – put a square kolam, (padi kolam), over that keep a palakai & put kolam on that.

In front of that, put a kolam to keep the elai.

On both sides of the Pudavai(Sareee) kalam put kolam for 2 elais , beside for elais facing North, East is preferred next

Fold the dry saree so that the “ pallu” comes on the top.

The corner of the same should face N. Fold the blouse & keep on that.

On the saree keep the following:

A small mirror
Oru kavuli ( 100 no:s) vethalai
Plenty of Kali paakku
Plenty of urundai manjal
Nalangu manjal – (mix of haldi and chunnambu) on a vethalai
12 bananas
10 yds malli, kathambam or roses
Maruthani on a vethalai
A ball of haldi & water on a vethalai
Chullu vella urndai in a vethalai.
A gold chain.

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In a “ kudam” – water to which cardamom powder and  dry ginger powder are added.
One sombu( Vessel for storing water) of panakam
One sombu of neer mor.
Coins to give ladies with vethalai pakku
On the kolam in front of pudavai kalam, put double nuni elai, one overlapping the other.

Nuni should face North.

On other kolams, place elais and Water for Drinking.

Start before or after Rahu kalam.

When the ladies arrive give them manjal mixed with water, to wash their legs, apply  and welcome them.
Then give them chandanam(sandalwood paste), kumkum & flowers & ask them to take their seat near the elais.(plantain Leaf)
Offer all items on menu to the pudavai kalam first & hthen serve clockwise to other elais.
Show “ doopa deepam” to pudavai kalam first & then to all ladies.
The “ conducting person” should take in the hand akshathai & flowers, sprinkle below the pallu of the saree in the pudavai kalam & pay your respects( in mind) to all the deceased sumangalis of the family.
Show karpooram (Camphor) .
Now offer a teaspoon of Water to the pudavai kalam and to all women in their hands.
They are to drink it , start eating.

 

Nobody should get up halfway through.
After everybody finishes eating, again offer a teaspoon of water to thepudavai kalam & move the pallu corner to the North.
One of the daughters in law should eat the pudavai kalam sappadu.
After meals the ladies should be given naeer mor, panakam & chukku vellam.
Then smear haldi on their legs and apply nalangu.(Mehendi)
Offer flowers, maruthani, chandanam & kumkum.
In a plate keep lot of vethalai, pakku, gundu manjal, coconut, kumkum bharani, comb, mirro, coin, 2 bananas, blouse piece – keep in their paLLU.
Give akshathai in their hand, do namaskaram ,request them to Bless you.

After the person who conducts has eaten, she must give the saree to a poor woman who also is asked to eat.

The custom varies from family to family.

Best procedure is to get Family Elders’ advice .

Menu.

Paruppupayasam

 Thayirpachadi

 Vella pachadi.

vazakkai curry.

avarai or kothavarai curry.

Poosani Kootu .

Pitlai(Paakalkai) .

Mor kuzambu .

Thani kootu.

Kadalai paruppu sugar kosemalli .

Paasiparuppu savoury kosemalli .

Coriander thogayal .

Ginger, mango pickle.

Curry leaf thogayal.

Rasam .

Banana.

Mango.

Jackfruit .

Ulundu Vadai .

Sojji appam .

Thengai sadam.

Lemon rice .

Kalathukku paruppu .

Ghee .

Curds.

Honey.

No Appalam or Vadams.

Ref.

http://kramans.blogspot.in/

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Mass Production Building Materials Cosmetics Vedic Period


 

While I have been writing articles on the advanced technologies developed by the ancient Indians,especially in the Vedic Times, I was curious to find out how they produced the various things they needed to sustain such a large civilization

Look at what we come to know of the Life of the Vedic people from the Sarasvati Civilization.

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“Granary,” a massive building with solid brick foundations with sockets for a wooden super structure and doorways.

 

Town Planning: The excavations of the ruins showed a remarkable skill in town planning. The main streets and roads were set in a line, sometimes running straight for a mile, and were varying in width from 4 meters to 10 meters. Most of these roads and streets were paved with fire brunt bricks. On the either side of the street stood houses of various sizes which did not protrude into the streets. The main streets intersected at right angles, dividing the city into squares or rectangular blocks each of which was divided length wise and cross wise by lanes. Some buildings had a lamp post and a well. There was an elaborate drainage system which emptied into the river.

The Drainage System: The Drainage System of the Indus Valley Civilization was far advanced. The drains were covered with slabs. Water flowed from houses into the street drains. The street drains had manholes at regular intervals. Housewives were expected to use pits in which heavier part of the rubbish will settle down while only sewerage water was allowed to drain off. All soak pits and drains were occasionally cleaned by workmen. In every house there was a well-constructed sink, and water flowed from the sink into the underground sewers in the streets. This elaborate drainage system shows that the Indus Valley people were fully conversant with the principles of health and sanitation.

Houses: The houses were of different sizes varying from a palatial building to one with two small rooms. The houses had a well, a bathroom, and a covered drain connected to the drain in the street. The buildings were made of burnt bricks, which have been preserved even to this day. Sun-dried bricks were used for the foundation of the buildings and the roofs were flat and made of wood. The special feature of the houses was that rooms were built around an open courtyard. Some houses were double storied. Some buildings had pillared halls; some of them measured 24 square meters. It is assumed that there also must have been palaces, temples or municipal halls.

Great Bath: One of the largest buildings was the Great Bath measuring 180 feet by 108 feet. The bathing pool, 39 feet long, 28 feet wide and 8 feet deep was in the center of the quadrangle, surrounded with verandahs, rooms and galleries. A flight of steps led to the pool. The pool could be filled and emptied by means of a vaulted culvert, 6 feet and 6 inches high. The walls of the pool were made of burnt bricks laid on edge, which made the pool watertight. The pool was filled with water from a large well, situated in the same complex. Periodic cleaning of the pool was done by draining off the used water into a big drain. The Great Bath building had six entrances. The Great Bath reflected the engineering genius of those ancient days.

Great Granary: Another large building in the city was the Great Granary which was made about 45 meters long and 15 meters wide. It was meant to store food grains. It had lines of circular brick platforms for pounding grain. There were barrack like quarters for workmen. The granary also had smaller halls and corridors.

 

Food: Specimens of wheat and barley show that they were cultivated in that region. Rice was also probably grown. There is evidence to show that date palms were grown in the area. Besides these, the diet of the people consisted of fruits, vegetables, fish, milk and meat of animals i.e. beef, mutton and poultry.

Dress: From the sculptured figures it can be seen that the dress of men and women consisted of two pieces of cloth-one resembling a dhoti, covering the lower part, and the other worn over the left shoulder and under the right arm. Men had long hair designed differently. Women wore a fan shaped head dress covering there hair. The discovery of a large number of spindles showed that they knew weaving and spinning. Similarly it was concluded, by the discovery of needles and buttons, that the people of this age knew the art of stitching.

Ornaments: Both men and women wore ornaments made of gold, silver, copper and other metals. Men wore necklaces, finger rings and armlets of various designs and shapes. The women wore a head dress, ear rings, bangles, girdles, bracelets and anklets. Rich people wore expensive ornaments made of gold while the poor had ornaments made of shell, bone or copper.

Cosmetics: The ladies of Mohen-jo-daro were not lagging behind in styles as used by the ladies of the present day, when it came to the use of cosmetics and the attainment of beauty. Materials made of ivory and metal for holding and applying cosmetics prove that they knew the use of face paint and collyrium. Bronze oval mirrors, ivory combs of various shapes, even small dressing tables, have been found at Mohen-jo-daro and other sites. Women tied the hair into a bun and used hair pins made of ivory. Toilet jars, found at Mohen-jo-daro, show that women took interest in cosmetics.

Furniture and Utensils: The furniture and utensils found at Mohen-jo-daro show a high degree of civilization because of their variety in kind and design. The beautifully painted pottery, numerous vessels for the kitchen, chairs and beds made of wood, lamps of different material, toys for children, marbles, balls and dice, indicate what people manufactured in those days.

Conveyance A copper specimen found at Harappa resembles the modern Ekka (cart) with a top-cover. Bullock carts with or without the roof was the chief means of conveyance.

Amusements and Recreation: The Indus Valley people liked more of indoor games than outdoor amusements. They were fond of gambling and playing dice. Dancing and singing were considered great arts. Boys played with toys made of terracotta, while girls played with dolls.

This lifestyle requires Mass production.

I have been able to find references about the Mass production of some items.

I am searching for further evidence for other items.

The people of the IVC manufactured bricks whose dimensions were in the proportion 4:2:1, considered favorable for the stability of a brick structure. They used a standardized system of weights based on the ratios: 1/20, 1/10, 1/5, 1/2, 1, 2, 5, 10, 20, 50, 100, 200, and 500, with the unit weight equaling approximately 28 grams (and approximately equal to the English ounce or Greek uncia). They mass-produced weights in regular geometrical shapes, which included hexahedra, barrels, cones, and cylinders, thereby demonstrating knowledge of basicgeometry.[20]

The inhabitants of Indus civilization also tried to standardize measurement of length to a high degree of accuracy. They designed a ruler—theMohenjo-daro ruler—whose unit of length (approximately 1.32 inches or 3.4 centimetres) was divided into ten equal parts. Bricks manufactured in ancient Mohenjo-daro often had dimensions that were integral multiples of this unit of length.[21][22]

Mehrgarh, a Neolithic IVC site, provides the earliest known evidence for in vivo drilling of human teeth, with recovered samples dated to 7000-5500 BCE.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_science_in_early_cultures#India

 Indus Sarasvathi Civilizaton

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Tamils

Why Love Happens Tamil Answers


Recently I came across a question in a Facebook Community.

‘Why does Love happen’?

People may brush it aside as silly but it needs an answer.

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Lovers Portrayed ina temple in Tamil Nadu

I did not see any relevant answer to the question.

In life we see people falling in Love, some of them,if succesful’ lead a Happy married Life

Even among those successful in getting married, the unhappiness  after marriage rate is high.

I am speaking of Love and not what is now portrayed as a convenient arrangement for  one’ security.

Now I find whether it be a boy or a Girl,  contrary to what many think, do not fall in Love without deliberation.

They check the financial position, the responsibilities one has to bear and decide to fall in Love.

In my opinion this is not Love.

This is a deliberate arrangement to ensure smooth Life, whether that myth remains through out Life is another matter.

Love is a passion that surges forward at a specific point for no known reason.

Shakespeare put it,

‘Whoever loved that loved not at first sight’

How and why does this Love happen?

I checked Tamil literature for Tamil classical literature is a reflection of ancient Tamil life and offers solution to any aspect of Life.

Tamil language has a separate grammar called Kalaviyal, they have treated Life as a part of language evolution.

While marriage as an institution was  given its due, Tamils were practical in assigning a place for love and have laid certain rules for Love!

This is Called Kalaviyal,களவியல்,  Kalavu,one of its meaning, is on the Sly.

I shall be posting on this later.

What does Tamil say on Love happening?

Tamil acknowledges that neither marital status nor finanicial one has anything to do with it.

It happens to all at any age.

The value judgement on this is a different matter,

There are rules even for this.

The first available book on Tamil Grammar says thus,

 

““ஒன்றே வேறே என்றிருபால் வயின்
ஒன்றி யுயர்ந்த பால தாணையின்
ஒத்த கிழவனும் கிழத்தியும் காண்ப
மிக்கோ னாயினும் கடிவரை யின்றே” (களவியல் – 2)’ Tolkaapiyam.

Love between a Man and a woman happens because of…’Fate”

Note that Tolkaapiyam is careful in saying ‘between Aman and woman,implying that there were other relationships as well.

I tend to agree that Love, Marriage, Children and Profession is the handiwork of Fate, our protestations notwithstanding.

Sanatan Dharam says much the same.

 

 

 

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