Asshada Practices Husband Wife No Sanction Hinduism


In a highly personalised Religion, sometimes misconceptions creep in.

Though Hinduism insists that one has to study the Vedas, the Scripture of Hindus, people often do not do so, confused as they are with the dictum that Guru should be obeyed.

The problem is that Guru is different from Acharya, Upadhyaya.

For Details read my article Guru Acharya Upadhyaya.

Guru is one who instinctively understands your spiritual needs and guides and their instructions will never run contrary to Vedas, Sruthi.

In such cases where Gurus instructions are at variance with Vedas, Veda should be followed.

On the other hand, Upadhyayas and Acharyas do not have as nuch the authority as the Guru.

As such their instructions, if they run counter to Vedas are to be ignored.

Over a period of years people have not studied Vedas nor many know about the Smritis.

Smriti is a code of conduct which is followed over a period of Time.

Even Smritis if they run contrary to Vedas, are to ignored.

For Vaidikas, Vedas are the Sole Authority.

Many of us follow what purohit says without bothering to check either Sruthi or Smriti.

Result is that many irrelevant practices not found in Vedas , Smritis are followed.

I have been writing on some of these practices which do more harm to Hinduism than Atheists.

I have received the following query on Ashada Maasa, Adi in Tamil.

‘Dear Sir Good Morning. I have been reading your Blog since long time and the information u have been sharing is really incredible. Today, I have a question where I am not getting any exact answers ..hope u can clarify it for me.
This is Regarding the AAshada Masam as I got newly married, the customs followed during this month was implied on me as well but the questions unanswered or partially answered.

1. Why do Mother-In Law and Daughter inlaw should not walk in the same main door or stay together.
2. Why Husband and wife should not stay together.
3. Incase if the girl gets conceived during the aashada maasam will there be a negative effect on the child or is there any negetive effect on the mother during delivery time or so.’

My answer.

All these points have no sanctions by Sruthi or Smriti and hence may be ignored.

These seem to have crept in as Mores/ practices in Communities.

There is also an effort to justify the separation of couples in Aashada, arguing that if the couple were to be together and if the woman conceives in Aashada, she would deliver in Summer .

This is effort to justify something which is not needed.

The premises for the practice is hypothetical.

And Hinduism does not intrude in to private affairs unnecessarily.

And wherever it needs to intervene in personal Life it comes out clearly with no ambiguities.

So one need not try to promote Hinduism by saying things which Hinduism does not.

Smash Coconuts Ganesha Garuda Retrieve Lost Objects


I spend about a couple of days at my friend’s house for a couple of days, once in to months, now it has become once a month.

We have been close friends for the past 45 years.

During my recent visit his wife has misplaced Locker keys and was searching for it frantically.

I told her to take a vow to Lord Ganesha that she would smash a Coconut in His temple and she would get   the keys back.

As I have just returned from their Home, I am yet to know whether she got back the Key.

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Diamond studded Ganesha with Vaishva Mark on the forehead. Image Credit. http://mylordganesha.com/category/ganesh-festival-in-tamilnadu/ganesh-festival-in-chennai/ Image credit

The practice of taking a vow to smash a Coconut, this is different  from breaking the Coconut in the Temple, here the Coconut is thrown at a Stone in the Temple in front of the Idol, in many Temples there are enclosures for this and the broken pieces are picked up by the people around.

 

This custom has been there in most of the Tamil Brahmin Homes.

 

This is not restricted to retrieving the lost objects alone,

 

This practice is followed for success in any endeavour or for successful completion of any major event like Marriage and even for a safe journey.

My mother used to follow this custom so regularly I use to remark that In Lord Shiva‘s House every one will suffer from dsentery because of the Number of Coconuts e break for Ganesha.!(Those ho collect the smashed pieces either eat them ra and many use this for preparing Coconut Chutney)

May be it is irrational  to perform this, but this works for us, and for many more irrational people like me,

So long something works for me it is fine.

I do not look into the rationality behind it.

After all Life itself is irrational.

We use the same technic with Garuda for additional support!