Father is an unrecognized and unacknowledged species.
None deems it fit to give credit to Father.
Father is perceived to be tough , uncompromising disciplinarian who takes a sadistic pleasure while bringing up children.
He is generally termed as irresponsible and but for the Mother , children would not be what they are.
Mother understands and accommodates but a Father ,
Father is one who remains in the background, taking all the blame, his intention being the welfare of the children, not popularity.
He sacrifices without being aware of it.
But never expresses.
Nor does he seek assurances from children that they love him.
When it is time for children to be independent he does not demur.
Nor does he interfere in his children’s relationship with their Spouses.
Nor does he expect any thing from his children’s Spouses.
He is not free with his children’ s money, he is more careful with it.
When the child is in the womb, he might not carry the child,
Carries in the Heart.
When the child is ill he does not panic, but attends to it sans hysterics.
When the child does not get himself established in Life , he does not express it, but remains more hurt than what he would have been, had he not established himself.
He is proud when his children turn out better than him.
‘ The benefit which a father should confer on his son is to give him precedence in the assembly of the learned.’
தந்தை மகற்காற்று நன்றி அவையத்து
முந்தி இருப்பச் செயல்.
Thirukkural by Thiruvalluvar.
Happy Fathers Day.
I recently watched the popular talk show on StarVijay TV with participation from parents,teachers and students.
And what the teachers see as good and how do they identify the Good Student in general and a Good man in particular.
To my shock none of them have been able to specify a single attribute that characterizes a good Man.
The yard stick to determine One who is Good seems to be,
1.Good education with top rank.
2.Settling well in Life.
3,Respect to elders.
5.Good communication skills.
7.Being open with parents in sharing their personal experiences including Love affairs.
None of them have been able to specify a single Human value, excepting one man who said ‘Love others’, that makes a Good man or woman.
Truthfulness, Honesty,Integrity,Righteousness, Concern for others,Helping others,flexibility in handling Life’s problems…
Where are we heading?
Is Life all about getting a Rank and settling (?) in Life with self-centered existence?
Is the anchor rightly pointed out, all the people in the show indicated what they do not want to see in Man or woman, implying that they have a Clear concept of what is bad and none at all about what is Good!
When you do not know what Good is how do you set standards for your children?
I recall the statement by Henri Bosanquet on the question of defining what Good is,
‘Just as you can not explain what the color of yellow is to one who is born Color Blind, you can not explain what Good is to one who has never done anything Good in Life”
I consider this as the best definition.
And what defines Bad?
‘Doing things in Public which you would be ashamed of doing it in Private”
Well we from the land of Bharat are not short of Dharma Sastras or Moral literature.
Let us look a simple one from Tamil, Athichoodi by Avvaiyar.
அறம் செய விரும்பு
Intend to do right deeds
Anger will be cooled off,Cool your Anger
Give to others what you can
Do not stop, discourage others when they attempt to help others
Never be boastful of your possession
Never loose enthusiasm
எண் எழுத்து இகழேல்
Learn the Three R’s
Never accept Alms
Feed others before you eat
Move with world, act in harmony with the others.
Never give up learning
Never short change in Business
The fine point is that the first letter of all these Truisms start with the Tamil Alphabets in order.
There is more.
One may learn this and pass on to children instead of Jack and Jill, Baba Black Sheep, Rain rain go Away in country where the Climate is Hot and there is dearth of rains.
Those who are after crass materialism, justifying the craze for Money and creature comforts, with the excuse of citing ‘cost of living,those who say this
themselves are not convinced of this), must watch these Videos of Babies being left to the care of the Maids.
I do not wan to add any comment as the videos are enough and for more information on these and parenting, check my posts on parenting/lifestyle.
” A baby-sitter was caught on the CCTV torturing an 11-month-old boy in Narhe on May 7.
The Dattawadi police on Tuesday arrested Baby Laxman Patole, 42, a resident of Ramtekdi in Hadapsar, following a complaint lodged by the parents, who work in a BPO.
“My wife and I have to work night shifts. So, to look after our son we hired Patole from a city-based agency about seven days before the incident,” the boy’s father told Times of India. Patole was clearly told about her working hours. “We also told her that our flat is under CCTV surveillance and that she should remain alert,” he said.
The parents, however, realized the baby was not happy with Patole. “He would cry aloud when we left for work. This made us suspicious, so we checked the CCTV footage. We were shocked. On the night of May 7, my son was crying as he could not sleep. Patole switched off the light and also pulled the curtains. She then slapped my son. When he cried loudly, she threw him on the bean bag and flung him holding his hands,” the father said.
Patole was not aware that the CCTV cameras had night-vision facility.
Vedas, the unwritten Scripture of The Hindus, do not stop with dealing the theory of God ,Reality.
Though it calls the day-to-day knowledge as transient and not enough to elevate the Human beings, it does not ridicule the Sciences or the practical Life.
“Unto the Heaven be Peace, Unto the Sky and the Earth be Peace,
Peace be unto the Water, Unto the Herbs and Trees be Peace,
Unto all the Gods be Peace, Unto Brahma and unto All be Peace.
And may We realize that Peace.
Om Peace Peace Peace”
It deals with Mathematics, Physics, Chemistry,Astronomy,Astrophysics,Metallurgy,Nano Technology,Biology,Molecular Biology and the like, it deals
The Atharva Veda uses the terms ‘Vritavrita, Abhivarah,Avritah,Parivrita’
The Atharva Veda describes /defines Environment thus. ‘Chandamsi’
‘Wise utilize three elements variously which are varied, visible and
full of qualities. These are water, air and plants or herbs. They exist in
the world from the very beginning. They are called as Chandansi
meaning ‘coverings available everywhere.’
The Environment listed as Five Essentials are,
Earth,Water,Fire,Air and Ether,
These are further classified and based on their qualities and functions.
There are five senses of perception – hearing, touch, sight, taste and smell, and there are the five tanmatras corresponding to the five sense perceptions and five sense-organs.
The tanmatras combine and re-combine in different ways to produce the gross elements – earth, water, fire, air and ether, which make up the gross universe perceived by the senses
The senses play their part by coming into contact with the objects, and carry impressions of them to the manas which receives and arranges them into a precept.
The Elements in The Universe are the same as our Body.
They are related to the Universe and are comprehended by these Tanmatras through the sense organs, with the Five Elements of Nature .
Nature is maintaining a status of balance between and among these constituents or elements and living creatures as well as these Elements.
Any slight disturbance will result in upsetting Nature,
This natural order of things, is called ‘Rta’, meaning “Natural order of things,Rhythm’.
The Taittriya declares in the Shanthi Mantra, which is to be recited at the conclusion of every worship.
In these hymns we find
prayers for certain natural elements such as air, water, earth,
sun, rain, dawn etc. The glorious brightness of the sun, the blaze
of the sacrificial fire, the sweep of the rain-storm across the skies,
the recurrence of the dawn, the steady currents of the winds, the
violence of the tropical storm and other such natural energies,
fundamental activities or aspects are glorified and personified
as divinities (Devata). The interaction with nature resulted in
appreciation and prayer but, indeed, after a good deal of
observation. Attributes assigned to deities fit in their natural forms
and activities, as Soma is green, fire is bright, air is fast moving
and sun is dispenser of darkness. The characteristics of these
forces described in the verses prove that Vedic seers were masters
of natural science.
In Vedic view, this world consists of Agni i.e., fire or heat and
Soma i.e. water.
12 Sun (Surya) is the soul of all which is moving
and also of which is not moving.13 Indra is most powerful god
who kills Vritra, the symbol of cloud to free waters. Vritra means
one who covers and is derived from the root vri, to cover. R.R.M.
Roy opines that the main force of expansion in the Vedic
cosmology is Indra, and his chief adversary, the main force of
contraction, is Vritra.
14 Maruts are Indra’s associates. Vedic seers
pray boldly to these natural forces and aspects for bestowing
plenty and prosperity on them. Aditi is praised as Devamata,
the mother of all natural energies and she symbolizes the Nature.
A famous geologist S.R.N. Murthy has written on the earth
sciences in the Vedas. He has somehow a different opinion about
Vedic gods and hence states, ‘the natural geological aspects have
been described as Indra, Agni, Vayu, Varun, Usas etc.”
The primary Deity in the Vedas in Agni and it is classified into Thirteen divisions/types.
Agni is innumerable because of its presence in each and every dhatu paramanu (cell) of the body. But, enumeration of the number of Agnis varies in various classical Ayurvedic texts, as shown below
Charaka has mentioned about 13 Agnis. Jatharagni – 1, Bhutagni – 5, Dhatvagni – 7 (Ch.Chi.15/38).
According to Acharya Sushruta, five types of Agnis are illustrated, viz. Pachakagni, Ranjakagni, Alochakagni, Sadhakagni and Bhrajakagni. However, there is an indirect reference of fiveBhutagnis underlying in the brief description made to the transformation of food stuff. (Sh.Su.21/10.)
Vagbhata has described different types Agni, viz. – Bhutagnis – 5,– Dhatvagnis – 7, –Dhoshagni – 3 and– Malagni – 3.
Sharangadhara has recognized five pittas only (Pachak, Bhrajak, Ranjak, Alochaka andSadhak) (Sha.Sa.Pu.Kh.-5/32).
Bhavamishra has followed Acharya Charaka and Vagbhata (Bh.Pu.Kh.-3/169,180).
Agni has been divided into 13 types according to the function and site of action. These are:
Jatharagni – one Agni present in the stomach and duodenum.
Bhutagni – five Agni from five basic elements.
Dhatwagni – seven Agni present, one in each of the seven dhatus.
3.Wells and Canals(Kantirmah)
The information is in abundance.
Please read my post ‘The Place of Water in Hinduism’