Feeling weak, faint, or dizzy
Tingling or numbness in the hands and fingers
Sense of terror, or impending doom or death
Feeling sweaty or having chills
Feeling a loss of control
This happens when the parents cross fifty and children start earning or get married,whether the son stays with the parents or not.
Recently I had a call on this from a son on this.
He was worried about this.
Each of the parents have complained about the other.
The Boy wanted to solve the issue
The Boy is over 35 and the parents in their sixties.
What has been an experience becomes nothing more than a fading memory.
I do not get involved, though some of these incidents appeared ,at that time, to affect my life radically.
On hindsight it does not seem so mentally.
Another curious fact is that most insignificant things get recalled but not what I thought was very important.
Like a game played on the street in childhood, a meal with a stranger in a Train, the hotel where I stayed in a town…..
One falls in Love.
And one does not like somebody.
One likes some things in Life, be it food or dress.
Except in few a cases they are all learned and the decision taken by others whom one learns from, are copied.
Most of the time in Life we react, are not proactive.
We become proactive when we are not personally involved.
When there are multiple choices available for a problem, most of the time, we are aware of only some alternatives, not all of them.
Age can not wither her, nor custom stale her infinite variety,
Other women cloy the appetites they feed,
She makes most hungry where she most satisfies’ Shakespeare in Antony and Cleopatra.
When I was asked to the late Poet Kannadasan whether he can produce some of the great lines he had penned again, he replied No.
He said he wrote as the mood set in and he can not even remember how he got around to producing these lines agin.
Psychologists try to explain these things in a lot of ways.