Overcoming Panic Attack Mantras


Recently I had a call from a youngster settled abroad that he had a series of Panic Attack and is undergoing psychiatric treatment.

Though he has been under treatment for about six months now he fears that he might get the Panic attack any time.

He was scared out of his wits and wanted me to suggest ways to tide over this.

I had suggested some mantras and after following them for four days he called in to say that he has recovered and he is no longer afraid.

Before I proceed on the Mantras let me touch upon what a panic attack is and the symptoms associated with it.

Panic settles in suddenly when one feels jittery, scared of every thing , expecting to die any moment.

This feeling is accompanied by palpitation, heavy sweating, eyes become unfocused and a feeling that he may lose his balance and fall down.

In general these attacks happen when one is alone.

This happens more to people who are away from home especially abroad.

Young people lured by western lifestyle and the money offered settle abroad and in most cases they are unmarried.

They have a vague understanding of the Lifestyle abroad and do not appreciate that your upbringing is rooted in your culture and sudden change in the lifestyle results in disorientation in value systems of which one is unaware.

Scooped in a foreign environment with no close relatives to interact Mind goes into depression.

One of the features of the Mind when alone is that it recalls and mulls over the unhappy moments of your past and it never dwells on happier moments one has gone through.

This leads to despondency and one tries to ward off this by watching movies engage in participating in Social media and physical exercise.

But these do not address the issue.

You seem to get relief for the period during which you are engaged in these activities.

Once these are over you revert to your depression and in extreme cases Panic attack.

The issue is to do with mental strength and resilience.

One must remember that being with people is a basic instinct called Gregariousness.

Brushing it aside will harm the psyche.

So be near to your family or be in communication with them regularly.

  1. Those who have settled abroad and are away from home, get married.
  2. Do not think constantly of your career and money.Life is more than money and carrer. It is about human relationships and warmth and life is a compromise. Compromising is not a sign of weakness. It is strength.  It helps you to adapt and survive. Happiness is strength and happiness is a state of mind.  It does not lie outside you. The secret to happiness is contentment.
  3. Never compare your self with the others.If you must you compare with the less fortunate And remember things could be worse
  4. Never have high ambitions. While we can identify ambitions we can never be honest about our capabilities. We normally set goals incompatible with our abilities.
  5. So do not plan long term goal for your Life. Life is not guaranteed for the next second.
  6. Do not plan for the instruments of happiness, like money, name and fame but for good health food and good sleep.
  7. Do not brood over the past.
  8. Do not set dead lines but do your best.

Now chant the following mantras, the first one 18 times a day and one of the mantras mentioned in my article  here.

Sarwas swaroope sarve sarva dukka nivarini

Bayepathrahine Devi Durge Devi Namosthuthe.

Procedure is explained in the article.

https://ramanan50.wordpress.com/2014/05/10/mantra-for-fear-of-death-abhitistava/

“Panic Attack.

Panic attacks involve sudden feelings of terror that strike without warning. These episodes can occur at any time, even during sleep. People experiencing a panic attack may believe they are having a heart attack or they are dying or going crazy. The fear and terror that a person experiences during a panic attack are not in proportion to the true situation and may be unrelated to what is happening around them.

Symptoms,

  • “Racing” heart
  • Feeling weak, faint, or dizzy
  • Tingling or numbness in the hands and fingers
  • Sense of terror, or impending doom or death
  • Feeling sweaty or having chills
  • Chest pains
  • Breathing difficulties
  • Feeling a loss of control

Panic attacks are generally brief, lasting less than 10 minutes, although some of the symptoms may persist for a longer time. People who have had one panic attack are at greater risk for having subsequent panic attacks than those who have never experienced a panic attack. When the attacks occur repeatedly, and there is worry about having more episodes, a person is considered to have a condition known as panic disorder.

People with panic disorder may be extremely anxious and fearful, since they are unable to predict when the next episode will occur. Panic disorder is fairly common and affects about 6 million adults in the U.S. Women are twice as likely as men to develop the condition, and its symptoms usually begin in early adulthood

It is not clear what causes panic disorder. In many people who have the biological vulnerability to panic attacks, they may develop in association with major life changes (such as getting married, having a child, starting a first job, etc.) and major lifestyle stressors. There is also some evidence that suggests that the tendency to develop panic disorder may run in families. People who suffer from panic disorder are also more likely than others to suffer from depression, attempt suicide, or to abuse alcohol or drugs.

Fortunately, panic disorder is a treatable condition. Psychotherapy and medications have both been used, either singly or in combination, for successful treatment of panic disorder. If medication is necessary, your doctor may prescribe anti-anxiety medications, certain antidepressants or sometimes certain anti convulsant drugs that also have anti-anxiety properties, or a class of heart medications known as beta-blockers to help prevent or control the episodes in panic disorder.”

Citation and Reference

WebMD

Image credit.

http://therenegadepharmacist.com/natural-remedy-for-panic-attacks/

 

Parents Complaints To Children


There comes a stage when the parents start complaining to their children about each other, instead of children complaining about siblings.

 

Either the wife or the husband complains to the daughter or son.

 

This happens when the parents cross fifty and children start earning or get married,whether the son stays with the parents or not.

 

 

Recently I had a call on this from a son, settled abroad,on this.

 

He was worried about this.

 

Each of the parents have complained about the other.

 

The Boy wanted to solve the issue

 

The Boy is over 35 and the parents in their sixties.

 

He told me he wanted to talk to them separately and set the things right.

 

He sought my advise.

 

My answer was to do nothing of the sort.

 

Any marital relationship is bound have disagreements.

 

One is dissatisfied with the other.

 

Matured ones know to leave the disagreements and proceed as if nothing has happened, provided the grouse is not about genuine harassment or involving adultery.

 

But as one grows old,th children grown up, the parents seek solace in their children.

 

They do not wish to let  their affairs known to outside the family.

 

They need an out let to share their feelings.

 

That’s all and nothing more even though they may not admit it.

 

Talking to grown up children who are understanding enough reduces tension and gives a feeling that there is someone who listens to problems sympathetically and consoles.

 

What the children need to do is to  listen to the issue or complaints as one would to a close friend and emphasize with them, with out making an adverse comment about the other parent.

 

Talk to them,console them and assure them that you shall talk to the other party and resolve.

 

But do not talk to the other party on this.

 

This approach, I have seen, has helped a lot of people.

 

These things shall pass in Life.

 

Most of the complications in Life arise out of the mistaken notion that all problems can be solved by active participation.

 

And undue importance given to regular natural incidents.

 

One should be mature enough to understand what a serious problem is.

 

Some of these quick fixes for imagined problems arise out of blindly following western thought s about solving problems.

 

In most cases the cure turns out worse than the disease.

 

 

Incidents Experience Impressions Life


On reflection I find some thing in Life to be curious and puzzling.

 

Recently I went to meet two class mates of mine who studied with me from class 1 to SSLC  (+2 Now)

 

One is a Man and another is a lady.

 

 

He studied with me till I we completed the SSLC and she studied with us till Fourth standard.

 

Later she went Girls’ section in our school.

 

Those who are in touch with school friends, especially with whom they have bonded from early childhood will know the special bond with them despite time and distance, when they meet with.

 

Of course we have been in touch with each other for the past six years in Bangalore.

 

There was a heated argument between my friends as to till which class we studied together.

 

She declared that we studied together till 4 standard and my other friend claimed that we did not study in the same class/section at all.

 

The argument heated up and my friend’s’ husband joined the discussion and confirmed we studied together in the same class till fourth standard.

 

He also studied in the same school and three years senior to us.

 

They wanted me to mediate as I am reputed to have a good memory.

 

I told them,

 

” I can remember that we studied together till 4 class and boys were shifted to another section.

 

The confusing thing is that I remember my friend’s (woman in discussion) face and another girl, whose face I can not recollect(?), but know she was good-looking(!)”

 

This post is not about what went on with us friends on this issue.

 

But what happens to us and our Life’s experiences over a period of time.

 

I remember some one to be pretty without recollecting her face( my friend gave her name).

 

Similarly I remember some of the most painful moments in my Life like my mother’s death, first wife’s death,death of my brother’s grand child in its mother’s hand, which I took away from her hands to prevent my brother’s daughter feeling sad about the fact the child had died in her hands;

 

I recall my most pleasant moments in my career but not the worst problems.

 

Even the pain I recall has dimmed but at times I am overtaken by it.

 

But one thing is clear.

 

My reaction to these issues, now, is not very passionate .

 

They pass through my mind’s eye as  fleeting images.

 

I am not affected by them.

 

What is an incident becomes an experience when we react.

 

We become passionate, disturbed,anxious and worry so much as if Life would end there.

 

It does not seem to be so.

 

What has been an experience becomes nothing more than a fading memory.

 

I do not get involved, though some of these incidents appeared ,at that time, to affect my life radically.

 

On hindsight it does not seem so mentally.

 

Another curious fact is that most insignificant things get recalled but not what I thought was very important.

 

Like a game played on the street in childhood, a meal with a stranger in a Train, the hotel where I stayed in a town…..

 

Is Life all but a series of fleeting impressions?

 

Seems so, to me.

 

I shall be posing on what Hinduism and Buddhism say on this at the philosophical level.

 

Decisions Are They Rational Emotional


With so much talk about Decision Making and specialists (?) who advise and conduct seminars , I though about this a bit.

 

 

An infant looks to its Mother for any support.

 

Infants just follow you right from stepping aside to walking, eating.

 

It decides to follow some of your mannerism(those with whom it spends most of its time).

 

Till some time.

 

One falls in Love.

 

And one does not like somebody.

 

One likes some things in Life, be it food or dress.

 

We take decisions , in these cases without knowing the reasons.

 

Most of the time in Life we react, are not proactive.

 

We become proactive when we are not personally involved.

 

When there are multiple choices available for a problem, most of the time, we are aware of only some alternatives, not all of them.

 

That is why the persons who speak about decision-making state carefully  one should take decisions with the available data.

 

The fact that the choice themselves are limited ensures that the decisions you  take are not totally free.

 

Please read my post ‘Choice’

 

There is this aspect of gut instinct.

 

Decision based on this normally does not disappoint you.

 

How and Why?

 

I have noticed decision-making in personal lives.

 

You like to buy a car, love a girl or Boy,want to go abroad.

 

 

In the last one,here is some deliberation.

 

In all others, you have already decided to your course of action.

 

But you want to justify it , to others as much as to yourself.

 

Reasoning, to me seems to be, an explanation not the Cause.

 

Lord Krishna explains this Gunathraya Vibhagayoga in Bhagavad Gita Chapter 14.

 

On hind sight I wish I could have taken them.

The cost?

I do not know.

But what forced me to choose one in place of another, may be circumstances, but still?

I had chosen what I thought I liked.

In retrospect, I find it could have been otherwise.

May be after couple of years  or even a days later I might find my present choice mentioned here are incorrect!”

https://ramanan50.wordpress.com/2013/07/10/choices-and-life/

 

We Express Better Than We Know Why


Recently my close friend told me of some of his observations on what they speak about subjects, at time, in detail to the astonishment of others, including the Speaker.

He added further.

Kannadasan

Kannadasan (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Couple of years back some one asked me a question on Hinduism, especially about Advaita.

You know that I do not know much about it.

But I spoke for about twenty minutes in detail and every one was surprised.

Funny thing is I was astonished myself.

Even to-day I do not know how I spoke.

Today I can not speak a ew lines about my self.

How and why?

Coming to the present, on some mornings (around 5am), when I do not get sleep , I get a lot of ideas which I am sure are quite novel and I am sure I do not know the subject nor have I read anything on the subject before.

Can you tell me why?”

He is not a very pious a man but has religious orientation like most of us.

I had given a serious thought about this.

I have seen these instances in many people including me.

Many times I have spoken on subjects in detail with authentic references  though I had not prepared on the subject.

I have also noticed , when I lecture on a subject, I normally prepare thoroughly.

But when I reach the Podium, I deviate from the prepared points(which I keep in mind, never in on paper as this distracts me), I speak fluently better than I had prepared.

Come to think of it, great compositions happen this way.

( I am not comparing myself with any of these)

Greatest lines in literature (in my view).

Age can not wither her, nor custom stale her infinite variety,

Other women cloy the appetites they feed,

She makes most hungry where she most satisfies’ – Shakespeare in Antony and Cleopatra.

Or Kalidasa in Kumara Sambhavam.

Vagarthadaiva samprktau vagarthaa pratipattaye
Jagatah pitarau vande Parvati Parameshwehvarau

” In order to achieve the comprehension of word and meaning, I salute
the parents of the universe, Parvati AND Parameshwara, who are
inseperable like word and its meaning.

Or Abhirami Bhattar in Abhirami Andhadi.

அன்றே தடுத்து என்னை ஆண்டுகொண்டாய், கொண்டது அல்ல என்கை
நன்றே உனக்கு? இனி நான் என் செயினும் நடுக்கடலுள்
சென்றே விழினும், கரையேற்றுகை நின் திருவுளமோ.-
ஒன்றே, பல உருவே, அருவே, என் உமையவளே.

Gist of this is that, Abhirami,whatever I do and whatever might happen to me, even if I am stranded in the midst of Ocean, It is your job to save me”

This can be enjoyed only in the original.

Or some of the lines of Kannadasan in Tamil Films.

Kannukku Kulam Ethu,

Kangal Enge,

Ponal Pogattum Poda,

Mayakkama Kalakkama.

I  can go on adding to the list.

I shall post on the Poems I have enjoyed in Tamil and Sanskrit.

When I asked Poet Kannadasan  whether  he can produce some of the great lines he had penned again, he  replied

‘No’.

He said he wrote as the mood set in and he can not even remember how he got around to producing these lines .

True,

Psychologists  try to explain these things in a lot of ways.

I am qualified in Psychology and the explanations and theories are labored and unconvincing.

To me it seems that certain things are expected to be expressed at a certain time by certain people.

And we happen to be the instruments.

My friend agrees.

Do you?

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 http://manifestedharmony.com