I receive quite a few mails regarding personal problems from the Readers ,seeking solution to their personal Issues and I suggest solutions both from the empirical point and from the Mantra aspect.Most report that their problems are resolved.
I have noticed that the issues fall under these issues. 1.Seeking a child. 2.Financial difficuties. 3.Court problems. 4.Health Issues,physical and mental. 5.Delayed Marriages. One important issue about which I have been receiving quite a lot of mails,to my regret, is marital incompatibility,strained relationships and divorce. I am pained. The Before I proceed to provide Mantra to help prevent break up of marriages,Improve strained relationships, I would like to share a few thoughts derived out of experience , interacting with a lot people and by counseling people.
Family is the fundamental unit of society and human beings,gregarious by Nature,need others for their well being,physical,mental,emotional and spirititual.
I have come across people who declare that they do not any one for anything .
Least of all a marriage.
I have quite a few friends who are women( connotation would differ if I say girl friends),who declared about 30 years ago that they did not like marriage,wanted to be independant and concentrate on their carrers.
I have met them recently and meet them often.
Some of them are well known in Fine Arts,Communications and all of them are successful professionals in their chosen field.
None of them is worth less than Rupees one crore and palatial homes in prime localities in Bangalore with servants galore to take care of them.
Being close friends ,they tell me that they feel that they have lost out in life,despite their material success and were anguished that they have none to call their own nor any one in whom they can confide in.
They admitted that professional success and a family need not be in conflict with each other and wished they had a family and pursued their ambitions and managed both.
It is too late for them now.
The point is when two individuals come together there is bound to be conflicts for if there is no conflict ,it is no relationship.
The skill lies in managing the two and survive.
Life is a question of adaptation,management and survival.
If you think deep,you will know that we have been compromising throughout our Life right from childhood.
And it is the Law of Life.
Had we not,we would not have survived.
There is a mistaken impression that we compromise for others.
We compromise because we want to be happy.
Nothing wrong in this.
One marries because one wants to and one feels one would be happy if one marries.
No body marries for altruism.
But as in life’s choices every thing comes with a unique problem of its own and one has to manage.
Are there not conflicts in Fine Arts ,in other professions?
Do people not adjust and manage?
Then why shy away from marriage?
In my opinion it is the fear of responsibility one has to bear with marriage.Marriage is not mere physical.
It has emotional and spiritual side as well.
One needs company after one crosses 50,not merely for Sex.
Unfortunately ,one tends to equate marriage with Sex,thanks to western thoughts!
In India marriages are beyond physical and they are spiritual too.Lord Shiva carries Uma as a part of His body,Vishnu in His heart and Brahma in His tongue.
Shiva and Parvati and regarded as words and meaning,one has no relevance withiut the other.
My point is that one has to adapt in marriages.
No one has an ideal husband or wife and it is not possible as our ideas keep changing.
One has to remeber that one’s partner may have high expectations from the other.
These two do not meet.So one has to adapt.
And if one divorces with whom one is going to get married again?
You could not adjust in one relationship and what is the guarantee you can survive the other?
And in a married life strains are bound to happen.The trick is to face it and be done with it.
Do not carry forward the fight to the next.And respect other’s privacy.
It means the ability to share what needs to be shared and what need not.
Being open does not mean you bare it all.
Share to spouse what is likely to be of relevance to him/her.
However there are cases of infidelity,harassment.
In these cases one may go in for divorce.
Not for his or her movie choices are different,does not respect your relatives/friends.
To mend strained relationships and prevent divorce, please follow the mantra provided here.Mantra in Hindi: “ऊँ श्रीं ह्रीं पूर्ण गृहस्थ सुख सिद्धये ह्रीं श्रीं ऊँ नम:”Mantra in English: “Om Shreem Hreem Puran Grihsth Sukh Shidhye Hreem Shreem Om Namah”One may chant the first sloka of the Soundaryalahai’Sivah sakthyaayukthoo’ as well.
This mantra was revealed to Uma by Sage Durvasa to help Her marry Lord Shiva.