I have posted some articles on the Samskaras or the Rites of The Hindus and on Hindu marriages.
Yesterday, my brother’s daughter posted a message in Facebook asking me to write on ‘Thaali, Metti’ and their significance in Hindu marriages,
Thali in Tamil and Mangal Sutra in Hindi has no place in Vedic marraiges.
In Vedic marriages marriage has two names Panigrahana and Kanyadaan, handing over and Gifting away the daughter.
The steps in the Vedic Marriages are.
- Vara Satkaarah – Reception of the bridegroom and his kinsmen at the entrance gate of the wedding hall where the officiating priest chants a few mantras and the bride’s mother blesses the groom with rice and trefoil and applies tilak of vermilion and turmeric powder.
- Madhuparka Ceremony – Reception of the bridegroom at the altar and bestowing of presents by the bride’s father.
- Kanya Dan – The bride’s father gives away his daughter to the groom amidst the chanting of sacred mantras.
- Vivah-Homa – The sacred fire ceremony ascertaining that all auspicious undertakings are begun in an atmosphere of purity and spirituality.
- Pani-Grahan – The groom takes the right hand of the bride in his left hand and accepts her as his lawfully wedded wife.
- Pratigna-Karan – The couple walk round the fire, the bride leading, and take solemn vows of loyalty, steadfast love and life-long fidelity to each other.
- Shila Arohan – The mother of the bride assists her to step onto a stone slab and counsels her to prepare herself for a new life.
- Laja-Homah – Puffed rice offered as oblations into the sacred fire by the bride while keeping the palms of her hands over those of the groom.
- Parikrama or Pradakshina or Mangal Fera – The couple circles the sacred fire seven times. This aspect of the ceremony legalizes the marriage according to the Hindu Marriage Act as well custom.
- Saptapadi – Marriage knot symbolized by tying one end of the groom’s scarf with the bride’s dress. Then they take seven steps representing nourishment, strength, prosperity, happiness, progeny, long life and harmony and understanding, respectively.
- Abhishek – Sprinkling of water, meditating on the sun and the pole star.
- Anna Praashan – The couple make food offerings into the fire then feed a morsel of food to each other expressing mutual love and affection.
- Aashirvadah – Benediction by the elders.
The practice of wearing Thaali is from the Tamil Dravidian Culture.
Vedic Marriages are complete with Panigrahana, Kanyadaan and Saptapathi.
Sage Viswamitra’s descendants ,banished to the South(Dravida) mingled with the Tamils and sage Apasthamba included this procedure in Vedic Marriages.
In fact a Neckband was worn by Men to indicate that they are married and women Metti, an ornament around the third toe of the Foot.
Source.History of Tamils by PT Srinivasa Iyengar