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Hinduism prescribes strictest punishment for Rape.
Manu Smriti , apart from laying guidelines for the treatment for Rape.
- 8.323. Those who abduct women should be given death sentence.
- 9.232. Those who kill women, children or scholarly virtuous people should be given strictest punishment.
- 8.352. Those who rape or molest women or incite them into adultery should be given harshest punishment that creates fear among others to even think of such a crime.
- 8. 275. One should be punished if he puts false allegations or demeans mother, wife or daughter.
- 8.389. Those who abandon their mother, father, wife or children without any reasonable reason should face severe punishments.
- 357. Offering presents (to a woman), romping (with her), touching her ornaments and dress, sitting with her on a bed, all (these acts) are considered adulterous acts (samgrahana).
- 363. Yet he who secretly converses with such women, or with female slaves kept by one (master), and with female ascetics, shall be compelled to pay a small fine.
- 367. But if any man through insolence forcibly contaminates a maiden, two of his fingers shall be instantly cut off, and he shall pay a fine of six hundred (panas).
- 370. But a woman who pollutes a damsel shall instantly have (her head) shaved or two fingers cut off, and be made to ride (through the town) on a donkey.
- 385. A Brahmana who approaches unguarded females (of the) Kshatriya or Vaisya (castes), or a Sudra female, shall be fined five hundred (panas); but (for intercourse with) a female (of the) lowest (castes), one thousand.
I had blogged earlier on the Sexual harassment of Men by Women and that it never is noticed and even if the complaint is made it is assumed that the Man is lying, so loaded is our Society in these values in favour of women.
Now interviews of Men on Sexual harassment of Men have become public and some instances are really shocking.
Had it been levelled by a woman the man would have been either thrashed in Public or booked under Sexual harassment of women and in some cases under NBW!
The general reason for men not lodging a complaint, apart from facing Social ridicule,is the most important fat that he would not be believed.
It is often assumed illogically that women do not make sexual advances and that they merely respond.
Even in marital relationship, some even go to the extent of husband’s advances as ‘attempt to rape’ and in some case men were punished.
Looks as they women accommodate Sex!
This anomaly needs to be addressed to.
The Women and Child Development minister,Krishna Tirath, recently announced that the government will conduct a study on “what kind of (sexual) harassment of males is prevalent at workplaces.” This has prompted many to wonder – male sexual harassment – is that really a thing? From Michael Douglas in Disclosure to Akshay Kumar in its Bollywood rip-off Aitraaz – there have been cases of men being victims to sexual harassment in the reel and real-life workplaces in the past. But why is the topic still not taken seriously? That’s probably because though many agree that subjecting men to involuntary groping and touching is certainly not a laughable matter (ask John Travolta’s last masseur and victim!), many are still used to seeing men as the harassers rather than the harassed. However, not only is male sexual harassment ‘a thing’ – it has been legally addressed in countries across the world, and has precedents in several workplaces.
The definition of sexual harassment, as per the US Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) is “Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature” at the workplace. See? Completely gender neutral! In fact, in most countries, the definition is applicable to both sexes and falls under two categories for men – female-on-male harassment and male-on-male harassment.
The first ever reported case of male sexual harassment was in the United States in 1995, when a female supervisor at Dominoes pinched the male manager’s butt. The EEOC sued the outfit and the manager was paid $237,000 in damages.
However, in India, where the Sexual Harassment at Workplace Bill was passed only in 2012, the provisions were restricted to women and their modesty. Is this because men don’t get molested in Indian workplaces? Nope, because as it turns out, men do get sexually harassed in India… a lot!
Male harassment in India
Judging from the findings of a recent Economic Times-Synovate survey, the men need to be incorporated in that bill ASAP. Of the 527 people queried across seven cities – Bangalore, Chennai, Delhi, Hyderabad, Kolkata, Mumbai and Pune – 19% said they have faced some kind of sexual harassment at office. In Bangalore, 51% of the respondents had been sexually harassed, while in Delhi and Hyderabad, 31% and 28% of those surveyed said they had been sexually harassed. Around 38% of the respondents across 7 cities in India said that in today’s workplaces, “men are as vulnerable to sexual harassment as women.”
…When it isn’t all about work
Two 20-something professionals anonymously reveal to DT why going to work became a “horrible” experience after their respective bosses and colleagues took office flirting to a new level, and in one of the cases, refused to back off even when confronted.
She grabbed me; I wanted to slap her, but couldn’t, as I’ve been taught to respect women
I started working as a trainee accountant with my firm in 2008 and through the years, I’ve managed to gain the respect of my colleagues and my seniors. Sheena (name changed) joined my firm in 2009 and from the beginning, everyone knew she was the flirtatious type. We all took it in good humour and she was fun to be around at first, but things weren’t the same when she started openly flirting with me. It seemed like I had become her target in office, and it was very embarrassing. Once, she spread her legs in front of me and I could see that she was wearing a thong. This happened in my cubicle, and as much as I would like to believe it, it wasn’t a mistake. She sat like that for a long time, and kept flirting with me. She would make excuses to take coffee breaks right when I’d have to step out for a smoke.
All of this was fine, up until one day she grabbed my butt. I was speechless. She was fishing for compliments and I told her she was hot, so she replied by saying I was pretty hot myself, and grabbed me from behind. I could only smile at her in embarrassment, but somewhere deep inside, I just wanted to slap her. Being brought up in a household that respects women, I didn’t react. I am just looking to out her in front of my other colleagues one day, as I’m sure she will try one of her tricks on me.
She made me feel like a misfit, and it did nothing for my self confidence
I work at a job consultancy firm and Disha (name changed) has been running this little sham of a place since 2010. I’ve been here since the very beginning; in fact, I was one of the first people to get hired. Disha always leaned towards me as compared to my other colleagues. She would always oversee my mistakes and that made me feel good. I thought it was because I was one of the older people working at the firm.
Life loses its charm and becomes tedious when one has everything in terms of material comforts.
Some get things too easily.
People long for good food,shelter ,good clothes,Car,Gadgets like Mobile, iPod,Home, a Girl/Boy friend , a job which appears to be satisfying for a while.
They get married.
They postpone be-getting children to ‘enjoy Life’
On Saturdays/Sundays, they wake up around 12 and laze about, go out for food, sleep , then go out for Dinner and watch movies.
Suddenly they realize that they are ‘burnt out’
They have no desire to do anything.
They leave jobs saying that they want to do things they always wanted to do, forgetting that they chose their Careers on their own and made decisions on their own over every thing.
They become abrasive and irritated and become depressed.
This does not end here.
Once out of job, they try to do some thing which they think they like doing , get disillusioned shortly and start hunting for a job.
Some times they get it immediately, some times they don’t.
They become depressed further and consult a Psychiatrist.
The Psychiatrist tells them that they should get their priorities right and decide on what they like and start doing what they like.
And the whole Cycle begins again!
People achieve material comforts without too much of a struggle and they receive more they need.
They are left with out the scope for yearning, which alone can spur one to be vigorous.
They follow skin deep relationships taken in by spurious Love.
For them,Personal communications are not dictated by spontaneity but by careful calculated moves.
Relationships are spontaneous so is Love(not lust).
They lack personal goals that appear reachable yet not reachable.
Only when the objective remains tantalizingly reachable,is life interesting, not other wis.
Values like affection,honesty,caring for others genuinely, the ability ti accommodate others and the acceptance of Life as it comes are the keys to Happiness.
Above all Faith is necessary, to sustain interest Life.
If Life runs along predicted lines it would lose its charm.
It is its sheer unpredictability that makes Life worth Living.
Why can’t people be contented and be happy?
Achievements are fine but at what cost?
To be praised by others while w live and be spoken of highly after we die for having left ‘our footprints’
Of what use is this?
All achievers of whom we praise and extol,of what use are these to them if they are unhappy?
Of what use is our praise of Alexander,Michael Angelo,Da Vinci, Gandhi, Einstein to them after they are dead?
Let us Live simple and understand that life is worth living if there is struggle.
“In a hearbreaking and perfectly titled and presumably unpaid-for Huffington Post post, “A Struggle of Not Struggling,” Taylor reveals, in true Lifetime Movie fashion, that her seemingly perfect life has a dark underbelly that threatens to eat her alive.
Now, two months after graduation, I seem to be one of just a handful of people that’s been able to get themselves on their feet, pay their own bills and actually put together some semblance of an adult life with minimal parental assistance. I bought a car, found an apartment and set up a 401k, just six months after turning 22. I came down on the ‘right’ side of every statistic — I found a job in my field that actually pays well, I’m living on my own, and seem to have everything that these other college graduates are dying to have.
But what about that 10-cents-a-word life that I always wanted? What about New York City? What about freelancing, penning newspaper columns and urban adventures? What about the struggles that I see on Girls and the tales of credit card debt and ramen noodle dinners? Aren’t these the things that really make you 22?
The things that really make you 22 are A) modeling your own life after the characters on Girlsin exactly the same way that a previous generation did on characters from Sex and the City, while simultaneously harboring the belief that the depth of your worldview and artistic nature makes you vastly superior to that of anyone who would model themselves on something so gauche as a TV show character, and B) writing first-person essays on the internet that you will look back on with disgust. So rest easy, Taylor Cotter: you are 22.
But now that Taylor has settled into her dream job as an editorial assistant at StudentAdvisor.com, she might as well be 82. What the hell is the dif?
Anne Marie Slaughter‘s article for The Atlantic, “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” has been quoted and criticized ad nauseam. However, all that’s run through my head is that, at 22, I’ve already had to make life-defining decisions. I chose the path of a full-time job and an adult life. I gave up on the adventures, on freedom, on youth. Forget about career versus motherhood — I can’t even have it all now.
I suppose that I’m grateful that I can make all my car payments and start saving for retirement while most of my friends are living at home and working part-time jobs — but I often find myself lamenting the fact that I’m not living at home and not working a part-time job. From my perspective, these are just some of the life-changing, character-building experiences that I may never have.
At 22, Taylor Cotter has had to make life-defining decisions, such as whether to accept a position as editorial assistant at StudentAdvisor.com. Her fate is sealed. From now on, she’s just “that editorial assistant at StudentAdvisor.com,” rather than “that insouciant unemployed 22-year-old who is stealing beer from bodega, and yes the police have been called, my friend.” Taylor often laments the fact that she has a full-time job and an apartment and then, while lamenting these things, types on her essay draft that she later submits to the HuffingtonPost.com these words: “From my perspective, these are just some of the life-changing, character-building experiences that I may never have.”
From who else’s perspective would you be writing, Taylor? Fanciful girl! From everyone else’s perspective, you can still look forward to the character-building experience of having something you wrote widely ridiculed on the internet. And I can tell you from experience, Taylor: the worst part is when you realize that you weren’t even paid for it. Never underestimate the character-building situations that you can get yourself in, just by being a 22-year-old who is complaining about having a stable income during the worst recession in living memory.
Do not be too harsh on Taylor, gentle reader. Though she has a steady income, an apartment, a car, and a healthy sense of entitlement, she is right to mourn her predicament: she lives in Boston. Even Lena Fucking Dunham worship is preferable to that cruel fate.”
- In marriage, the bill comes due (lfpress.com)
Truth is Stranger than Fiction.
The Organisers are better off insisting on a Sex Certificate from a Doctor.
But if the Doctor is in cahoots with the participant..?
Well, the time-tested method is always there.
PRETTY Angkookrat Warangnam beat hundreds of women to make it into the final of a modelling competition – and then shocked organisers by revealing she was a man.
Shy Toon sailed through the preliminary rounds, wowing judges with her deep brown eyes, long dark hair and slimline figure.
After being given the green light by every member of the panel, the Lady Boys of Bangkok star, 26, revealed that she was born a man.
Organiser Scott Woolgar said: “During the selection process it did not cross any of our minds for a minute that she was a man.
“I know a lot of judges showed pictures to friends and family to get a bit of help and nobody twigged.
“When we were deciding who to put through to the final she was on everybody’s list. Everyone thought she was one of the prettiest girls.
“The competion is based on approach, looks and personality and Toon has all of that. It is about beauty pure and simple regardless of whether Toon was born male or female.
“We believe beauty is more than skin deep and would be honoured to have Toon in our final.”
Bangkok-born Toon, who has performed with the popular touring show for three years, will go head-to-head with eleven fellow finalists on the catwalk next Friday (May 25).