Baby Abuse By Maid Videos For Parents


Those who are after crass materialism, justifying the craze for Money and creature comforts, with the excuse of citing ‘cost of living,those who say this

 

themselves are not convinced of this), must watch these Videos of Babies being left to the care of the Maids.

 

I do not wan to add any comment as the videos are enough and for more information on these and parenting, check my posts on parenting/lifestyle.

 

 

 

” A baby-sitter was caught on the CCTV torturing an 11-month-old boy in Narhe on May 7.

The Dattawadi police on Tuesday arrested Baby Laxman Patole, 42, a resident of Ramtekdi in Hadapsar, following a complaint lodged by the parents, who work in a BPO.

“My wife and I have to work night shifts. So, to look after our son we hired Patole from a city-based agency about seven days before the incident,” the boy’s father told Times of India. Patole was clearly told about her working hours. “We also told her that our flat is under CCTV surveillance and that she should remain alert,” he said.

The parents, however, realized the baby was not happy with Patole. “He would cry aloud when we left for work. This made us suspicious, so we checked the CCTV footage. We were shocked. On the night of May 7, my son was crying as he could not sleep. Patole switched off the light and also pulled the curtains. She then slapped my son. When he cried loudly, she threw him on the bean bag and flung him holding his hands,” the father said.

Patole was not aware that the CCTV cameras had night-vision facility.

 

News source.

Times of India

 

 

Enhanced by Zemanta

Principles Of Parenting In The Vedas Hinduism


 

Hinduism takes parenting as it takes everything about Life or Death.

 

It does not accord  Parenting any special place or does it ignore it.

 

It treats as a routine affair of Life and treats is such.

Sikshavalli, Taittriya Upanishad Rules behaviour for Children

Principles Of Life,Taittiriya Upanishad

 

Conceiving and giving Birth to a Child and bringing it up is taken so naturally as it treats the highest thoughts of Philosophy .

 

It considers all these as a Natural process and one need not be overly concerned about this  as such.

 

The Vedas offer basic Guide lines.

 

1.Dharmachara, Righteous Conduct.

 

Behavior should be according to the Dharma, Moral Principle.

 

Parents are expected to behave he way they expect their children to behave towards them or others when they become adults.

 

Parents are prohibited from using vulgar language or the use of harsh words in front of their children.

 

 

2.Dharma Svagriha.

 

Worship at Home.

 

Parents should set an examples of following the Anushtaanas laid down for them in the Shastras.

 

They must perform Sandyavandan thrice a Day.

 

Perform other duties like Aupaasanam and other nithya karmas-read my posts on Rituals of Hindus, Samskaaras.

 

Give the pride of place for the family Deity.

 

Worship the Gods at fixed time daily at Home.

 

Vedas do not speak about. building a Temple, much less visiting Temples.

 

3.Dharma Sambhashana.

 

Talking about Righteousness , Moral Books, Purans, Itihaas and of course the Vedas.

 

Parents are expected to read and teach children these sacred texts.

 

“Children should grow in the awareness of the brotherhood of man and the fatherhood of God. If no provision is made for this atmosphere and this teaching, we are denying them their due.”-Atharva Veda

 

The scripture also cautions parents that if children learn to worship money and material things, they will grow up admiring cruelty and deceit, rather than love and compassion.

 

4.Dharma Svadhyaya, Self Study

 

Self study is given priority.

 

Children are to be sent to Gurkula, Home of The Teaher, at the age of Five, after having performed Upanayana, for a minimum twelve years.

 

At the Gurukul,which would be their Home for the next twelve years, the children are taught, apart from the Vedas , the other Sciences like Maths,

Physics,Biology, Warfare and the like.

 

After completing the Gurukul vasa the individual is  expected to engage himself in Self Study.

 

This is not time bound.

 

One is expected to learn throughout his Life.

 

5. Dharma Sangha. Follow a Preceptor.

 

One is expected to follow a Preceptor.

 

The Spiritual Guru is to be chosen carefully.

 

If one’s desire is strong enough, the Guru shall seek him.

 

The Taittriyopanishad  contains elaborate instructions to the Student.

 

 

Taittiirya Upanishad Text Translation pdf

 

Taittiriya Upanishad Lectures

 

 

Enhanced by Zemanta

Elder Abuse By Children Facebook Discussion.


Recently I shared a few of my posts on Elderly abuse by their children to Facebook Communities of which I am a member.

This is the Post.

Senior citizen abuse.

Children Leave parents at Old Age Homes

https://ramanan50.wordpress.com/2013/10/02/parents-in-elderly-home-children-to-be-shamed/

I was happy and sad at the same time .

Happy because the post generated a lot of discussion with members speaking out with out inhibition.

Sad because it revealed to me the malaise that is eating our Society.

Though the views of the communities need not reflect the views of all the other Communities in general, this particular community views are taken as a model for others despite their bashing this Community.

During the course of the discussions I came across views, which I will sum up as it would be unethical to post them direct here.

1.All agree that there is this problem of leaving the elderly in Old Age Homes

.2.The elderly also prefer it.

3.This, from the trend and profiles I could gleam, seems to be from NRI .( parents of NRIs and the parents themselves)

4.It is my impression that there seems to be communication disconnect between the Parents and the Children.

5.Children do want to keep them at Home.

6.Sad was a comment the children is ‘an Insurance for parents’ posted by a Parent.

7.Equally appalling was a comment that “Parents are incorrigible and make the Life of Children Hell”

I have posted my views in the group discussion.

Then there was a question of Duty of Sons (No body spoke about daughters!)

The point is that where was this problem, say 40 years ago?

Agreed that we had differences at Homes with parents with us, we never thought that ‘they were living with us’ rather’ we were living in a Home’

Tiffs are always sorted out,

Then why so now?

1.People have gone after monetary values alone.

Parents want their sons to go abroad , especially the US for Higher Studies and Jobs.

When they get a Green Card, the parents feel that they own the world.

Forgetting that the values and the standard of Living shall make sure that they do not return.

If you have sent your child abroad you should be prepared for it.

Alternately, you should stay with them there.

If you a can not stay because you  want to come to your Native place,  then you have no other  option but to stay here alone or in an Old Age Home.

You can not blame the children for it.

Not that you need not send your children abroad, but only that you should have the maturity to handle the consequences.

2.Interfering in Grown up children’s day-to-day affairs.

Many elderly do resort to this as a sign of showing their control of the Household.

It produces the opposite reaction.

You have run the family for nearly 30 t0 40 years and you have taught , or you thought you had taught your children to face Life,.

Why not leave them be?

What could they do?

They might make mistakes. like you and I ( should this be ‘Me’) have made when we were young, or for that matter even now.

Why not admit that the younger generation may be, in fact, is more intelligent in handling practical Life than we did?

Let them run the family the way they want.

If you have brought them up well and proper they would have the basic Morals alright.

That would do.

Not the silly expectation of them coming to you and submitting their account and informing you where they are gong and what they are doing.

We have run our Race,

Let the Relay race run.If you run along  the relay runner, you Team, The Family, will lose.

Elders need to handle this with maturity.

2.For Children.

Parents are not your enemies.

They say and do hings for you, they may not know to how to go about saying or doing it.

Do not suspect their Love or their concern for you.

They are not Incorrigible.

These incorrigible idiots made you into what you are to-day, even enabling you to speak this way.

The value of parents will be known when they are no more.

Only Parents love you for what You are.-with all your warts.

Others for What You have.

PS.I have not touched the actual Physical and mental abuse of Parents here.

Enhanced by Zemanta

The Courtyard Of Moon


 

Moon is used in world literature as an allusion,allegory simile to express various emotions.

Courtyard of Moon.

Moon Shining Courtyard of Moon.

The practice of using the concept Moon as a part of Life goes to the Tamils.

There is no Poet who has not sung about Moon right from the Classical  Age of the Sangam till the present day.

It is also the part of Indian life to show Moon and feed the child.

Usually a song is sung inviting The Moon to play with the child.

This has been such an expected custom that a special grammar has been created to accommodate this activity.

In Pillai Thamizh, The Tamil of The child, various stages of the child’s growth has been explained and suitable songs were sung.

Those who know Tamil, enjoy this song, Thiuvoimozhi of Periyazhvar sung in praise of Lord Krishna asking Him to sleep while making Him sleep in a Cradle.

The celebration of the Moon is not restricted children.

Moon is used to express Love,Pangs of separation and even pathos.

I am proving some songs towards the close of the Post.

It is the practice, as the child grows up, to have the family sit around in the Pial( a reclining slab at the entrance of the House) have the food made into  a Ball , place in the Palm of the family members.

This is/was widely practiced.

I used it to do this for my children till they were in the Ninth or tenth standard.

The taste and the camaraderie one feels as a Unit is incomparable.

Children eat more than what they usually consume.

Tamils have taken this a step further,

In ancient days, Homes had a special area built, normally in the first floor and the Kings used to build a Floor for this purpose , enjoy the Moon and take food.

This place is called the Courtyard of Moon.’Nila Mutram’.

There is also the practice of eating under the Moon with the family on the Full Moon Day of the Chaitra,Chiththitrai Month , The Full Moon Day of April.

Special festival is celebrated on this day and this is special in Madurai, Chitra Pournami

Such simple pleasures do not cost you nor do they harm children.

We seem to be losing them.

Some Old movie songs on Moon.

 

 

Enhanced by Zemanta

Evil Eye On Children Warding Off Removal


There are some customs being followed in Tamil Nadu.

They look strange, superstitious and totally irrational.

So are some problems in Life.

For instance, Children, especially below the age of Four,when they can not articulate  things.

The child would be Healthy n all respects.

But it would refuse to eat food.

You may try anything to make the child eat, but it would still refuse.

You consult a Doctor.

He tells you that he child is alright and it would take food on its own.

Some go even further and tell you to feed the child if it cries an any way as an organism the child would seek food when it needs it!

The problem is that as a parent or a Grandparent you just can not await the child to demand foo or let it cry incessantly.

There are some practices to rectify this problem and these worked for my children and work for  my grand children.

When you attempt to feed the child, some food would remain.

Take this and keep it on the road where a Dog can eat.

Do not feed the child in front of others or in Public.

If you have to feed in a Milk Bottle, keep the Milk Bottle covered, ready-made covers are available .

To prevent the child waking up in the middle of the night crying, keep a New Broomstick underneath your cot.

Some times you may find the children crying for no reason, despite being fit.

In these circumstances, take two red chilliness,little Crystal Salt in your right Palm close it, let the child face The East , keep your close Palm in the other , rotate clockwise , anti clock wise, up and down in front of he child’s Face and leave the chilies and Salt on the road.

There is also this practice of throwing this mixture in Coal Embers at Home or in the Flames of a kerosene stove instead of throwing the mixture on the road.

Normally this mixture dropped in Fire or Embers should make you choke.

Some time it would not.

That, my mother used to say, that evil eye has been cast and been removed.

Another practice is to have the person or the child spit on this mixture after rotating and throwing ti away,Brahmin households do not follow this.

As soon as the child completes its first birthday the practice among Brahmins in Tamil Nadu is to tie a small piece of Acorus calamusor Vasambu in the hip around the waist of the child in a Black thread(Araignyan)

This, it is believed to prevent diseases and ward off evil-eye.

Yet another practice  is place Camphor in a small plate, light, show it in front the child facing East or North, rotate this clockwise , anticlockwise ,up and down in front of the Face thrice and keeping it in front of the house, closing the door after placing the Aarti plate out.

I do this for my Grand children every day.

There is also the practice of applying a black dot on the Cheek of the child.

I have seen Rationality does not work always with children but these do, especially when it concerns their Health

 

 

Enhanced by Zemanta