Diapers,Parenting


Use of Diapers if of recent origin in India,started some 15 years back.

When my children were growing up, we had under-wears, what is called as ‘Jatties’

These are made of thin cloth and dry faster.

We also tore up the Dhoti(Indian Men’s wear, a wrap around around the midriff to suitable lengths for use for the children.

This we continued till they were 3 to 4 years.

When I was a child , I am informed by my sister in law that they used to leave me naked till I was 4!

When the child wets, when it has no cloth around it, the place was swiped clean with Cow’s Dung.

Cow Dung as many may not know is an effective disinfectant.

The child washed around the parts,

Now the trend is Diapers.

They slap some contraption around the child’s loin and leave it at that.

Brand advertising keep screaming at you, soft, smooth,enough room for ventilation etc.

The child develops rashes.

Then you apply some special cream!

Now new brands claim to be rash proof.

Parents remove these Diapers once in two hours or so.

If the Mother were to be a working woman and leaves the child to a Baybysiiter, well, the Diaper will be removed whenever she felt like it or she remembers.

All the while the child will be wet not withstanding the ‘Absorbent Technologies’

Bed wetting was problem we never faced.

Now It has assumed Psychiatric proportions, thanks to Freud!

With all this advances, the bonding( !) between the mother and child is less as compared to what it was, as people of the present day of ‘Unhygienic way of bringing up children’

Their Science now says that the old way encouraged bonding better!

Story:

Diapers

Diapers

When Jada Shapiro decided to raise her daughter from birth without diapers, for the most part, not everyone was amused. Shapiro scattered little bowls around the house to catch her daughter’s offerings, and her sister insisted that she use a big, dark marker to mark the bowls so that they could never find their way back to the kitchen.

But “elimination communication,” as the diaper-free method of child-rearing is called, is finding an audience.

Shapiro, who is a doula, a birth and child-rearing coach, says it is practically now a job qualification to at least be able to offer diaperfree training as an option to clients. Caribou Baby, an “ecofriendly maternity, baby and lifestyle store” on the border of artsy Greenpoint and Williamsburg , has been drawing capacity crowds to its diaper-free “Meetups,” where parents exchange tips like how to get a baby to urinate on the street between parked cars…

Parents are drawn to the method as a way of preserving the environment from the ravages of disposable diapers, as well as reducing the laundering of cloth diapers and preventing diaper rash. Many of them like the thought that they are rediscovering an ancient practice used in other cultures , though they tend to gloss over the fact that many of those cultures had never heard of Pampers . But mostly, they say, they like feeling more in touch with their babies’ most intimate functions.

“I think for a lot of parents, the motivation is just to be more in tune with what their kids’ needs are,” Adriane Stare, proprietor of Caribou Baby and herself a diaper-free mother, said on Thursday, about a week after holding her most recent meetup. Another meeting was written about on Thursday on the news Web site dnainfo.com; the next is May 14.

Stare said she “EC’d ” her oldest son, Damien, who is now almost 4, and is doing it again with her second boy, Loren, who is almost 4 months old. Stare watched for cues that meant her baby needed to go to the bathroom or was going to the bathroom, like a certain cry or squirming or a grimace . Then, she began associating those cues with her own noises , like “sss,” or grunting. After a while she could make those noises — the elimination communication — to the baby while holding him over the toilet or the sink for perhaps 20 seconds, and he would go to the bathroom on command or refuse if he was not ready.

There are misses, she admits, but even cleaning up a small mess on the floor is easier, she says, than laundering diapers…

Asked whether the practice was a health hazard, Jean Weinberg , a spokeswoman for the New York City health department said: “Really the only infectious disease problem at hand has to do with hand washing. Otherwise, it’s just a general sanitation issue.”

Shapiro, a founder of Birth Day Presence, a childbirth education studio in Park Slope and SoHo, said most clients laughed when they heard about elimination communication, but one or two in every group signed up. At three weeks, her daughter could hold her bowel movements until she was put over the bowl, she said.

“I have absolutely been at parties and witnessed people putting their baby over the sink,” she said. One client took her baby and her bowl to a party, held her naked baby over the bowl, “and she just did it at this person’s party in the corner, but obviously they were close friends,” Shapiro said.

http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-04-21/science/38709857_1_cloth-diapers-pampers-disposable-diapers

“Dogs Are Buddhists


I am always surprised at people talking a lot about Parenting.

I recall an instance when a leading school invited me for a Seminar as Faculty on Parenting organised for Schools and Parents in Chennai, around 2009.

Knowing my views and quirkiness in addressing a meet , I politely declined.

The Correspondent of the Institution where I was  Management Consultant insisted I attend and confirmed me as a participant.

Being a good friend of the Correspondent I attended.

There was a lot of talk and discussions on parenting.

Dog as a Buddhist

Dog as a Buddhist

When my turn came , I spoke thus,

‘Ladies and Gentlemen,

All of you are assembled here to listen to a talk on Parenting.

Animals, and even lowly Life, beget children and they bring their children up.

They do not attend a seminar.

That’s my talk.

Thank you”

I am always surprised at people trying to study parenting!

 

They leave children to baby sitters and attend seminars on parenting!

Now the story beats even this.

Digs are replacing children in Hong Kong and Singapore.And worse dogs are being declared as Buddhists.

Read On:

In Hong Kong and Singapore, it is not unusual to see couples pushing baby strollers that do not contain a baby, but rather a small dog. Sometimes the puppy prams are not wheeled by the dog owners, but by a Filipino or Indonesian domestic helper who has been hired just to look after the pooch.

This extreme level of anthropomorphic dog pampering  is taking place, not surprisingly, in two cities where sky-high high real estate prices and poor parental benefits force many adults to forego what is increasingly viewed as the luxury of having children. The combination of low fertility and the worryingly high prices of homes large enough to raise actual kids —this modest 776 square foot 3-bed in a Hong Kong suburb popular with middle class families rents at $3864 a month—produces some eye-catching luxury businesses catering to canines.

In Singapore, pet owners can buy sailboat cruises and aromatherapy sessions for their companions, the Daily Telegraph reports. Hong Kong has a luxury dog hotel for animals whose owners—sorry, “parents”— cannot bear the thought of leaving them in a mere kennel. Allegedly designed in consultation with an animal psychologist, it has a beauty spa and a shop selling products with names such as “Ultrasonic Hydro Bath”. (Here is a photo gallery of its primped and coiffed guests.)

And let us not forget about the dogs’ religious and spiritual needs. At a recent pet products exhibition in Hong Kong, guests could have their animals proclaimed as Buddhists in what is known as a “gui yi” (皈依) ceremony. And in 2011, a South African yoga instructor in Hong Kong offered “dog yoga”; in Singapore they call it “doga.”

Singapore’s leaders would much rather have people fulfill their need to nurture by having more babies; the city state is facing a dangerous demographic time-bomb with a fertility rate of 1.2 births per woman. In Hong Kong, the figure is only 1.1.

One main reason: Real estate. Property prices have soared in both cities due to low global interest rates, open economies and high interest from wealthy mainland Chinese buyers. Hong Kong flats are nicknamed “shoebox homes“. And while Singapore offers its poorest citizens fantastic public housing, the government is also fighting a property bubble (paywall) that has put home ownership beyond the reach of much of the middle class. Hong Kong and Singapore policymakers also don’t do much to encourage parenthood by providing generous maternity or paternity leave, like France and Sweden.

http://qz.com/68680/dog-pampering-obsessions-in-singapore-and-hong-kong-foreshadow-a-demographic-time-bomb/

 

 

Parents View Of Children Around The World


This is how the parents around the world describe their children.

There is no entry for India.

What would it be?

I would say ‘Happy,Family oriented,Has values,Informed and reasonably responsible for their age”

How about my readers view?

In general,I have seen parents judging their children harshly forgetting what or how they were of their children’s age!

Parents' View of Children

Parents’ View of Children

 

If you ask American moms, we are raising a nation of baby Einsteins. Here’s what one parent had to say about the intelligence of her 3-year-old, which was apparent to her from the very first moments of her life:

“I have this vivid memory when she was born of them taking her to clean her off … And she was looking all around … She was alert from the very first second … I took her out when she was six weeks old to a shopping mall to have her picture taken — people would stop me and say, “What an alert baby.” One guy stopped me and said, “Lady, you have an intelligent baby there.” … And it was just something about her. She was very engaging and very with the program, very observant. She’s still fabulously observant.”

The biggest difference between American parents and their counterparts in Europe might be that they are far more relaxed about enrichment than we are, according to a study released this week by Sara Harkness and Charles M. Super at the School of Family Studies at the University of Connecticut.

Not only are Americans far more likely to focus on their children’s intelligence and cognitive skills, they are also far less likely to describe them as “happy” or “easy” children to parent.

“The U.S.’s almost obsession with cognitive development in the early years overlooks so much else,” Harkness told Slate.

For part of their research, the authors focused just on parents in the United States and the Netherlands. The differences are stark: American parents emphasized setting aside “special time” with each of their children, while Dutch parents spent a few hours each day together with their kids as an entire family.

American parents said they struggled to manage the sleep schedules of their babies and young children, explaining that they try to entertain or distract them when they wake up in the middle of the night. As one American dad says:

“We both have different strategies. She’ll put him in the walker down here and I generally put him in the playpen and try to keep him somewhat entertained, either by the TV or he loves the stereo.”

Compare this to Dutch parents, who emphasized plenty of rest and regular schedules for their kids (and, by extension, themselves), and somehow end up inducing their offspring to sleep more:

“Many parents stressed the importance of a regular schedule, including a set time for both meals and bed. As one mother of an 18-month-old explained: ‘To bed on time, because they really need rest to grow, and regularity is very important when they are so little. If she gets too little rest, she is very fussy.’ A mother of a 6-month-old commented, ‘We are very strict about going to bed – at 6:30, upstairs.’”

Apparently, it works. The authors noted that the children of Dutch parents were consistently more calm, existing more frequently in a state of “quiet alert,” while American babies were more often “actively alert.”

“The higher state of arousal of the American babies corresponded to differences in their mothers’ behavior: the American mothers touched and talked to their babies more than the Dutch mothers did,” the authors note.

But beyond sleep schedules, Americans also seem preoccupied with their children’s smarts from an extremely young age.

The researchers compiled a list of the attributes that 60 families in six different countries used to describe their children, which you can see at the top of the page.

American parents were the only ones to consistently mention their children’s advanced intellect, while other countries focused on qualities like “happiness,” being “easy” to manage, or the even more zen-like “well-balanced,” in Italy. (Italians also used the word simpatico, a group of characteristics suggesting social and emotional competence).

http://qz.com/74136/charts-how-parents-around-the-world-describe-their-children/

The ‘Sex Education Syllabus’


Recently the Government of India has proposed the age of consensual Sex from 18 years to 16 Years.

It is also talking about ‘Sex education ‘ to children.

This has sparked off a controversy.

The Elite(?) are for Sex Education while the other Group opposing it.

What is Sex Education?

Let’s see  its Definition.

Burt defined sex education as the study of the characteristics of beings; a male and female.[1] Such characteristics make up the person’s sexuality. Sexuality is an important aspect of the life of a human being and almost all the people including children want to know about it.[citation needed] Sex education includes all the educational measures which in any way may of life[clarification needed]that have their center on sex. He further said that sex education stands for protection, presentation extension, improvement and development of the family based on accepted ethical ideas. Leepson sees sex education as instruction in various physiological, psychological and sociological aspects of sexual response and reproduction.[2] Kearney also defined sex education as “involving a comprehensive course of action by the school, calculated to bring about the socially desirable attitudes, practices and personal conduct on the part of children and adults, that will best protect the individual as a human and the family as a social institution. Thus, sex education may also be described as “sexuality education”, which means that it encompasses education about all aspects of sexuality, including information about family planningreproduction (fertilizationconception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth), plus information about all aspects of one’s sexuality including: body imagesexual orientationsexual pleasurevaluesdecision makingcommunicationdatingrelationshipssexually transmitted infections (STIs) and how to avoid them, and birth control methods.[3] Various aspect of sex education are to right[clarification needed] in school depending on the age of the students or what the children are able to comprehend at a particular point in time. Rubin and Kindendall expressed that sex education is not merely a unit in reproduction and teaching how babies are conceived and born. It has a far richer scope and goal of helping the youngster incorporate sex most meaningfully into his present and future life, to provide him with some basic understanding on virtually every aspect of sex by the time he reaches full maturity.[4](Wiki)

Shorn of jargon, it is about teaching what Sex is about.

You may notice the definition needs ‘citation’ for sensuality.

If you can not define what sexuality is, which I am sure we can not define as we can hunger and other instincts,how does one go about it?

Sensuality and Sex appeal are the fundamentals of Sex.

Sex education includes all the educational measures which in any way may of life[clarification needed]that have their center on sex

Sex Education in Schools.

Sex Education in Schools.

* Look at the expression in the Image above!

Same confusion in definition.

About

 family planning,

 reproduction (fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth),

plus information about

all aspects of one’s sexuality including:

body image,

 sexual orientation,

sexual pleasure,

 values,

 decision-making,

 communication,

dating,

relationships,

sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

and how to avoid them,

body image

 

 and birth control.

 

fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth.

The topics  are  taught in Biology already.

Now Communication is taught as a Soft Skill or they talking about intercourse being taught in Communication Skill?

So is decision making.

Onto Sexual Pleasures and Orientation.

How do you explain Sexual Pleasure ?

That ‘Straight Sex’ is more pleasurable than , say gay Sex,Lesbianism, Sadism,BDSM, Fellatio and other designated Perversions?

Wait, people might take objection to my grouping gay sex and lesbianism  with perversions for most countries have legalized it.

How does one compare?

By trying out each one of them?

And how do you decide which age group can understand what?

under the guise of Sex Education what is about to happen is the detailed Illustration of all perverse sexual activities and a suggestion that it might not be good for the individual and the Society, in the passing.

Absolute rubbish.

If people want to delude , by introducing Sex education  they would be barring the Sex Information available on the Internet, …well and in fact give the children all the Information under one head with official legal sanction!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexuality_education

Related:

A government review has, as expected, ruled that sex education in schools will from 2011 be taught as part of the personal, social, health and economic (PSHE) curriculum. This means that children will learn about sex in the broader context of relationships, homosexuality, marriage, civil partnerships, divorce and abortion, rather than simply as the biological facts of puberty and reproduction formerly taught in science classes. This new form of sex education will also become the norm in both primary and secondary schools, and for children aged 15 and up, it will be compulsory, regardless of parental objection.

 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2009/nov/05/sex-education-schools-compulsory

Birth Cleansing Rites Hinduism


Let us look at this in detail.

Death.

As many people from India are settled abroad, leaving their kith and kin including parents(mainly parents, in some case care of Glorified Orphan’s Home called Retirement Homes,by settling monthly Bills), some information for those who are abroad.

If Soothakam(  சூதகம்,that is the Uncleanliness out of Birth in the Family,if theRrites are not performed or the period of Uncleanliness remain unobserved, there is nothing to worry.

 

But if it is Asaucham-மரணத் தீட்டு days of Uncleanliness is to observed for the period equivalent normally prescribed, from the Date of hearing the news of Death

This applies even when a Srardha is due for parents.

 

Uncleanliness Period for Birth.

NamaKarnam Cermony

NamaKarnam Cermony

 

1.If the Birth is from the Father’s side , Sraradha should not be performed,

It can be performed after 11th day.

Ten Days of Uncleanness-whatever be the  child, male or Female.

For-

The Child’s Brothers and Sisters.

For those who are born to other Wives of their father.

Brothers’ Wives.

Father, Paternal,Grand Father,Paternal Uncles,

Paternal Uncle’s sons.

Paternal Grand Father’s Brothers.

Paternal Grand Father’s First Cousins( from his Father’s side) and wives of these

All these are to observe ten Days of Uncleanness.

From The Child’s Mother’s side- Three days Uncleanness.

For The Child’s-

Maternal Grand parents, irrespective of where the delivery took place.

One Day Uncleanness.

Mother’s side.

Mother’s Brothers.

Maternal Uncles,Maternal Cousins of the Mother.- wherever the delivery takes place..

No period of Uncleanness is to be observed after Ten days.

For The Child’s Mother.

30 Days if the Child is Male and 40 Days if Female.

After this period,the Mother has to wear a new Mangalya Sutra,take a Panchakavyand start handling vessels and enter into house hold duties.

Note:

During Asaucha period,only  Snanam (Bath) ans Sandhyavandhana can be performed.

Other duties like Surya namaskaram,Aupaasanam( DailyFire Worship),Brahma Yagnam.Deva Pooja,Dhaana and Prathigraha should be performed after the 13 th Day.

 

Source.

V.Soma Deav Sharma.

Vaidhyanatha Dheekshideeyam’Aasaucha Kaandam.