Love Is……..?

I had been on a tour to some Temples for the last five Days.

 

I have been lucky to cover 20 Temples and not one of them is less than 1000 years old.

 

I was using only Public Transport.

 

I normally engage in conversations with strangers ans enjoy Life as it goes by.

 

Three instances, I thought were worth sharing.

 

I will be sharing two of them and another one by a separate post as it is a very interesting one, to me at least.

 

I was traveling by train from Mayiladuthurai, Tamil Nadu to Tiruchirapalli.

 

I was engaged in conversation with a young man of about 35 and he shared some of his problems .

 

The name is not being mentioned here and the issue is common to all.

 

He is a builder of some repute and is in Kumbakonam.

 

His wife is in Tiruchi and his parents are in Thiruvanaikkaval, near Tiruchi.

 

He has been married for  eight years and has a child of three years.

 

His wife has gone to live with her parents in Tiruchi and he is staying is Kumbakonam,about two hours drive.

 

His wife and himself were living in Sri Thiruvanaikaval with his parents till about a year back.

 

His wife wanted to have a house for themselves and suggested Kumbakonam.

 

So the man built a House in Kumbakonam.

 

After moving in  there, his wife refused to stay there any more because, his two sisters were living there and they used to come to his house at least twice a month.

 

His wife did not like this nor she did like his visiting his sisters.

 

She wanted to dispose of the house at Kumbakonam and wanted to settle at Tiruchi where her parents are living by building a new house.

 

She was not prepared to go Thiruvanaikaval where her in-laws lived, even if it were to be separate House.

 

The man is unable to sell the house at Kumbakonam and is frustrated with his wife and Life in general.

 

His parents have told him to take any decision which suits him.

 

He sought my advice and it is not relevant to what I am posting here.

 

Couple of days later, I was traveling from Viralimalai,I have posted on Lord Shanmuganathan Temple to Tiruchi by bus.

 

A young man of about 30, who was sitting next to me, was talking on his Cell phone.

 

He was saying( his younger sister I presumed by his talk).,

 

‘Don’t’ worry, Elder brother, (himself) is leaving for  work…

 

I have to catch the eight o’clock k train….

 

 

No, you don’t come….

 

I have told everyone to take care of you..

 

But you also be careful,

 

While going out eat properly, don’t stay awake late at night,

 

If you have to go out go out with friends, never alone…

 

I will be there for the Temple festival in a month’s time…

 

I will call you from the Station…

 

Whenever you need anything, call me.’

 

Tears were rolling down his cheeks as he was speaking.

 

Both the instances relate to Relation Relationship.

 

Which one can I call Love?

 

P.S. He is unmarried.

 

 

 

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For Delayed Marriages, Tiruvelvikkudi,Mayuram

For those for whom marriages get delayed.

People who are unable to get suitable Alliance ,in Tamil Nadu , generally visit Thirumanancherry ,perform certain Rituals nd this practice is reported to be producing good results.

I came to know of an older Temple near Mayuram (Myiladuthurai Kuttalam).

Praying at this Temple of Lord Manavaleswarar and Parimalasugandhanayagi  ensures speedy marriages for those whose marriages are delayed.

The Temple is near Kuttalam(near Mayuram)and on the way to Vanaathirajapuram.

The Temple is reported to be old and the details are.

Manavaleswarar Temple ,Tiruvelukkudi

I understood the following procedure is to be followed.

Perform Yagna at the Temple, which starts around 11 am.

These Yagnas are to be performed on Mondays.

It is very auspicious if it is performed on the days of Full Moon  which falls on Monday.

The charges payable at your convenience, though they charge Rs. 285.

You may buy two Archanai materials from the shops.

The Boy or Girl is tied with a Gangana(band on the Wrist) at the Sannidhi of Parimalasugandhanayagi.

Deepas(You can get them at the shops near the temple) have to be lit .

The number of Deepas is equivalent of the Age one to be married.

Then one has to sit in Yagna, which is likely to take three hours.

After the   Yagna, the Temple priest calls one by one and advises them as to the number of days they have to come to the Temple.

The Temple is reported to be yielding good results for those who worship there with faith.

The nearest Town for stay is Mayuram(Myiladuthurai)

Related:

Parvati once expresses her desire to have the experience of an earthly wedding to Shiva. This story is believed to be in fulfillment of this wish expressed by her. A dispute in Mount Kailash occured over a game of chess. In accordance with the verdict of Shiva, Parvati recedes to an earthly life and amidst her wandering reaches a place called Komal, where Lord Vishnu assumes a form of a cowherd to take care of his sister. He releases her from the clutch of the curse in a place called ‘Thiruvaaduthurai’ and Parvati sheds her assumed cow’s form and takes Her normal form in ‘Kuthaalam’ in the sacrificial fire of Sage Bharata Muni. Shiva and Parvati then unite in marriage in Thirumanancheri. Shiva is also called as ‘Sonavaararivaar’ for keeping up His word.

God Vishnu, upset over the events, wanted to reconcile the couple. He went to Shiva to justify his case. Shiva told Vishnu about Parvati’s wish to experience a wedding on earth and assured Vishnu that all events would lead to that end. He also told Vishnu to take the cow to bathe in the Cauvery so she could regain her original form. Vishnu did so and soon Parvati was herself again.

Parvathi was then instructed to go and live as the daughter of Bharata Muni, a saint living nearby. The story goes that Bharata Muni approached Shiva for his hand in marriage to Parvati, thereby granting her wish that she be married on earth.

Udhvaganathar looks as groom in this moolasthanam and Ambal is bride, God and Goddess exhibits their view of newly married couple status in the south prakaram. Mangala Ragu God exhibits his view of with his full body near Lord Durgadevi in the north prakaram. This scene are giving significance of this temple. In this place Rathi and Manmathan join together. By grace of lord Uthvaganathar Rathi gets Mangalya Pitchai it’s hightly belived who ever adorn with garland to the Lord Udhvaganathar and Goddess Kokilambal are relieved from their curse and sin besides gets wedding in an earlier stage.

http://www.thiruvidaimarudur.com/thirumanancheri.php

http://temple.dinamalar.com/en/new_en.php?id=234

The specialty of the Temple is that it does not have Navagrahas and it has no Dwajasthamba.

The Temple is in a dilapidated condition.

Tiruvelvikkudi

Ack. Ms.Abhayam Sekaran.

Moolavar : Kalyana Sundareswarar, Manavaleswarar Urchavar : - Amman / Thayar : Parimala Sugantha Nayaki Thala Virutcham : - Theertham : Mangala theertham Agamam / Pooja : - Old year : 1000-2000 years old Historical Name : Tiru Velvikudi City : Velvikudi District : Nagapattinam State : Tamil Nadu

Singers: The temple is praised by saints Sambandar and Sundarar in their Thevaram hymns.  This is the 23rd Shiva temple on the northern bank of Cauvery praised in Thevaram hymns.  Festival: Maha Shivrathri in February-March and Panguni Uthiram in March-April are the festivals celebrated in the temple.  Temple’s Speciality: Lord Shiva in the temple is a swayambumurthy facing east blessing devotees. Opening Time:

The temple is open from 6.00 a.m. to 12.00 a.m. and from 4.00 p.m. to 8.00 p.m. Address: Sri Kalyana Sundareswarar Temple, Tiruvelvikudi, Kuthalam Post-609 801, Nagapattinam district. Phone: +91-4364-235 462. Phone: +91- 4364-235 462.  General Information: As the place has the reputation of being the wedding venue of Lord, there is no shrine for Navagrahas the nine planets.  Instead, Lord Himself is sitting the Easanya –northeast corner.

Prayers Those facing delays in marriage due to planetary adversities, pray here lighting 48 lamps for relief. Thanks giving: A yajna is conducted in the temple on full moon days from 10.00 a.m. to 4.00 p.m. especially for those facing delays in marriage. Men and women having this problem are advised to participate in the proceedings. Realizing their wish, they perform abishek and archanas and express their gratitude to Lord and Mother.  Greatness Of Temple: This place is sung by Saivite saints along with the praise of Kuthalam in their hymns also known as Tiruthuruthi.  The wedding of a princess was fixed to a prince here, but her parents died before the event.  The bride side cancelled the marriage.  The prince begged the Lord to get him the princess.  Lord sent a Bhoodha (something like a ghost but used for good purpose), brought the princess and solemnized their wedding.This is also the place where saint Sundarar had a bath in the Agni theertham and got his disease cured.  It also has the reputation of Lord Shiva offering half of Himself to Shakti.

Temple History: Mother Parvathi was born to Sage Bharatha in Kuthalam near Tiruvelvikudi.  She performed penance for 16 Mondays on Lord Shiva to have His hand as Her Lord. Mother made a Linga of sand for the penance.  On the 17th Monday, Lord appeared before Parvathi as Manavaleswarar and promised to marry Her. Accordingly, the rituals (Velvi in Tamil) were conducted with Brahmma being the head priest for this divine marriage. Hence, the place is named Tiru Velvikudi.No poet can describe the beauty of smiling mother in the temple.  Lord Shiva blesses all men and women granting their wedding boon.

Wife’s Thoughts On Husband’s death

I received a Forward.

I am porting some thing which has no relevance, yet relevant to the story here.

Go through the Story.

There is a bland statement to the effect that the husband died and only  narration dealing with monetary affairs.

As if a thought had struck that it might not look nice if nothing is spoken about the deceased husband a reference is made  to the effect that there is no time for grieving.

Strange Logic.

I am yet to know that you need a separate time allocated and available for grieving.

Me. I lost my wife and Me 38 years ago and I have not slept normally at all for all these years , not withstanding that I have grand children.

I do not remember my wife for what she had done for me or what she would be doing for me if were alive to-day, but the pain of having been separated…well… one has to feel it to understand it.

I am called most unemotional by my children and one with a cold heart.

Be it as may,

I know there are issues to be tackled, especially economic.

And Life Goes On.

Yet to focus only on the economic aspects to the exclusion of the pangs of separation?

I do not know.

May I am a fool.

People who are dead and gone will not return.

I know.

But this attitude?

Is this all Marriage and bonding  all about and is this about Valentine’s’ day?

May be this is practical way of Living?!

May be.

What I do know is that even animals forsake their food,especially Monkeys and Elephants , in some cases,die,if they lose their mate.

Are we so advanced not to react humanely?

Have become so obsessed with money to be sanitized from normal human emotions?

Is this Life?

Again I do not know.

I am old-fashioned.

I do not know how to say ‘I Love You’

Nor can I bring myself to say ‘I can not Live with out you’

That’s all I can Say on this story.

For those who know Tamil.

வீடு வரை உறவு  வீதி வரை மனைவி …

‘ ”கொண்டு வந்தால் தந்தை; கொண்டு வந்தாலும் வராவிட்டாலும் தாய், சீர் கொண்டு வந்தால் சகோதரி, கொலையும் செய்வாள் பத்தினி, உயிர் காப்பான் தோழன்” -தூக்கு தூக்கி ‘

பணத்தின் மீதுதான் பக்தி என்றபின் பந்த பாசமே  ஏனடா -கண்ணதாசன்  - பழனி

Grieving for the Wife.

Story:

“Few things I learnt after my husband’s death:-
We always believe we will live forever. Bad things always happen to others.
Only when things hit us bang on your head you realise… Life is so unpredictable….
My husband was an IT guy.All Technical. And I am a chartered accountant.

Awesome combination you may think.
Techie guy so everything is on his laptop.His to do  list.

His e-bill and his bank statements in his email. He even maintained a folder which said IMPWDS wherein he stored all log in id and passwords for all his online accounts.

And even his laptop had a password.

Techie guy so all the passwords were alpha-numeric with a special character not an easy one to crack.

Office policy said passwords needed to be changed every 30 days.

So every time I accessed his laptop I would realize it’s a new password again.

I would simply opt for asking him ‘What’s the latest password’ instead of taking the strain to memorize it.
You may think me being a Chartered Accountant would means everything is documented and filed properly.

Alas! many of my chartered accountant friends would agree that the precision we follow with our office documents and papers do not flow in to day to-day home life. At office you have been the epitome of Reliability / Competent / Diligent etc but.

At home front there is always a tomorrow.
One fine morning my hubby expired in a bike accident on his way home from office.

He was just 33.

His laptop with all his data crashed.everything on his hard disk wiped off.No folder of IMPWDS to refer back to

.His mobile with all the numbers on it was smashed.But that was just the beginning.

I realised I had a lot to learn.
9 years married to one of the best human beings.with no kids.just the two of us to fall back on.but now I stood all alone and lost.
Being chartered accountant helped in more ways than one but it was not enough.

I needed help.His saving bank accounts, his salary bank accounts had no nominee

.On his insurance his mom was the nominee and it was almost 2 years back she had expired. But this was just a start.

I didn’t know the password to his email account where all his e-bill came.

I didn’t know which expenses he paid by standing instructions.
His office front too was not easy. His department had changed recently.I didn’t know his reporting boss name to start with.when had he last claimed his shift allowance, his mobile reimbursement.
The house we bought with all the excitement on a loan thought with our joint salary we could afford the EMI.

When the home loans guys suggested insurance on the loan.we decided the instead of paying the premium the difference in the EMI on account of the insurance could be used pay towards prepayment of the loan and get the tenure down.

We never thought what we would do if we have to live on a single salary.So now there was huge EMI to look into .
I realised I was in for a long haul.
Road accident case.

So everywhere I needed a Death certificate, FIR report, Post Mortem report.

For everything there were forms running into pages.indemnity bonds.notary.surety to stand up for you.

No objections certificates from your co-heirs.
I learnt other than your house, your land,

Your car, your bike are also your property.

So what if you are the joint owner of the flat.you don’t become the owner just because your hubby is no more.

So what if your hubby expired in the bike accident and you are the nominee but if the bike is in a repairable condition .you have to get the bike transferred in your name to claim the insurance.

And that was again not easy.

The bike or car cannot be transferred in your name without going through a set of legal documents.

Getting a Succession Certificate is another battle all together.
Then came the time you realise now you have to start changing all the bills, assets in your name.

Your gas connection, electricity meter, your own house, your car, your investments and all sundries.

And then change all the nominations where your own investments are concerned.

And again a start of a new set of paperwork.
To say I was shaken.my whole life had just turned upside down was an understatement.

You realise you don’t have time to mourn and grieve for the person with whom you spend the best years of your life

. Because you are busy sorting all the paper work.
I realised then how much I took life for granted

.I thought being a chartered accountant I am undergoing so many difficulties.what would have happened to someone who was house maker who wouldn’t understand this legal hotchpotch.
A sweet friend then told me dear this was not an end.you have no kids.your assets will be for all who stand to claim.after my hubby’s sudden death.I realised it was time I took life more seriously.

I now needed to make a Will.

I would have laughed if a few months back if he had asked me to make one

 

.But now life had taken a twist.
Lessons learnt this hard way were meant to be shared.

After all why should the people whom we love the most suffer after we are no more.

Sorting some paperwork before we go will at least ease some of their grief.
1. Check all your nominations…
It’s a usual practice to put a name (i.e in the first place if you have mentioned it) and royally forget about it. Most of us have named our parent as a nominee for investments, bank accounts opened before marriage. We have not changed the same even years after they are no longer there with us. Even your salary account usually has no nomination.. Kindly check all your Nominations.
- Bank Accounts
- Fixed Deposits, NSC
- Bank Lockers
- Demat Accounts
- Insurance (Life, Bike or Car or Property)
- Investments
- PF Pension Forms
2. Passwords..
We have passwords for practically everything. Email accounts, Bank accounts, even for the laptop you use. What happens when your next in kin cannot access any of these simply because they do not know your password… Put it down on a paper.
3. Investments.
Every year for tax purpose we do investments. Do we maintain an excel sheet about it. If so is it on the same laptop of which the password you had not shared. Where are those physical investments hard copy.
4. Will.
Make a Will. I know you will smile even I would.had I not gone through all what I did.It would have made my life lot easier.a lot less paperwork.I wouldn’t had to provide an indemnity bond, get it notarised, ask surety to stand up, no objections certificates from others…
5. Liabilities.
When you take a loan say for your house or car.Check out on all the what ifs.what if I am not there tomorrow.what if I lose my job.Will the EMI still be within my range.If not get an insurance on the loan.The people left will not have to worry on something as basic as their own house.
My battles have just begun…But let us at least try to make few changes so that our loved ones would not suffer after we go.We do not know what will happen in the future.

But as the Scout motto goes: “Be prepared “

 

Increased Divorces IT Contribution of Stress

The incidence of Divorces in India are rising .

But on a Global scale India ranks at the lowest in The Wold.

Divorce Statistics.

Statistics shows that only 1 out of 100 Indian marriages end up to a divorce which is quite low in comparison to America’s 50% of marriages turning into breakups.

The divorce rate in Indian villages is even lower in comparison to urban India.
The following figures will help you to get an idea about the divorce rate in India with respect to global divorce rate.

• Sweden – 54.9%
• United States – 54.8%
• Russia – 43.3%
• United Kingdom – 42.6
• Germany – 39.4%
• Israel – 14.8%
• Singapore – 17.2%
• Japan – 1.9%
• Srilanka – 1.5%
• India – 1.1%

http://www.indidivorce.com/divorce-rate-in-india.html

The rate of divorce in India was even low in the previous decade, where only 7.40 marriages out of 1,000 marriages were annulled.

However,Divorce rates in India are increasing.

“The past one year has witnessed 43,000 divorces across the country. However, owing to the awareness relating to men’s rights nationwide, the number of divorce by mutual consent has also gone up. Today, statistics shows 60 per cent of the divorces is by mutual consent.

Among states with the highest number of divorces, Maharashtra topped the list in the past year, accounting for nearly 20,000 cases, with Mumbai and Pune alone accounting for 15,000 of them, while the remaining were reported from Nashik, Aurangabad and Nagpur

http://www.rediff.com/news/report/maharashtra-tops-nation-in-divorce-cases/20120330.htm

Divorce statistics indicate that in the last couple of decades, the number of married persons in the U.S. has significantly dropped down. The percentage of married people in U.S. was lower than 60% in 2002 compared to 72% in 1970. The reason for the failure for 80% of the marriages is “irreconcilable differences” among couples. The chances of the first marriage ending in a divorce vary. According to the divorce statistics, 20% of first marriages fail after 5 years, 33% after 10 years whereas 43% end in divorce after 15 years.

Divorce rates in The IT sector are higher as compared to other sectors.

Lawyers say that lifestyle change is one of the primary reasons for marriages ending in divorce.

Around five years ago, the ratio was one divorce per 1,000 marriages in India , and today statistics indicate that there are 13 divorces for every 1,000 marriage.

The main reasons attributed to the break-up of marriages in India today are related to equal income between sexes and the high stress levels.

The maximum number of divorces is among call centre employees, medical professionals and those in the technology sector.

I had already discussed the work pressure/Culture in The IT industry contributing to Stress, strained relationships and Divorce

Links provided at the end of the post.

Work and Behavioral Change in IT Industry.

In India there has been a Joint Family system till recently.

It started breaking up about a decade back.

Now the process has been hastened by the introduction of IT.

Till the advent of IT, though the joint Family system was breaking up, the custom of the sons staying with his parents was continued.

But after both the husband and wife have started earning from IT and Call Centers  this practice changed.

Now the habit of the wife’s parents staying in the daughter’s Home is increasing while the parents of the Boy  live separately

A case in which a Husband murdered his wife for constantly harassing him to live separately, in Bangalore last year!

Though the Husbands declare they are ‘fast’ in Lifestyle, they are unable to come to terms with their spouses mixing freely with the other Sex in their Profession, though they may deny it.

I have cases reported to me by the Husbands themselves!

The value changes are difficult to adjust and it takes time.

This is a high pressure point.

Recognition and promotions in the IT Industry is related to performance(It is more pronounced in the IT sector).

The Indian Male Psyche is not ready to absorb or adjust with it.

In fact this is a global phenomenon, though it is illogical.

Another issue is balancing Home and Work, especially for women.

The issue becomes complex with the arrival of a Baby.

How does one handle these issues?

“The pressures of the modern workplace has made a bigger difference in the lifestyle of techies.
India still has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world, with about one in 1,000 marriages collapsing, according to recent studies.
But the courts are now seeing so many new cases that the government has proposed making divorce easier and faster, in line with other countries.
“There has been a huge change, a drastic change and divorce rates are increasing,” Dr Geetanjali Sharma, a marriage counsellor working in Gurgaon, a wealthy Delhi satellite city, told the BBC.
“There’s been a 100 percent increase in divorce rates in the past five years alone.They don’t want to put more efforts into a relationship to fix the issues.”
Most of those splitting up are members of India’s thriving, urban middle class whose lives have been transformed by India’s boom, and whose aspirations are radically different to those of their parents and grandparents….

The pressures of the modern workplace make a bigger difference, she thinks, than whether it was a traditional arranged marriage, or a so-called “love marriage”.

The divorce rates in Kerala are going up. In 2009-10, the number of divorce cases numbered 11,600, with the majority being from the IT industry.

“The situation is disturbing,” says Rajiv Menon (name changed), a senior legal practitioner, who works at the Family Court, Kochi. “Most couples who work in the IT industry break up within two to three years of marriage.” Rajiv puts it down to the odd working hours, usually at night, the high stress of the job, and an egoistic attitude.

“The spouses adopt an attitude of superiority to each other,” he says. “There is also a lack of communication which causes many misunderstandings.”

Meanwhile, Antony gives other reasons.

“When they first join the industry, youngsters get swayed by the high incomes,” says Antony. “Many of them take to drinks, drugs, late night parties and watching porn on the internet.” Inevitably, the youngsters lose their equilibrium. “There is a widespread prevalence of pre-marital sex,” says Antony. “They have been influenced by the serials on TV which glorify pre- and extra-marital sex in order to garner good ratings.”

IT professionals in troubled marriages are hacking into their spouse’s email account for proof of extramarital affair or salary, say lawyers and cyber experts.

Cyber experts say a growing number of cases have come to light where couples are hacking into each other’s email accounts to collect evidence for divorce. And some are going a step further by fabricating electronic evidence for early separation reports NDTV
Lawyers also claim that couples on the verge of separation are increasingly resorting to hacking techniques to score on each other.
“No good lawyer would advise the litigants to hack into each other’s accounts, but we are coming across many litigants who come to us already in possession of sheets of conversation wherein it becomes clear that the other person is having a relationship outside of marriage that goes beyond mere friendship,” said Advocate Ajit Kulkarni.

According to lawyers in the city, 30 percent of all divorces that happen in the city every year are among couples working in the IT sector, and 50 percent of them use hacking techniques to collect electronic evidence against each other.”

http://ramanan50.wordpress.com/2013/01/30/stress-in-it-industry-causes/

Matrimony Site Match, Man Tries To Murder the Bride

A man tried to Murder the Girl who was matched by the matrimony site Match.com , a Matrimony Service provider.

 

Because of the latest stratification of the Society, economic affluence and  Technology people resort to matrimony site advertising.

 

But one has to ensure that back checks are carried out by one self  and take care in collecting information and verify it .

 

Personal visits are mandatory.

 

It is safe to meet with the parents and enquire about the family directly and cross verify with neighbors diplomatically.

 

Though the process is laborious and calls for tact, it is important as it involves Life.

 

These suggestions are for Indian families who still think parents are important.

 

I got my son married through Internet matrimony site tamil matrimony.com

 

It  is not  correct to blame the matrimony site, as physical check of every one registers. is not possible.

 

Story:

matrimony site.

Mary Kay Beckman first met Wade Ridley after the online service paired the two up in September 2010, and knew him for only 10 days before breaking up with him. Four months later, according to Courthouse News Service, on the night of Jan. 21, 2011, Ridley hid in her garage and eventually attacked her, stabbing her 10 times and kicking her in the head. Beckman is now suing Match.com for $10 million, citing negligence, negligent misrepresentation, deceptive trade, failure to warn and negligent infliction of emotional distress.

 

In her official complaint, Beckman claimed that the site led her to believe that she’d end up in a  ”stable and loving relationship with another member” and didn’t properly warn her about the dangers of meeting ”an individual whose intentions are not to find a mate, but to find victims to kill or rape.” However, Beckman has not sued Ridley, whodied in prison last year while serving  a sentence of up to 70 years for the crime. (For the record, he was also wanted for killing an ex-girlfriend in Phoenix.)

Following the attack, Beckman underwent several surgeries to repair her jaw, save her eyesight and hearing and to replace part of her skull, Courthouse News Service reports. She seeks $346,000 in economic damages, $5.4 million in noneconomic damages, and $4.1 million in punitive damages. In a statement, Match.com agreed that what happened to Beckman was “horrible” but said that the lawsuit was “absurd” and that the site cannot be held responsible for the actions of one “sick, twisted individual.”

http://newsfeed.time.com/2013/01/25/woman-sues-match-com-after-date-tries-to-murder-her/#ixzz2J08KueFx