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Eleven Kinds Of Lullaby For Children

In lifestyle, Parenting, Tamils on January 21, 2014 at 18:58

Lullaby is one of the most delightful forms of Literature.

Lullaby in Tami

Lullaby

Though I am very well versed in English, Sanskrit and Tamil Literature. I have a bird’s-eye view of them.

To my knowledge the kinds of Lullabies found in Tamil Literature seem to be unmatched.

I have not come across anything close to it.

Though Tamil and Tamils  are perceived to be highly emotional, thanks to idiotic self-styled fanatics of Dravidian parties who make a living off Tamil, the Truth is that Tamil and Tamil Grammar,though very rich in content, imagery,has a highly organised system of Grammar totally different from Sanskrit.

It is organised not merely by content of the poem but also relates to the Ages Of Man,Woman and Child.

Shakespeare would talk to us on The Seven Ages of Man in As you Like It.

Tamil speaks of the Ages of Woman.

Read my post on this,

Lullaby forms an important form of Tamil Literature.

It abounds in early Classical Tamil , though it has gained momentum in the middle ages through the Bhakti Ilakkiyam(Devotional Classics)

This has organised Literature in such a manner that it has assigned different types of Lullabies to be sung for the Child.

As we all know, at least Grandparents know, that children love Lullabies.

As the child grows up, so is the ear for Music.

Hence the Lullaby one sings  between one year to another has to be different to keep the child engaged.

Tamil has done it.

They have devised a system where various ages , corresponding type of Lullabies are listed and the parameters for them set.

There are Ten.

They are.

1. காப்புப் பருவம் – இது குழந்தையின் இரண்டாவது மாதத்தில் பாடுவது.
எந்த குழந்தையாயினும் முதலில் அதற்கு எந்த தீங்கும் நேர்ந்திடா வண்ணம், சிவன், பார்வதி, விநாயகர், திருமால், முருகன் என்று பலத் தெய்வங்களும் குழந்தையைக் காக்க வேண்டி,அவர்கள் மீது பாடல்கள் பாடி, குழந்தைக்குக் காப்பிட வேண்டும்.
Protective Age.
This  type is sung during the second Month of the Child.
Here as child is very tender, Gods like Ganapati,Siva,Parvati, Subramanya or Vishnu are invoked and prayed for the protection of the Child.
2. செங்கீரைப் பருவம் – இது குழந்தையின் ஐந்தாம் மாதத்தில் பாடுவது.
இந்த பருவத்தில், குழந்தை ஓரளவு தவழவும் முயற்சிக்கும்.அதாவது, குழந்தை தன் ஒரு காலை மடக்கி, ஒரு காலை நீட்டி, இரு கைகளையும் நிலத்தில் ஊன்றித் தலையை நிமிர்த்தி முகமாட்டும் பருவம். குழந்தை இவ்வாறு செய்யும் போது, அது செங்கீரைக் காற்றில் ஆடுவது போன்று மிகவும் அழகாக, மனமும் அதோடு சேர்ந்து ஆடுற மாதிரி இருக்கும்.

For a toddler of Five months.
The child would start Crawling, by folding one leg, leaning both the hands on the ground , shall thrust its face.
This would look like a typical South Indian Green Leaves plant fluttering in the breeze.
Meter for this type of Lullaby would be more bet oriented.
The name of the plant ‘Sengeerai‘ is given for this stage.3. தாலப் பருவம் – இது குழந்தையின் ஏழாம் மாதத்தில் பாடுவது.
தால்~நாக்கு. தாய் தன் தாலை ஆட்டிப் பாடும் போது, நாக்கின் அசைவுகளைக் குழந்தைகள் கவனித்துக் கேட்கும்.(தாலாட்டுப் பாடும் பருவம்)

Next is sung at the Seven Month.
Now the child would carefully observe the tongue movement of the Mother.
this is the actual age of the Lullaby’,Thaalaattu’.4. சப்பாணிப் பருவம் – இது ஒன்பதாம் மாதம் பாடப்படும்.
சப்பாணி என்றால் – கைகளைத் தட்டுதல்; குழந்தைத் தன் இரு கைகளையும் ஒன்றாகச் சேர்த்துத் தட்டி ஆடும் பருவம்.

At nine months, the child would clap its hands.
This is called ‘Chappani’ or Clapping.
Interesting to note the word in Kannada for Clapping is ‘Chappali’5. முத்தப் பருவம் – இது குழந்தையின் பதினோறாம் மாதத்தில் பாடுவது.
பெற்றோர், தங்களுக்கு முத்தம் தருமாறு குழந்தையிடம் கெஞ்சும் பருவம்.

At the eleventh month, parents beseech the child to give them a Kiss.
This is named as ‘Muthaadal Paruvam’ Kissing Age.6. வாரானைப் பருவம் (வருகை) – இது குழந்தையின் 13ம் மாதத்தில் பாடுவது. குழந்தை தன் ஒரு வருட காலத்தின் நிறைவில் அவர்கள் செய்யும் சாகசம், தளிர் நடைப் போடுதல்.

ஓரளவு நடக்கத் தெரிந்த தன் குழந்தையை, தாய் தன் இரு கைகளையும் முன்னே நீட்டி, தன்னிடம் நடந்து வருமாறு அழைக்கும் பருவம்.

This is the Thirteenth Month when the child is able to walk, albeit  hesitatingly, with it’s both hands outstretched, when parents call the Child to come to them.7. அம்புலிப் பருவம் – இது குழந்தையின் பதினைந்தாம் மாதத்தில் நிகழ்வது.

அம்புலி என்றால் நிலா. நிலவை நோக்கிக் கை நீட்டி, தன் குழந்தையுடன் விளையாட வருமாறு அம்புலியை அழைக்கும் பருவம்.

At the Fifteenth Month, the Moon is shown to the child and the child invites Moon to come and play.8. சிற்றில் பருவம் – இது குழந்தையின் பதினெட்டாம் மாதத்தில் பாடப்படுவது.

ஆண்பிள்ளைகளும், பெண் பிள்ளைகளும் வேறுபடுவது இந்த பருவத்தில் இருந்துதான்.
(சிற்றில் – சிறு+இல் – சிறிய வீடு)பெண்பிள்ளைகள் மணலில் சிறுவீடு கட்டி விளையாடும் பொழுது, அவர்கள் மண்வீட்டைத் தன் சிறு பொற் பாதத்தால் உதைத்துக் கலைக்கும் பருவம்.
At the eighteenth month, male and female differentiation  is noticed and accordingly the stages.songs vary.
This is called the ‘Sitril Paruvam’
The child would a house of Sand , destroys it with its feet and rebuilds.

ஆண்டாள் கூட சொல்வாளே, நாச்சியார் திருமொழியின் இரண்டாம் திருமொழியில்(நாமமாயிரம்), இடைப்பெண்கள் சிற்றில் சிதைக்க வேண்டாவென்று கண்ணனை வேண்டுவர்களே!

‘எங்கள் சிற்றில் வந்து சிதையேலே’ என்று ஆண்டாள் சொல்லுவா.
9. சிறுபறைப் பருவம் – இது குழந்தையின் பத்தொன்பதாம் மாதத்தில் பாடப்படும்.
This is the Eighteenth Month when the child plays with a small drum.
Siru Parai Paruvam.ஒரு சிறிய பறையையும் குச்சியையும் வைத்து பறை கொட்டி விளையாடும் பருவம்.

10. சிறுதேர் பருவம் – இது குழந்தையின் இருபத்திஒன்றாம் மாதத்தில் பாடப்படுவது.

Playing with a Small Chariot.

At the age of 21 months , the child would play with a small chariot made of wood.
Siru Ther Paruvam.

பெண்பால் பிள்ளைத் தமிழ்:

கழங்காடல் – அதாவது, தாயக்கட்டை மாதிரி ஒன்ன வெச்சுக்கிட்டு உருட்டி விளையாடுவது.
அம்மானை ஆடல் – அம்மானை ன்னா பந்து. பெண்பிள்ளைகள் ஒரு பாட்டு பாடிக் கொண்டே பந்து விளையாடுவாங்க. அப்பொழுது பாடும் பாட்டு ‘அம்மானைப் பாட்டு’.
ஊசலாடும் பருவம் – ஊஞ்சல் ஆடி விளையாடும் பருவம்.

Then onwards two stages are given for Girls.

One is Kazhangaadal, playing with small pebbles or stones on hand ,tossing them while singing.

Might use Flower balls.

Another is playing in a Swing.

Oonjal Paruvam

Look at the way the growth of the child is observed.

We have lost these pleasures to TV and Video games.

I have not observed my children doing these.

In fact I never noticed them growing up for I was ‘Busy!’

I am on enjoying these in my Grand son and Grand daughter.

Ref:

http://aazhvarmozhi.blogspot.in/2009/07/blog-post_9502.html

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Desire Avarice Jealousy Lifestyle.

In lifestyle on January 1, 2014 at 08:57

I am hurt.

I am unhappy.

These are the most heard from people.

This is also reported  to be cause of Stress.

People  attribute this to the changed Lifestyle and a host of other factors, like work pressure,peer Pressure.

But there are more fundamental issues involved.

One is regarding our-self.

Another is how we behave with others.

Regarding the first point, our attitude of Comparing ourselves starts in childhood.

Parents would like children to be what they have failed to be and force them into doing what they may not prefer.

Parents compare their children with other children and force the children.

Then comes the way of behaving.

They are taught what the others follow and this even in matters of Food and dressing.

There is a fine line between good behaviour and aping others, especially the West.

Then Education.

We study what guarantees high income, without bothering whether one has the aptitude or attitude for it.

Lifestyle again.

We acquire , not things we need, but what we think others will be envious about.

That’s the point.

We allow ourselves to be conditioned by the others.

Why?

Because we want to be what they are.

Bottom line of this, we are jealous of them.

But this remains hidden in our heart.

Jealousy, trying to become what we are not and our striving t be like them is the cause for our ills.

This is what we should avoid.

Closely connected to this is our desire , avarice.

We fail to distinguish between Wants and Needs.

Blind desire blurs the line between the two.

Desires are fine.

We should be able to channelized desires, not allow desires to direct our lives, or Desire is impulsive and does not envisage the future problems arising out of satisfying the desires.

If we can avoid Jealousy and Desire, avarice, quality of our Lives would improve.

 

 

Warranty For Interior Decoration Carpentry

In consumer forum on December 29, 2013 at 16:40

Many of us, after spending a lot money on purchasing a New House, entrust the carpentry work/Interior Decorations to some carpenters or some people styling as Interior decorators.

We do not enter into any Warranty.

The Carpenter, Interior decorators tell you that the raw material they have used is the best and the Wood will last for Ten years, other things like door handles, Fittings will last Five Years.

There seems to be no format available.

 

I am providing a Format, which may be customized.

 

This may be cross checked with your lawyer.

 

Stamp paper of Rs 25 will do.

 

But gentlemen do not need agreements, but others can  break it at will, whatever the Clauses!

 

 

 

Warranty.

This Agreement of Warranty is executed between,

……., S/o ……., Aged  years , residing at  …………………………………….                      ,hereinafter called Party of the First Part,

And

Mr./M/s ………S/o , engaged in the business of Interior work/decoration of Homes.’ Residing/located at,……………………………………………

Hereinafter called Party of the Second Part,

Whereas party of the Second Part approached party of the First Part to do Interior decoration, Carpentry work of the residence of party of the First Part, described in detail in the annexure and  Party of the First Part having agreed to give him the Work for a consideration of Rupees  /- ( …….. ) as per specifications of the Party of the First Part,

And the Party of the Second Part, having completed the work  and Party of the Second Part , having paid the agreed consideration of Rupees…….,in full, to Party of the First part

Now enter into an Agreement of Warranty on the Following terms and conditions.

1. Party of the Second part shall replace without any cost, damaged, defective wood used in the work done at the property of the party of the First Part, for period of Ten Years.

2. Cost here includes the cost of replacement of such wood that might need replacement and the labour cost involved in carrying out this work.

3.This replacement of parts used in the work such as Doors, Handles, Faucets ,Door Knobs, Latches, Hinges, Padlocks, springs  and this warranty for these items will be for a Period of Five Years, bells, shelves, screws, hangers, hydraulic equipment, fixtures and kitchen baskets.

4. This Warranty includes ,

4. During such period, the Party of the Second Part shall replace, without any cost, the defective, malfunctioning components, items, to the Party of The First Part.

5. Here Cost denotes cost of the material replaced and the labour charges involved therein.

6.In such an event the party of the Second Part , not being able to fulfil this Warranty, Party of the Second Part, shall pay to party of the Second Part ,a sum equivalent to the cost of the material/s to be replaced and the labour charges involved in repairing/installing the same.

7.The Cost ,in such cases, will be determined by the party of the First part , at market rates, including labour and party of the Second Part shall ay the Party of the  First Part the amount on the claim made by Party of the First Party prior to replacing, reinstalling of such components, products .

8. Limitations.

Limitations: Materials/Components

Laminates, Veneers / Finishes / Hardwoods – 10 years

Electrical lamps, Ballasts, Transformers – 5 years

Fabrics, pneumatic lifts, foam – 5 years

Custom products built to customer specifications – 5 years

Seating foam padding – 5 years

Seating metal accents glides – 10 years

Seating wood frame – 10 years

Seating High Use Items – 5 years

(High Use Items include, but are not limited to, table arms, electrical components, ganging mechanisms, pneumatic lifts, and polymer based components)

9. The Warranty will come into Force effective September 1(First of September), 2013.

10. Any dispute arising out of this agreement is subject to ………….Jurisdiction.

11. Parties of the   First Part and the Second Part hereby affirm the aforesaid agreement and sign this Agreement,

Dated , …….,……,….

Annexure.

 

Party of the First Part.                                                                                                                                                                                    Party of the Second Part.

(                                       )                                                                                                                                                                                           (                                                )

Witnesses.

 

1.Name and Address.                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Signature

2.

.

Place.

Date.

Khatha Certificate For Property Registration, Transfer. How

In consumer forum on October 25, 2013 at 08:28

Khatha is the  Document required for Registration,Ownership and Transfer of Property.

This is the most important Document in Bangalore Metro(BBMP).

To Obtain Khatha.

The Stages in Obtaining Khatha.

What is Khatha Extract:?

Khatha Extract is entering detail of the Property from the assessment register.

The extract is required to get a trade license, or to buy a particular property.

It has the details of the property like the name, size of the property, use of the property (commercial purpose, residential), annual value, when assessed last.

Who Should Obtain Khatha:

All property owners/holders who hold property within the BBMP jurisdiction are eligible to obtain a Khatha.

How To Get Khatha?

1.Get a notarized Copy of the Sale Deed.

This can be obtained from a Notary for a fee of rs 100 to 300.

2.Fill up the Khatha  Form. Link provided to wards the end of this Post.

3.The Application Fee is Rs.10.

4.Get the acknowledgement, it is in the Form of Registration

.5.Documents to be submitted with the Khatha Application.

  1. i. Title deed (Re-conveyed documents from BDA in case of BDA re-conveyed areas)
    ii. Tax paid receipts and Khatha details
    iii. Sketch of your property showing its boundaries and location of site
    iv. Improvement Charges
    v. National Saving Certificates for Rs.200/-
    vi. Encumbrance certificate for vacant sites
    vii. Flow chart of titleDocuments required for property of land type- BDA / KHB Layout

i. Title deed or Possession certificate
ii. National Saving Certificates for Rs.200/-
iii. Encumbrance certificate for vacant sites
iv. Flow chart of title.

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  1. Issues of demand note: Generally it takes 15 days to process your application. You have to keep enquiring till the Demand Note is issued in your favour. The amount of Registration Fees to be paid is indicated in the demand note.
  1. Seek Information: After 2 months if there is still no activity then file an RTI to seek information on the status of the Khata Registration.
  2. Assessment of Property by Officials: The BBMP Revenue in-charge and Assistant Revenue Officer will personally visit the property to assess it. Please note that if the property is assessed as commercial and reads as ‘Rented Out’,  the Property Tax is twice the normal property tax amount payable.
  3. Khata Registration fee: After the property is assessed, the BBMP formally communicates this to you while mentioning the property dimensions (in sq. feet), its value as per BBMP assessment and the tax liability thereon.
  4.  One is also provided with a notice mentioning the same and informing you to pay the Khata Registration fee – 2% of the property value as Khata Registration fee (this is 2% of the value mentioned in the Sale deed).
  5. Once you pay the Khata Registration fee, in about 1-2 weeks, you will receive the notice for paying the pending property tax.
  6. Without this the Khata Extract will not be issued in your name. But if you have reached this point it means the Khata has been technically registered on your name.

 

Websites

Bruhat Bengaluru Mahanagar Palike

Khatha services: BBMP

Application Download at,

Khatha Application/Acknowledgement Formhttp://www.karunadu.gov.in/e-forms/Pages/all-eforms-main.aspx

 

 

For Clarification, Contact,

Revenue Department, BBMP

*Please check at the Link if there are any changes in the procedure.

 

 

 

 

Domestic Violence Against Men Helpline

In consumer forum on September 25, 2013 at 09:04

Domestic Violence Against Men.

Domestic Violence Against Men.

Violence is violence.

Yet when a mention of the term domestic violence crops up, it always is the violence perpetrated by Men against Women.

What about Men subjected to domestic violence by women?

Indian law is silent on this issue , so are laws the world over.

“Definitions.- In this Act, unless the context otherwise requires,-

(a) ” aggrieved person” means any woman who is, or has been, in a domestic relationship with the respondent and who alleges to have been subjected to any act of domestic violence by the respondent;” Domestic Violence Act India.
Domestic Violence against Men.

Findings that women are as violent as men have been termed “gender symmetry”.[1][9][10][11][12][13]

A 32-nation study of university students “revealed an overwhelming body of evidence that bidirectional violence is the predominant pattern of perpetration; and this study, along with evidence from many other studies (Medeiros & Straus, 2007), indicates that the etiology of PV is mostly parallel for men and women.”[14]

Domestic Violence against Men.

Domestic Violence against Men.

Straus and Gelles found that in couples reporting spousal violence, 27% of the time the man struck the first blow; in 24% of cases, the woman initiated the violence. The rest of the time, the violence was mutual, with both partners brawling. The results were the same even when the most severe episodes of violence were analyzed. In order to counteract claims that the reporting data was skewed, female-only surveys were conducted, asking females to self-report, and the data was the same.[15] The simple tally of physical acts is typically found to be similar in those studies that examine both directions, but some studies show that male violence may be more serious. Male violence may do more damage than female violence;[16] women are more likely to be injured and/or hospitalized. Female partners are more likely to be killed by their male partners than the reverse (62.1% to 37.9% per Department of Justice study), and women in general are more likely to be killed by their spouses than by all other types of assailants combined.[17] From a data set of 6,200 cases of spousal abuse in the Detroit area of the US in 1978-79, a study found that men used weapons 25% of the time while female assailants used weapons 86% of the time; 74% of men sustained injury and of these 84% required medical care.[18] Other studies report that female perpetrated domestic abuse is more common than male among adolescents.[19][20](wiki)

Signs of Domestic Violence against Men.

You might be experiencing domestic violence if your partner:

  • Calls you names, insults you or puts you down
  • Prevents you from going to work or school
  • Stops you from seeing family members or friends
  • Tries to control how you spend money, where you go or what you wear
  • Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful
  • Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs
  • Threatens you with violence or a weapon
  • Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, your children or your pets
  • Assaults you while you’re sleeping, you’ve been drinking or you’re not paying attention to make up for a difference in strength
  • Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will
  • Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it
  • Portrays the violence as mutual and consensual.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/domestic-violence-against-men/MY00557

Helpline.

National Helpline
01823 334244 
If you are a man suffering Domestic Abuse or Violence call this number.
Our confidential helpline is manned from Monday to Friday 10am – 4pm and 7pm – 9pm.
Helpline services for the Deaf are provided through Text Relay. Visitwww.textrelay.org for details.
Normal BT rates apply
If you are in immediate danger, call 999

http://www.mankind.org.uk/

Philip Cook’s book Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence offers an account of the politics of statistics across four decades of research on intimate partner violence, chronicling the ways in which the battering of men is overlooked and under-discussed. Cook points out that women make up 20% of domestic violence arrests and, in the reissued version of the book released in 2009, shows how these figures have changed over time, reflecting reporting practices rather than a dramatic increase in the levels of violence. Cook cites a survey sponsored by the Law Enforcement Assistance Administration of abused women seeking shelter in Kentucky found that among violent couples, 38% of attacks were by ones where women reported that they had initiated a violent act.

Unsurprisingly, men are far less likely than women to report incidents where they have been injured as it might call into question the status of their manhood. For men who did not hit back, retaliate, or perform an evasive action, there remains an expectation among many of the men themselves that they should have been able to fend off what transpired. Counselors note that boys and men who have been the victims of violence have a hard time accepting the label of victim.  Feminized associations with victim language makes it difficult for men and boys who experience violence to seek and accept help.

http://thefeministwire.com/2013/03/feminist-anxiety-about-domestic-violence-against-men/

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