Rockefeller Center, in New York City. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Life loses its charm and becomes tedious when one has everything in terms of material comforts.
Some get things too easily.
People long for good food,shelter ,good clothes,Car,Gadgets like Mobile, iPod,Home, a Girl/Boy friend , a job which appears to be satisfying for a while.
They get married.
They postpone be-getting children to ‘enjoy Life’
They work inordinate and ungodly hours, eat junk food, guzzle soft drinks ,Hard Drinks.
On Saturdays/Sundays, they wake up around 12 and laze about, go out for food, sleep , then go out for Dinner and watch movies.
Suddenly they realize that they are ‘burnt out’
They have no desire to do anything.
They leave jobs saying that they want to do things they always wanted to do, forgetting that they chose their Careers on their own and made decisions on their own over every thing.
They become abrasive and irritated and become depressed.
This does not end here.
Once out of job, they try to do some thing which they think they like doing , get disillusioned shortly and start hunting for a job.
Some times they get it immediately, some times they don’t.
They become depressed further and consult a Psychiatrist.
The Psychiatrist tells them that they should get their priorities right and decide on what they like and start doing what they like.
And the whole Cycle begins again!
People achieve material comforts without too much of a struggle and they receive more they need.
They are left with out the scope for yearning, which alone can spur one to be vigorous.
They follow skin deep relationships taken in by spurious Love.
For them,Personal communications are not dictated by spontaneity but by careful calculated moves.
Relationships are spontaneous so is Love(not lust).
They lack personal goals that appear reachable yet not reachable.
Only when the objective remains tantalizingly reachable,is life interesting, not other wis.
Values like affection,honesty,caring for others genuinely, the ability ti accommodate others and the acceptance of Life as it comes are the keys to Happiness.
Above all Faith is necessary, to sustain interest Life.
If Life runs along predicted lines it would lose its charm.
It is its sheer unpredictability that makes Life worth Living.
Why can’t people be contented and be happy?
Achievements are fine but at what cost?
To be praised by others while w live and be spoken of highly after we die for having left ‘our footprints’
Of what use is this?
All achievers of whom we praise and extol,of what use are these to them if they are unhappy?
Of what use is our praise of Alexander,Michael Angelo,Da Vinci, Gandhi, Einstein to them after they are dead?
Let us Live simple and understand that life is worth living if there is struggle.
“In a hearbreaking and perfectly titled and presumably unpaid-for Huffington Post post, “A Struggle of Not Struggling,” Taylor reveals, in true Lifetime Movie fashion, that her seemingly perfect life has a dark underbelly that threatens to eat her alive.
Now, two months after graduation, I seem to be one of just a handful of people that’s been able to get themselves on their feet, pay their own bills and actually put together some semblance of an adult life with minimal parental assistance. I bought a car, found an apartment and set up a 401k, just six months after turning 22. I came down on the ‘right’ side of every statistic — I found a job in my field that actually pays well, I’m living on my own, and seem to have everything that these other college graduates are dying to have.
But what about that 10-cents-a-word life that I always wanted? What about New York City? What about freelancing, penning newspaper columns and urban adventures? What about the struggles that I see on Girls and the tales of credit card debt and ramen noodle dinners? Aren’t these the things that really make you 22?
The things that really make you 22 are A) modeling your own life after the characters on Girlsin exactly the same way that a previous generation did on characters from Sex and the City, while simultaneously harboring the belief that the depth of your worldview and artistic nature makes you vastly superior to that of anyone who would model themselves on something so gauche as a TV show character, and B) writing first-person essays on the internet that you will look back on with disgust. So rest easy, Taylor Cotter: you are 22.
But now that Taylor has settled into her dream job as an editorial assistant at StudentAdvisor.com, she might as well be 82. What the hell is the dif?
Anne Marie Slaughter‘s article for The Atlantic, “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” has been quoted and criticized ad nauseam. However, all that’s run through my head is that, at 22, I’ve already had to make life-defining decisions. I chose the path of a full-time job and an adult life. I gave up on the adventures, on freedom, on youth. Forget about career versus motherhood — I can’t even have it all now.
I suppose that I’m grateful that I can make all my car payments and start saving for retirement while most of my friends are living at home and working part-time jobs — but I often find myself lamenting the fact that I’m not living at home and not working a part-time job. From my perspective, these are just some of the life-changing, character-building experiences that I may never have.
At 22, Taylor Cotter has had to make life-defining decisions, such as whether to accept a position as editorial assistant at StudentAdvisor.com. Her fate is sealed. From now on, she’s just “that editorial assistant at StudentAdvisor.com,” rather than “that insouciant unemployed 22-year-old who is stealing beer from bodega, and yes the police have been called, my friend.” Taylor often laments the fact that she has a full-time job and an apartment and then, while lamenting these things, types on her essay draft that she later submits to the HuffingtonPost.com these words: “From my perspective, these are just some of the life-changing, character-building experiences that I may never have.”
From who else’s perspective would you be writing, Taylor? Fanciful girl! From everyone else’s perspective, you can still look forward to the character-building experience of having something you wrote widely ridiculed on the internet. And I can tell you from experience, Taylor: the worst part is when you realize that you weren’t even paid for it. Never underestimate the character-building situations that you can get yourself in, just by being a 22-year-old who is complaining about having a stable income during the worst recession in living memory.
Do not be too harsh on Taylor, gentle reader. Though she has a steady income, an apartment, a car, and a healthy sense of entitlement, she is right to mourn her predicament: she lives in Boston. Even Lena Fucking Dunham worship is preferable to that cruel fate.”