A woman took photographs of herself and made them Public.
If we can see ourselves (not in the Mirror, though, when alone), as others see us, then most of our impressions, especially vanity will vanish.
I am sure I would not accept Me as I am as such!
Glad that there is no Technology as yet to reproduce Images with our feelings and Thoughts!
Story and Photos.
When she returned to school and developed the film, the results caught her off guard.
The image of Davis, titled Pressure Point, shows her larger, covered body seated on a towel while her thinner friends around her wear bikinis.
“I wanted to make a picture to see what that felt like,” Davis said about the moment on the beach. “I was shocked by the ability I had to kind of freeze that moment, to take a mundane but painful moment that was able to be described in the image.”
Much of that work included photographing herself in ordinary situations: eating, relaxing, showering, etc. Her self-portraits also explored a private, fantasy space that were inspired by a sense of longing, though Davis explained that the line between fantasy and reality—especially when using photography as a medium—is easily blurred.
“Some of the images are real genuine feelings, and others are things I wanted to experience, and I used the license of the camera. … I wanted to know what it felt like to be held by someone or to be with a man, and the camera allowed me to have that experience,” Davis explained.
The image 4 a.m. (2003), for example, was inspired by a lonely return home after a night with friends, many of whom were in relationships.
“I came home at 4 a.m. and made that picture at that instance of having that empty, yearning feeling,” she said. Fantasy No. 1 shows a similar experience, though this time with a “fantasy” man present.
While she was working on the images, Davis said she never thought about an audience or what it would be like to show the work. When she eventually did start to show it, some of the images were tough for her to share, but the exposure also allowed her to work through that sense of vulnerability and insecurity.
“I was able to deal with the emotion and vulnerable state and release it,” she said. But something else happened during the process: She became upset with herself for not changing her body, and showing her work spurred her to take action.
“It was kind of shocking, kind of painful to look at myself and to see myself evolving and growing and understanding a deeper sense of myself but my body not being able to change after nine years’ time. I was shocked and thought ‘why can’t I take control of my life?’ and I realized I didn’t want to wake up at 40 and be in this body—I wanted to know what it would be like to be in a different body, and that was a painful realization,” Davis explained.
Davis decided to have Lap Band surgery and was surprised at how quickly weight started to come off. And although she thought she would be documenting her physical transformation, she was surprised that suddenly she found herself ignoring her camera. She explained:
“I was catching up on the emotional side of [losing weight] and feeling different in the world. … I wanted to experience what dating was, what it felt like in the world and not use a camera to gain access to anything and I didn’t want it to be a distraction for living in the world.”
Davis eventually began dating a man and only recently took out her camera in order to document the experience.
“Now I want to see what this feels like, so I’ve been shooting myself with him a lot,” she began. “I’m just trying to figure it all out now.”
- Poetry Of Microscopy Photo Essay (ramanan50.wordpress.com)
What is it like to leave everything you have and leave with essential possession?
What is more shocking is the revelation by a Field worker of an NGO that the Elders are being killed in the Southern Districts of Tamil Nadu,India much in the manner of Infanticide where in tamil Nadu they resort to killing Female children by கள்ளிப்பால் the administering juice of Cactaceae.
The Elders are killed by giving them Tender coconut Water and splashing them with very cold water , this is called ‘water splashing,தண்ணி சாத்துதல் .
The other method seems to be by administering poison injection!
Having had a look at the Statistics, we might look at the problem
The problem as enumerated by the Elders.
The problem of Solitude.
One of the main causes for depression among the elderly is that their children do not spend much time with them even if they happen to live in with them.
Another grouse is that children have left for abroad to pursue their careers.
As one grows old whether it is your son or yourself your perspective and the equation of relationships undergo a subtle change.
Children have their own official pressure, financial commitment and they have their own wife and children to cope up with.
It is not fair to expect that the children behave and communicate with us the same way they have been with us after marriage.
Wish those who complain on these lines might ask themselves how they have been with their parents and if their parents were to be alive, they would be leveling the same charges against them.
As to children going abroad, the children have a whole life head of them and now thy they have opportunities to earn more by going abroad, which we did not get at our time.
So it is a question of one understanding what is good for the children at the economic front.
Do not for a moment imagine that the children do not think of these problems and are selfish.
In fact my son hesitated for even applying when an opportunity was awaiting. worrying as to how to leave me and my wife alone.
I advised him that at most I might live for about 10 or 15 more years , he has a future to look forward o and that i had been taking care of myself and my wife before he was born!
As to me being old I informed him that there are so many in the World without children and even if they have, for some reason or other could not live with them, all not because of abuse.
I also told him , in the final analysis,one has come alone, lives alone and leaves alone, as a matter of fact.
I think this seems to be a practical way of looking at the problem.
Some parents are not interested to live abroad because they feel they would miss our society and Country.
If you are not prepared to make any compromises at an old age, is it fair to expect youngsters to do so?
Best is to develop an interest in something other than sentimental attachment to Family and go about doing what you love doing but were unable to during your early years.
A gentle man stated that he has Sugar, had knee problem , he has been provided with TV,Laptop ,and all other facilities, and children respect him ‘ yet says he depressed because he has been asked by the Doctors and the family not to work!
What does one say to him?
Children do not respect.
I think there is point in this.
They tend to disrespect elders even when it is not warranted.
They should remember that they would also become old one day.
As to elders, do not offer advice or opinions and interfere in the daily running of the family.
We have been doing it for nearly 30-40 years!
Why not leave it to other and relax?
A bed-ridden 108-year-old woman was allegedly raped by her son’s friend at home in Jabalpur town when the rest of her family was out shopping on December 4. The crime was disclosed to HT on Friday by the president of the Jabalpur unit of the Mahila Congress after she took up the matter with Madhya Pradesh director general of police SK Rout in Bhopal.
The accused, Gopi Ahirwar, 45, a waiter in a hotel, lives in the same locality of Sita Pahad in Jabalpur cantonment and was a regular visitor to the victim’s home.
The victim, whose son is a daily wager, lives in the servant’s quarter of an army officer’s house. The victim’s granddaughter said, “As usual, we left the door open before leaving for the market that day as neighbours and relatives often visit our house to see my grandmother.”
- Elders Abuse India, By Sons , Not Daughter’s In Law Study (ramanan50.wordpress.com)
I saw a Show on STAR Vijay TV Today which left me deeply disturbed.
This programme is telecast on Sundays at 10 am where Social Issues are brought into focus.
Some of the earlier issues related to Husnband Wife Relationship, Medical Costs.
The present issue is the The Problems of the Elderly and The Aged.
There were three distinct Groups in this issue.
1.Those who were sent to Old Age Homes by the Wealthy sons and Daughters.
2.Those who had no body to turn to but economically independent.
3.Those who were economically downtrodden.
In the first category thee were two sub groups, one where the children were abroad and had no intention of returning to India and another where the children are in India and in some cases in the same city where the Elderly have been sent to.
I will be covering the issue in a couple of posts with Statistics.
What struck me first are the Statistics
.* Statistics in this Post are from HelpAge India.
I am also posting Statistics from Other sources.
Contrary to popular perception, the sons were the main cause for dumping( I deliberately use the Term) and the verbal abuse of parents, and not the Daughter’s in Law!
56 % of the parents were sent to Old Age Homes because os f sons and 23 % because of Daughters’ in Law.
- India has the second largest aged population the world.
- Currently there are an estimated 100 million elderly in India by 2050 it is said to reach 326 million (projections made by UN in their 1996 revision).
- 55 million elderly sleep on an empty stomach every night.
- 75% of persons of age 60 and above reside in rural areas.
- 1 out 8 elderly feel no one cares they exist.
- 12 million people in India are blind 70 – 80% of these are elderly. 62.6 % are blind due to cataract.
- 30 million are lonely
- 33 % are below the poverty line and majority of them are illiterate.
- 90 % have to continue to work if they have to survive.
- 6.5 million feel no one even knows they exist.
- Only about 11% of India’s workforce participates in any sort of guaranteed retirement income.
- Within the next five years, the number of adults aged 65 & over will outnumber children under the age of 5.
- India is said to be the World Capital for heart diseases.
- It is estimated that by year 2015, nearly 7 lakh elderly in India within the age bracket of 60 – 69 will die of coronary Heart Diseases.
- More than two third of the Oldest Old (80+) are financially dependent on others.
- Elder Abuse Statistics Elder Abuse