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Where Are These Muslims?

In human interest on September 26, 2014 at 17:50

My father worked in Bodinayakkanur, Tamil Nadu,as a Teacher before he settled down in Srivilliputhur.

 

He served as a Teacher for 35 years.

 

He had a student, Habib, who was a Devout Muslim at Bodinayakkanur.

 

After quite a few years he received a message from Habib that he had become a DEO, District Educational Officer and he would be visiting the school where my father was working,Srivilliputhur.

 

DEOs visit schools to inspect them and as such,schools, especially aided schools are very vigilant and accord all respects to the DEO when he is on Inspection tour.

 

He had informed my mother, not my father, through a messenger , that it had been long since he ate my mother’s food, he would like Ragi Dosa every night and he would be sending a boy to pick it up daily during his stay at the Traveler’s Bungalow.

 

After completing the inspection, he sat with the Headmaster of the school , informed him that he was satisfied with his inspection and he would be leaving.

 

The Headmaster who knew the relationship of the DEO with my father asked hm whether he had visited my Fathers Class.

 

He is reported to have replied that he could not visit his teachers class and he(Habib) was  an example of what a Teacher could do a poor student.

 

Till his untimely demise, he used to come to our Home at least once a year and pay  his respect to my father!

 

I was in Bangalore with three of my friend and we were staying together for about six years.

 

I had/have a friend Syed Siddique.

 

He might even forget the dates of Ramzan and Bakrid, but very sure about Amavasya!

 

He was very much attached to my parents.

 

He used to go to my mother in kitchen and demand food/special dishes and she would oblige him.

 

My father had a stroke and was admitted to a Hospital.

 

Siddique came till the Hospital and refused to come inside the room saying he could not bear the sight of my father lying sick.

 

My father expired the next day.

 

Siddique was nowhere to be found.

 

While we were preparing the body for funeral.

 

He came, inebriated, crying , demanding that he be allowed to carry my father’s body to the cremation ground.

 

The priests objected to this, him being a Muslim.

 

My eldest brother said that Siddique was more attached to our father than us and my father reciprocated that.

 

Siddique carried the body.

 

He vowed that he would not eat non vegetarian food and sop drinking till the thirteenth day ceremony and he stuck to it,

 

When I lost my first wife he was one of the few who was by  side leaving his family commitments and consoled me.

 

Even after 40 years, I can not forget his affection .

 

I am still searching for him for we went our ways because of our profession.

 

He is a native of Chozhachakkaranallur,near Myiladuthurai, en route to Vaitheeswara Koil.

 

I have tried to locate him, in vain.

 

If some one, his children, grand children happen to read this remind ‘Swamigal’, that’s how I used to call him because of his knowledge of Hinduism, or Vellai Iyer is searching for him.

 

Now where are all these Muslims Gone?

 

Are we missing them or they are not showing up?

Help Locate These People?An Appeal

In human interest on July 1, 2013 at 22:49

I posted an article Uttarakhand Floods Helplines Find People.
I received the following message in the form of a comment.?
Will somebody help in locating these people and inform the person who has posted this message?
I am sure some of my readers are tech savvy .
Please help.
Regards.
July 1, 2013 at 22:15 | Edit

My mother and my son an kit meena is missing lived in gram teekamodh nasrullaganj distt sehore mp.if u have any information please call 09826682756 or emailOwais78khan@gmail.com

 

A Look At Self Photo Essay

In Behavior, human interest on April 23, 2013 at 12:09

A woman took photographs of herself and made them Public.

If we can see ourselves (not in the Mirror, though, when alone), as others see us, then most of our impressions, especially vanity will vanish.

I am sure I would not accept Me as I am as such!

Glad that there is no Technology as yet to reproduce Images with our feelings and Thoughts!

Story and Photos.

Like a million other college students on spring break, Jen Davis took a picture of herself and her friends while they were hanging out on a beach.

When she returned to school and developed the film, the results caught her off guard.

The image of Davis, titled Pressure Point, shows her larger, covered body seated on a towel while her thinner friends around her wear bikinis.

“I wanted to make a picture to see what that felt like,” Davis said about the moment on the beach. “I was shocked by the ability I had to kind of freeze that moment, to take a mundane but painful moment that was able to be described in the image.”

After that, Davis spent roughly a decade photographing herself, using her camera to shape her own sense of beauty and as a way to develop her vision as a photographer.

Much of that work included photographing herself in ordinary situations: eating, relaxing, showering, etc. Her self-portraits also explored a private, fantasy space that were inspired by a sense of longing, though Davis explained that the line between fantasy and reality—especially when using photography as a medium—is easily blurred.

“Some of the images are real genuine feelings, and others are things I wanted to experience, and I used the license of the camera. … I wanted to know what it felt like to be held by someone or to be with a man, and the camera allowed me to have that experience,” Davis explained.

The image 4 a.m. (2003), for example, was inspired by a lonely return home after a night with friends, many of whom were in relationships.

“I came home at 4 a.m. and made that picture at that instance of having that empty, yearning feeling,” she said. Fantasy No. 1 shows a similar experience, though this time with a “fantasy” man present.

While she was working on the images, Davis said she never thought about an audience or what it would be like to show the work. When she eventually did start to show it, some of the images were tough for her to share, but the exposure also allowed her to work through that sense of vulnerability and insecurity.

“I was able to deal with the emotion and vulnerable state and release it,” she said. But something else happened during the process: She became upset with herself for not changing her body, and showing her work spurred her to take action.

“It was kind of shocking, kind of painful to look at myself and to see myself evolving and growing and understanding a deeper sense of myself but my body not being able to change after nine years’ time. I was shocked and thought ‘why can’t I take control of my life?’ and I realized I didn’t want to wake up at 40 and be in this body—I wanted to know what it would be like to be in a different body, and that was a painful realization,” Davis explained.

Davis decided to have Lap Band surgery and was surprised at how quickly weight started to come off. And although she thought she would be documenting her physical transformation, she was surprised that suddenly she found herself ignoring her camera. She explained:

“I was catching up on the emotional side of [losing weight] and feeling different in the world. … I wanted to experience what dating was, what it felt like in the world and not use a camera to gain access to anything and I didn’t want it to be a distraction for living in the world.”

Davis eventually began dating a man and only recently took out her camera in order to document the experience.

“Now I want to see what this feels like, so I’ve been shooting myself with him a lot,” she began. “I’m just trying to figure it all out now.”

Self Portrait

4 a.m. 2003 (l) Fantasy No. 1. 2004 Jen Davis

Self portrait.,Jen Davis and Lee Marks Fine Art

Pressure Point. 2002 Jen Davis and Lee Marks Fine Art

Untitled. 2003 (l) Pantyhose. 2007 Jen Davis and Lee Marks Fine Art (2),Self Portrait.

Untitled. 2003 (l) Pantyhose. 2007 Jen Davis and Lee Marks Fine Art (2)

Steve and I. 2006 Jen Davis and Lee Marks Fine Art,Self portrait

Steve and I. 2006 Jen Davis and Lee Marks Fine Art

Untitled. 2013 Jen Davis and Lee Marks Fine Art,self portrait.

Untitled. 2013 Jen Davis and Lee Marks Fine Art

 

Source: http://www.slate.com/blogs/behold/2013/04/22/jen_davis_using_self_portraiture_to_explore_body_image_photos.html

 

 

 

 

With The Last Possession Photo Essay

In human interest, images on March 23, 2013 at 08:56

What is it like to leave everything you have and leave with essential possession?

Photo Essay.

With only an Instrument.

With only an Instrument.

The most important thing Omar was able to bring with him is the axe he holds in this photograph. He used it to cut firewood for cooking and to make small wooden structures where his family could sleep at night, and sometimes to rest for several days at a time, during their journey.

The most important thing Omar was able to bring with him is the axe he holds in this photograph. He used it to cut firewood for cooking and to make small wooden structures where his family could sleep at night, and sometimes to rest for several days at a time, during their journey.

The most important thing Maria brought with her is the jerrycan (water container) that she holds in this photograph taken at Jamam camp in Maban County, South Sudan.

The most important thing Maria brought with her is the jerrycan (water container) that she holds in this photograph taken at Jamam camp in Maban County, South Sudan.

The most important object Howard was able to bring with him is the long knife he holds, called a shefe, which he used to defend his family and his herd of 20 cattle during their 20-day journey from Bau County to the South Sudanese border.

The most important object Howard was able to bring with him is the long knife he holds, called a shefe, which he used to defend his family and his herd of 20 cattle during their 20-day journey from Bau County to the South Sudanese border.

The most important things that Torjam was able to bring with him were the plastic bottles he holds here. One carried drinking water, the other cooking oil. “All I could carry was this, and an axe. We couldn’t bring much, and even had to leave some other old people behind.

The most important things that Torjam was able to bring with him were the plastic bottles he holds here. One carried drinking water, the other cooking oil. “All I could carry was this, and an axe. We couldn’t bring much, and even had to leave some other old people behind.

The most important thing Ahmed was able to bring with him is Kako, his pet monkey. Kako and Ahmed made the five-day journey from Taga to the South Sudanese border together in the back of a truck. Ahmed says he can’t imagine life without Kako, and that the most difficult thing about leaving Blue Nile was having to leave his family’s donkey behind.

The most important thing Ahmed was able to bring with him is Kako, his pet monkey. Kako and Ahmed made the five-day journey from Taga to the South Sudanese border together in the back of a truck. Ahmed says he can’t imagine life without Kako, and that the most difficult thing about leaving Blue Nile was having to leave his family’s donkey behind.

The most important object Dowla was able to bring with her is the wooden pole balanced over her shoulder, with which she carried her six children during the 10-day journey from Gabanit to South Sudan. At times, the children were too tired to walk, forcing her to carry two on either side.

The most important object Dowla was able to bring with her is the wooden pole balanced over her shoulder, with which she carried her six children during the 10-day journey from Gabanit to South Sudan. At times, the children were too tired to walk, forcing her to carry two on either side.

Sri Lankan Refugee

Sri Lankan Refugee

http://www.petapixel.com/2013/03/21/portraits-of-refugees-posing-with-their-most-valued-possessions/

Elders Being Killed In India

In Behavior, Family, human interest, lifestyle, relationships on March 5, 2013 at 19:08

What is more shocking is the revelation by a Field worker of an NGO  that the Elders are being killed in the Southern Districts of Tamil Nadu,India much in the manner of Infanticide where in tamil Nadu they resort to killing Female children by கள்ளிப்பால் the administering   juice of  Cactaceae.

The Elders are killed by giving them Tender coconut Water and splashing them with very cold water , this is called ‘water splashing,தண்ணி சாத்துதல்  .

Elders Abuse

Elders Abuse

The other method seems to be  by administering poison injection!

Madurai, the Temple Town of India and Kanyakumari District have this dubious distinction with Cuddalore.

Having had a look at the Statistics, we might look at the problem

The problem as enumerated by the Elders.

The problem of Solitude.

One of the main causes for depression among the elderly is that their children do not spend much time with them even if they happen to live in with them.

Another grouse is that children have left for abroad to pursue their careers.

As one grows old whether it is your son or yourself your perspective and the equation of relationships undergo a subtle change.

Children have their own official pressure, financial commitment and they have their own wife and children to cope up with.

It is not fair to expect that the children behave and communicate with us the same way they have been with us after marriage.

Wish those who complain on these lines might ask themselves  how they have been with their parents and if their parents were to be alive, they would be leveling the same charges against them.

As to children going abroad, the children have a whole life head of them and now thy they have opportunities to earn more by going abroad, which we did not get at our time.

So it is a question of one understanding what is good for the children at the economic front.

Do not for a moment imagine that the children do not think of these problems and are selfish.

In fact my son hesitated for even applying when an opportunity was awaiting. worrying as to how to leave me and my wife alone.

I advised him that at most I might live for about 10 or 15 more years , he has a future to look forward o and that i had been taking care of myself and my wife before he was born!

As to me being old I informed him that there are so many in the World without children and even if they have, for some reason or other could not live with them, all not because of abuse.

I also told him , in the final analysis,one has come alone, lives alone and leaves alone, as a matter of fact.

I think this seems to be a practical way of looking at the problem.

Some parents are not interested to live abroad because they feel they would miss our society and Country.

If you are not prepared to make any compromises at an old age, is it fair to expect youngsters to do so?

Best is to develop an interest in something other than sentimental attachment to Family and go about doing what you love doing but were unable to during your early years.

A gentle man stated that he has Sugar, had knee problem , he has been provided with TV,Laptop ,and all other facilities, and children respect him ‘ yet says he depressed because he has been asked by the Doctors and the family not to work!

What does one say to him?

Children do not respect.

I think there is point in this.

They tend to disrespect elders even when it is not warranted.

They should remember that they would also become old one day.

As to elders, do not offer advice or opinions  and interfere in the daily running of the family.

We have been doing it for nearly 30-40 years!

Why not leave it to other and relax?

Related:
A bed-ridden 108-year-old woman was allegedly raped by her son’s friend at home in Jabalpur town when the rest of her family was out shopping on December 4. The crime was disclosed to HT on Friday by the president of the Jabalpur unit of the Mahila Congress after she took up the matter with Madhya Pradesh director general of police SK Rout in Bhopal.

The accused, Gopi Ahirwar, 45, a waiter in a hotel, lives in the same locality of Sita Pahad in Jabalpur cantonment and was a regular visitor to the victim’s home.

The victim, whose son is a daily wager, lives in the servant’s quarter of an army officer’s house. The victim’s granddaughter said, “As usual, we left the door open before leaving for the market that day as neighbours and relatives often visit our house to see my grandmother.”

http://silverinnings.blogspot.in/2010/12/108-year-old-raped-by-neighbour-and.html

 

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