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Evil Eye On Children Warding Off Removal

In Family, Hinduism on January 23, 2014 at 08:29

There are some customs being followed in Tamil Nadu.

They look strange, superstitious and totally irrational.

So are some problems in Life.

For instance, Children, especially below the age of Four,when they can not articulate  things.

The child would be Healthy n all respects.

But it would refuse to eat food.

You may try anything to make the child eat, but it would still refuse.

You consult a Doctor.

He tells you that he child is alright and it would take food on its own.

Some go even further and tell you to feed the child if it cries an any way as an organism the child would seek food when it needs it!

The problem is that as a parent or a Grandparent you just can not await the child to demand foo or let it cry incessantly.

There are some practices to rectify this problem and these worked for my children and work for  my grand children.

When you attempt to feed the child, some food would remain.

Take this and keep it on the road where a Dog can eat.

Do not feed the child in front of others or in Public.

If you have to feed in a Milk Bottle, keep the Milk Bottle covered, ready-made covers are available .

To prevent the child waking up in the middle of the night crying, keep a New Broomstick underneath your cot.

Some times you may find the children crying for no reason, despite being fit.

In these circumstances, take two red chilliness,little Crystal Salt in your right Palm close it, let the child face The East , keep your close Palm in the other , rotate clockwise , anti clock wise, up and down in front of he child’s Face and leave the chilies and Salt on the road.

There is also this practice of throwing this mixture in Coal Embers at Home or in the Flames of a kerosene stove instead of throwing the mixture on the road.

Normally this mixture dropped in Fire or Embers should make you choke.

Some time it would not.

That, my mother used to say, that evil eye has been cast and been removed.

Another practice is to have the person or the child spit on this mixture after rotating and throwing ti away,Brahmin households do not follow this.

As soon as the child completes its first birthday the practice among Brahmins in Tamil Nadu is to tie a small piece of Acorus calamusor Vasambu in the hip around the waist of the child in a Black thread(Araignyan)

This, it is believed to prevent diseases and ward off evil-eye.

Yet another practice  is place Camphor in a small plate, light, show it in front the child facing East or North, rotate this clockwise , anticlockwise ,up and down in front of the Face thrice and keeping it in front of the house, closing the door after placing the Aarti plate out.

I do this for my Grand children every day.

There is also the practice of applying a black dot on the Cheek of the child.

I have seen Rationality does not work always with children but these do, especially when it concerns their Health

 

 

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Divorced Women To get Husband’s Inherited Property

In Family, relationships on July 18, 2013 at 09:44

Hindu Marriage,Ammi Mithithal

Ammi Midithal
Ammi Midithal
The groom touches the feet of the bride and lifts her right foot gently and places it on the Ammi(grinding stone). This signifies her hope that their union may be as firm and steadfast as the grinding stone.

Women , not all of them but the self-styled feminists, would like one to believe that they are being discriminated by Men,want Equal Rights with Men.

They also say that they are not weak , can do what a Man could do.

In the same breath they expect Men to be chivalrous and give, as a courtesy(!?), to give priority to women in Public, say like allowing them the first right of passage,special seats for them in Trains buses, special timing and excuses for leave in the work place.

To me if you want to be equal to Men , you should expect to be treated like men.

To garner votes, the Government of India has gone overboard.

The Cabinet has given the nod for the following proposals.

“A wife will have a share in her husband’s inherited or inheritable marital property on divorce, though the exact quantum of the compensation has been left to the discretion of the judge, according to a legislation that was cleared by the Union Cabinet on Wednesday.

The Cabinet also cleared the proposal that in cases where divorce has been sought on mutual consent of both parties the judiciary has been given the discretion to grant divorce to one party after a period of three years, even if the man and the wife are no longer on the same page. These were part of the recommendations of the GoM on Marriage Laws Amendment Bill which will now be amended suitably before being brought to Parliament during the monsoon session, beginning August 5.

By not quantifying the amount of compensation the government has moderated its earlier proposal to give a wife “equal” share in marital property. The ministers felt that a judge could decide on the quantum of compensation after taking into account an entire set of considerations such as the disposable income of both husband and wife, conditions like who will bear the primary responsibility of raising the children and claimants on the “inheritable property.”

If you do not want to live with a Man, why do you want his property?

Are men returned the favor?

How many divorced women pay Alimony to their ex Husbands?

Relationship is about understanding and compromising one with the other.

If you want to end it, it should be with lock, stock and barrel, not what is convenient,.

While cases about Men walking out of relationships, Marriages, is widely reported, women indulging in this, never gets reported for the man considers that it is an insult to divulge it and Dog bites Man is not News.

I know a case, where a woman deliberately pretended to love a  Boy , got married, drugged him with the help of her mother for three years and tried to get his property worth one crore and finally settled for 30 lakhs!..

If in a relationship, if either wants any thing more than the Relationship, other than Love, Care and Affection, in my dictionary it is, sorry for using this, Prostitution.

(Desertion , if proved, is a different matter and has to be strictly dealt with by Punishment and Compensation, this applies to both sex).

The other proposal of granting divorce after three years, even if one party is not willing or has a change of mind, Divorce is to be granted.

So the aim is to see that the Institution of marriage is broken, no compromise.

Then why do you have family Courts for Divorces, simply follow ‘Talaq,talaq, talaq’ and be done with it.

However I am not against Divorces if either the husband or wife is unfaithful , neglectful of the other and embark on cruelty.

This point is common to bth sex.

There is a mistaken impression that there is no cruelty being practiced by Women.

It is erroneous.

It exists more than one thinks.

Men do not admit it.

One of my friend used say that many Men in India go through married Life, because they feel it is their duty to go through it,let me suffer silently.

In India if men were to go for Divorce for reasons like cruelty by wives,well, about 80% of Marriages would have broken long ago.

I expect comments like Male Chauvinist Pig‘ ‘Sucking Pig, a Muslim(!?), who brings dishonor to Islam!

These comments are real and were approved and published in my site.

* I am not a Divorcee, am happily married with Grand children..

To me family is the most important institution one has to respect and men have the responsibility of taking car of it, including wife.

Marriage is not a walkers Association to walk away when you feel like it.

Wife has to be respected, listened when it is worth not otherwise, to me no compromises just to please, what is in the best interests of the family, will be done.

There is a Sanskrit slaoka which says,

‘Listen to women and children int the Family, take decisions in the interest of the family’

‘Do not discuss economic difficulties with Children, Wife and Gussets, they can not understand, you carry the burden”

I find this to be practical.

The issue of accepting money from your wife,.

You take Financial assistance from your wife for the family.

You had it, you would be reminded and insulted to the end of your Life.

Ask any man who has taken Money from his wife.

News Source:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/Now-women-will-get-share-of-husbands-inherited-property-on-divorce/articleshow/21128781.cms

 

 

 

 

Find Your Family History On-line

In Family, internet on April 21, 2013 at 15:25

Ever wanted to find out your Family History?

Family Tree

Family Tree

It would be interesting to know of our ancestors.

We know more of world History than our own Family history.

IndiaHindus are expected to remember at least the names of people of Even generations and  do a Ritual (Tharpana,offering Water and sesame seeds at least once a month to three generations, both paternal and maternal)

Those among Brahmins, who do the ‘Abhivaadanam'( of offering respects to elders) would know the progenitor of their Clan, normally three in number.

They are Rishis, seers, who are the foremost of their Clan.

But now people can not even remember or know their Great-grand father’s Name.In

In the West Data Bank is available, to know one’s family History.

I am providing Links.

The Dalton Data Bank is brought to you by the Dalton Genealogical Society (DGS) and volunteers who have spent countless hours extracting Dalton data from a variety of sources.  The Bank includes data about Daltons who were in Argentina, Australia, Canada, England, New Zealand, Northern Ireland, the Republic of Ireland, Scotland, the United States, Wales, the West Indies, and Zimbabwe — Truly an “A to Z” Dalton reference site!

The Bank opened on September 1, 2001 with about 10,000 bits of Dalton data. Today, we host more than 500 pages which contain in excess of 430,000 entries. They include Dalton namesakes, their wives, children, in-laws, sponsors, witnesses and female Daltons. As well, variants of  the name Dalton (i.e., Daulton, Dolton, D’Alton) are also partially indexed.

Please contact the Webmaster if you have questions or if you wish to submit additional data. As with all data, it is the onus of the user to verify it.

http://www.daltondatabank.org/?gclid=CN-82P6527YCFVEk6wodYVQAQA

Simply start with yourself and we’ll do the searching for you.
Find your ancestors’ stories. Discover yours.

http://www.ancestry.com/?o_xid=21837&o_lid=21837&o_sch=Search

https://online.hbs.net.au/hbsv47/ntv471.asp?wci=entry

For Those in India,

Find online databases and records for researching ancestors in British India, the territories of India under the tenancy or sovereignty of the East India Company or British Crown between 1612 and 1947. Among these were the provinces of Bengal, Bombay, Burma, Madras, Punjab, Assam and United Provinces, encompassing portions of present-day India, Bangladesh and Pakistan..

There does not seem to be latest information.

http://genealogy.about.com/od/india/tp/Research-In-British-India.htm

 

 

A Wife’s Management of Husband With Alzheimer

In Family, Health on March 15, 2013 at 10:07

Alzheimer’s is a deadly disease to manage.

Alzheimer's patient.

Alzheimer’s patient.

alzheimer's disease patient eating

alzheimer’s disease patient eating

President Ronald Reagan had it.

Ronald Reagan’s  son recounts that he used to hug his father every morning.

One day some one asked Reagan,pointing out his son.

He replied ,

“Yes.

Who is it?

The man who hugs me!’

Such is the severity of the disease.

A woman is managing her husband with Alzheimer.

Let’s look into it.

Dedication, that’s the word for it.

US Family Life is not what we see in Hollywood movies.

May these family values endure.

Alzheimer's Note

Alzheimer’s Note

“My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about three years ago. After an extended stay at the hospital and stints in two different rest homes, my mom brought him home to care for him herself. She did this despite warnings that it would be too much for her to handle—even with regular assistance—because the conditions in the homes were too depressing to bear. There is an unseen routine in the lives of most home caregivers that makes Michael Haneke’s Amour look like Sesame Street. I wanted to find out what the day-to-day life of someone tasked with keeping another adult alive is like, so I talked to my mom about it.

VICE: How does your average day begin?
BB:
 Usually I wake up before LD and get dressed, and I try to get the coffee made and the cereal stuff out. But if he wakes up first, I just get him cleaned and dressed and then do the other stuff.

What time does he get up?
He’s gotten so he goes to bed between 8 and 9 PM and sometimes sleeps until noon. One day I was so tired and exhausted that I didn’t hear him and he got up and went into the den at seven in the morning. He ended up somehow falling, and I found him on the floor tangled up in the chair. But usually I wake up before him and get dressed real quick, because if I don’t he watches me do every single thing, and it drives me crazy.

Why does he watch you?
Because he doesn’t have anything else to do. He just stares. And he wants to see what food I’m making.

I know he usually wets the bed at night, even through the disposable underwear. Do you change the sheets after you wake him up?
I take the sheets and the pajamas and the shirt and socks and just wrap them up in that plastic liner that keeps the mattress pad dry. Sometimes if he wakes up before I do he’ll have already taken his underpants off. I get him to the bathroom and have him sit on the toilet so I can get his wet clothes off and wipe him off with Handi Wipes.

You have him sit on the toilet to get dressed and undressed?
Yeah, because he might go. And if he’s not bad, I can use those Handi Wipes and wipe him off and put powder on his back and in his underwear so that it will be dry. But, like, today he was soaked and had taken his own stuff off and didn’t want to get in the shower. He doesn’t like me to bother his pants, and when I mess with them, that’s when he grabs my wrists. I figured out that I can reach behind him and underneath and pull the pants down that way. He’s still grabbing, but once I get them down, he’ll sit on the toilet. It’s tricky. Once he’s got a hold of my wrist I’ll threaten him. I say, “You’re going to have this hand in your face if you don’t let go of my hand.” [laughs] He knows I’m not going to do it, but… I get really angry because I’m helping him. I try to explain to him, “I’m trying to help you, and you are hurting me.” And he’s strong. Sometimes my wrists are red afterward.

He doesn’t realize you’re helping him.
He wants to do things himself. He always has.

Then when you finish with the clothes…
Once I get him in the shower, I pour shampoo on his head. Baby shampoo, so he won’t tear up. I used to give him soap and he’d use it, but now he doesn’t, so I put on these gloves and put the soap on my hands and just reach in the shower. Of course I get soaking wet—my jeans and everything, but I soap him up and down and wash his head. He doesn’t like that at all.

http://www.vice.com/read/the-daily-life-of-an-alzheimers-caregiver

 

 

The ‘Sex Education Syllabus’

In Behavior, Education, Family, Health, lifestyle, Parenting, Sex on March 11, 2013 at 10:20

Recently the Government of India has proposed the age of consensual Sex from 18 years to 16 Years.

It is also talking about ‘Sex education ‘ to children.

This has sparked off a controversy.

The Elite(?) are for Sex Education while the other Group opposing it.

What is Sex Education?

Let’s see  its Definition.

Burt defined sex education as the study of the characteristics of beings; a male and female.[1] Such characteristics make up the person’s sexuality. Sexuality is an important aspect of the life of a human being and almost all the people including children want to know about it.[citation needed] Sex education includes all the educational measures which in any way may of life[clarification needed]that have their center on sex. He further said that sex education stands for protection, presentation extension, improvement and development of the family based on accepted ethical ideas. Leepson sees sex education as instruction in various physiological, psychological and sociological aspects of sexual response and reproduction.[2] Kearney also defined sex education as “involving a comprehensive course of action by the school, calculated to bring about the socially desirable attitudes, practices and personal conduct on the part of children and adults, that will best protect the individual as a human and the family as a social institution. Thus, sex education may also be described as “sexuality education”, which means that it encompasses education about all aspects of sexuality, including information about family planningreproduction (fertilizationconception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth), plus information about all aspects of one’s sexuality including: body imagesexual orientationsexual pleasurevaluesdecision makingcommunicationdatingrelationshipssexually transmitted infections (STIs) and how to avoid them, and birth control methods.[3] Various aspect of sex education are to right[clarification needed] in school depending on the age of the students or what the children are able to comprehend at a particular point in time. Rubin and Kindendall expressed that sex education is not merely a unit in reproduction and teaching how babies are conceived and born. It has a far richer scope and goal of helping the youngster incorporate sex most meaningfully into his present and future life, to provide him with some basic understanding on virtually every aspect of sex by the time he reaches full maturity.[4](Wiki)

Shorn of jargon, it is about teaching what Sex is about.

You may notice the definition needs ‘citation’ for sensuality.

If you can not define what sexuality is, which I am sure we can not define as we can hunger and other instincts,how does one go about it?

Sensuality and Sex appeal are the fundamentals of Sex.

Sex education includes all the educational measures which in any way may of life[clarification needed]that have their center on sex

Sex Education in Schools.

Sex Education in Schools.

* Look at the expression in the Image above!

Same confusion in definition.

About

 family planning,

 reproduction (fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth),

plus information about

all aspects of one’s sexuality including:

body image,

 sexual orientation,

sexual pleasure,

 values,

 decision-making,

 communication,

dating,

relationships,

sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

and how to avoid them,

body image

 

 and birth control.

 

fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth.

The topics  are  taught in Biology already.

Now Communication is taught as a Soft Skill or they talking about intercourse being taught in Communication Skill?

So is decision making.

Onto Sexual Pleasures and Orientation.

How do you explain Sexual Pleasure ?

That ‘Straight Sex’ is more pleasurable than , say gay Sex,Lesbianism, Sadism,BDSM, Fellatio and other designated Perversions?

Wait, people might take objection to my grouping gay sex and lesbianism  with perversions for most countries have legalized it.

How does one compare?

By trying out each one of them?

And how do you decide which age group can understand what?

under the guise of Sex Education what is about to happen is the detailed Illustration of all perverse sexual activities and a suggestion that it might not be good for the individual and the Society, in the passing.

Absolute rubbish.

If people want to delude , by introducing Sex education  they would be barring the Sex Information available on the Internet, …well and in fact give the children all the Information under one head with official legal sanction!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexuality_education

Related:

A government review has, as expected, ruled that sex education in schools will from 2011 be taught as part of the personal, social, health and economic (PSHE) curriculum. This means that children will learn about sex in the broader context of relationships, homosexuality, marriage, civil partnerships, divorce and abortion, rather than simply as the biological facts of puberty and reproduction formerly taught in science classes. This new form of sex education will also become the norm in both primary and secondary schools, and for children aged 15 and up, it will be compulsory, regardless of parental objection.

 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2009/nov/05/sex-education-schools-compulsory

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