Find Your Family History On-line

Ever wanted to find out your Family History?

Family Tree

It would be interesting to know of our ancestors.

We know more of world History than our own Family history.

India, Hindus are expected to remember at least the names of people of Even generations and  do a Ritual (Tharpana,offering Water and sesame seeds at least once a month to three generations, both paternal and maternal)

Those among Brahmins, who do the ‘Abhivaadanam’( of offering respects to elders) would know the progenitor of their Clan, normally three in number.

They are Rishis, seers, who are the foremost of their Clan.

But now people can not even remember or know their Great-grand father’s Name.In

In the West Data Bank is available, to know one’s family History.

I am providing Links.

The Dalton Data Bank is brought to you by the Dalton Genealogical Society (DGS) and volunteers who have spent countless hours extracting Dalton data from a variety of sources.  The Bank includes data about Daltons who were in Argentina, Australia, Canada, England, New Zealand, Northern Ireland, the Republic of Ireland, Scotland, the United States, Wales, the West Indies, and Zimbabwe — Truly an “A to Z” Dalton reference site!

The Bank opened on September 1, 2001 with about 10,000 bits of Dalton data. Today, we host more than 500 pages which contain in excess of 430,000 entries. They include Dalton namesakes, their wives, children, in-laws, sponsors, witnesses and female Daltons. As well, variants of  the name Dalton (i.e., Daulton, Dolton, D’Alton) are also partially indexed.

Please contact the Webmaster if you have questions or if you wish to submit additional data. As with all data, it is the onus of the user to verify it.

http://www.daltondatabank.org/?gclid=CN-82P6527YCFVEk6wodYVQAQA

Simply start with yourself and we’ll do the searching for you.
Find your ancestors’ stories. Discover yours.

http://www.ancestry.com/?o_xid=21837&o_lid=21837&o_sch=Search

https://online.hbs.net.au/hbsv47/ntv471.asp?wci=entry

For Those in India,

Find online databases and records for researching ancestors in British India, the territories of India under the tenancy or sovereignty of the East India Company or British Crown between 1612 and 1947. Among these were the provinces of Bengal, Bombay, Burma, Madras, Punjab, Assam and United Provinces, encompassing portions of present-day India, Bangladesh and Pakistan..

There does not seem to be latest information.

http://genealogy.about.com/od/india/tp/Research-In-British-India.htm

 

 

A Wife’s Management of Husband With Alzheimer

Alzheimer’s is a deadly disease to manage.

Alzheimer’s patient.

alzheimer’s disease patient eating

President Ronald Reagan had it.

Ronald Reagan’s  son recounts that he used to hug his father every morning.

One day some one asked Reagan,pointing out his son.

He replied ,

“Yes.

Who is it?

The man who hugs me!’

Such is the severity of the disease.

A woman is managing her husband with Alzheimer.

Let’s look into it.

Dedication, that’s the word for it.

US Family Life is not what we see in Hollywood movies.

May these family values endure.

Alzheimer’s Note

“My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about three years ago. After an extended stay at the hospital and stints in two different rest homes, my mom brought him home to care for him herself. She did this despite warnings that it would be too much for her to handle—even with regular assistance—because the conditions in the homes were too depressing to bear. There is an unseen routine in the lives of most home caregivers that makes Michael Haneke’s Amour look like Sesame Street. I wanted to find out what the day-to-day life of someone tasked with keeping another adult alive is like, so I talked to my mom about it.

VICE: How does your average day begin?
BB: Usually I wake up before LD and get dressed, and I try to get the coffee made and the cereal stuff out. But if he wakes up first, I just get him cleaned and dressed and then do the other stuff.

What time does he get up?
He’s gotten so he goes to bed between 8 and 9 PM and sometimes sleeps until noon. One day I was so tired and exhausted that I didn’t hear him and he got up and went into the den at seven in the morning. He ended up somehow falling, and I found him on the floor tangled up in the chair. But usually I wake up before him and get dressed real quick, because if I don’t he watches me do every single thing, and it drives me crazy.

Why does he watch you?
Because he doesn’t have anything else to do. He just stares. And he wants to see what food I’m making.

I know he usually wets the bed at night, even through the disposable underwear. Do you change the sheets after you wake him up?
I take the sheets and the pajamas and the shirt and socks and just wrap them up in that plastic liner that keeps the mattress pad dry. Sometimes if he wakes up before I do he’ll have already taken his underpants off. I get him to the bathroom and have him sit on the toilet so I can get his wet clothes off and wipe him off with Handi Wipes.

You have him sit on the toilet to get dressed and undressed?
Yeah, because he might go. And if he’s not bad, I can use those Handi Wipes and wipe him off and put powder on his back and in his underwear so that it will be dry. But, like, today he was soaked and had taken his own stuff off and didn’t want to get in the shower. He doesn’t like me to bother his pants, and when I mess with them, that’s when he grabs my wrists. I figured out that I can reach behind him and underneath and pull the pants down that way. He’s still grabbing, but once I get them down, he’ll sit on the toilet. It’s tricky. Once he’s got a hold of my wrist I’ll threaten him. I say, “You’re going to have this hand in your face if you don’t let go of my hand.” [laughs] He knows I’m not going to do it, but… I get really angry because I’m helping him. I try to explain to him, “I’m trying to help you, and you are hurting me.” And he’s strong. Sometimes my wrists are red afterward.

He doesn’t realize you’re helping him.
He wants to do things himself. He always has.

Then when you finish with the clothes…
Once I get him in the shower, I pour shampoo on his head. Baby shampoo, so he won’t tear up. I used to give him soap and he’d use it, but now he doesn’t, so I put on these gloves and put the soap on my hands and just reach in the shower. Of course I get soaking wet—my jeans and everything, but I soap him up and down and wash his head. He doesn’t like that at all.

http://www.vice.com/read/the-daily-life-of-an-alzheimers-caregiver

 

 

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The ‘Sex Education Syllabus’

Recently the Government of India has proposed the age of consensual Sex from 18 years to 16 Years.

It is also talking about ‘Sex education ‘ to children.

This has sparked off a controversy.

The Elite(?) are for Sex Education while the other Group opposing it.

What is Sex Education?

Let’s see  its Definition.

Burt defined sex education as the study of the characteristics of beings; a male and female.^[1] Such characteristics make up the person’s sexuality. Sexuality is an important aspect of the life of a human being and almost all the people including children want to know about it.^{[citation needed]} Sex education includes all the educational measures which in any way may of life^{[clarification needed]}that have their center on sex. He further said that sex education stands for protection, presentation extension, improvement and development of the family based on accepted ethical ideas. Leepson sees sex education as instruction in various physiological, psychological and sociological aspects of sexual response and reproduction.^[2] Kearney also defined sex education as “involving a comprehensive course of action by the school, calculated to bring about the socially desirable attitudes, practices and personal conduct on the part of children and adults, that will best protect the individual as a human and the family as a social institution. Thus, sex education may also be described as “sexuality education”, which means that it encompasses education about all aspects of sexuality, including information about family planning, reproduction (fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth), plus information about all aspects of one’s sexuality including: body image, sexual orientation, sexual pleasure, values, decision making, communication, dating, relationships, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and how to avoid them, and birth control methods.^[3] Various aspect of sex education are to right^{[clarification needed]} in school depending on the age of the students or what the children are able to comprehend at a particular point in time. Rubin and Kindendall expressed that sex education is not merely a unit in reproduction and teaching how babies are conceived and born. It has a far richer scope and goal of helping the youngster incorporate sex most meaningfully into his present and future life, to provide him with some basic understanding on virtually every aspect of sex by the time he reaches full maturity.^[4](Wiki)

Shorn of jargon, it is about teaching what Sex is about.

You may notice the definition needs ‘citation’ for sensuality.

If you can not define what sexuality is, which I am sure we can not define as we can hunger and other instincts,how does one go about it?

Sensuality and Sex appeal are the fundamentals of Sex.

Sex education includes all the educational measures which in any way may of life^{[clarification needed]}that have their center on sex

Sex Education in Schools.

* Look at the expression in the Image above!

Same confusion in definition.

About

 family planning,

 reproduction (fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth),

plus information about

all aspects of one’s sexuality including:

body image,

 sexual orientation,

sexual pleasure,

 values,

 decision-making,

 communication,

dating,

relationships,

sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

and how to avoid them,

body image

 

 and birth control.

 

fertilization, conception and development of the embryo and fetus, through to childbirth.

The topics  are  taught in Biology already.

Now Communication is taught as a Soft Skill or they talking about intercourse being taught in Communication Skill?

So is decision making.

Onto Sexual Pleasures and Orientation.

How do you explain Sexual Pleasure ?

That ‘Straight Sex’ is more pleasurable than , say gay Sex,Lesbianism, Sadism,BDSM, Fellatio and other designated Perversions?

Wait, people might take objection to my grouping gay sex and lesbianism  with perversions for most countries have legalized it.

How does one compare?

By trying out each one of them?

And how do you decide which age group can understand what?

under the guise of Sex Education what is about to happen is the detailed Illustration of all perverse sexual activities and a suggestion that it might not be good for the individual and the Society, in the passing.

Absolute rubbish.

If people want to delude , by introducing Sex education  they would be barring the Sex Information available on the Internet, …well and in fact give the children all the Information under one head with official legal sanction!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexuality_education

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A government review has, as expected, ruled that sex education in schools will from 2011 be taught as part of the personal, social, health and economic (PSHE) curriculum. This means that children will learn about sex in the broader context of relationships, homosexuality, marriage, civil partnerships, divorce and abortion, rather than simply as the biological facts of puberty and reproduction formerly taught in science classes. This new form of sex education will also become the norm in both primary and secondary schools, and for children aged 15 and up, it will be compulsory, regardless of parental objection.

 

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2009/nov/05/sex-education-schools-compulsory

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Safety Cleanliness Freedom Women’s Day Survey. What?

Times of India , in collaboration with IMRB had conducted  Survey on Women on the occasion of the Women’s Day and had published the results with its comments.

This survey is reported to have been done in Six Cities of India.

Let’s assume the Survey is scientific ,which I doubt ,because of the sample size area and interpretation.

1.64% of Women feel Unsafe in the City.

2.60 % of Women step out side with company.

When one looks at the figures, it is evident one feels safe if they go out with company

.Only 4% are do not seem to subscribe to this view.

(One never knows whether both the responses are from the same person).

So if you feel safe with company why not opt for it  in the interest of your safety.

Complaint about Public Places.

45% say Toilets must be clean.

This applies to men as well.

Cleanliness is not Gender Specific unless if people are not clean.

Struggle For Independence.

Home Makers and Unemployed  29% want Independence.

Under sub clause in the same finding, 42% work for Financial Independence: 12% for Money

So it is all a question of being not committed for the family- “I would like to be independent of every one’-

Translate into common parlance ‘I am not sure of the relationship  and I want to be independent’

If the spouse also thinks the same way, then Marriage  and Family go out of the window.

Who takes the decision  on Big Investments?

39% say Husband.

Wait till you hear this data under the heading.

Who decides on Savings?

Woman decide.

40%

Who decides on method of  Contraception?

Women 21%

You decide on savings, contraception and yet say Husband decides on Big Investments.

It is like a man saying ‘I take all major decisions like obeying wife  while she does all unimportant things like finance; raising kids!

Either the Survey is skewed, or did not ask the relevant questions ….

Or Women being Women?

What is Women’s Day ,r Mother’s Day, father’s Day?

As if they no longer remain one on the other days!

Times of India and IMRB Survey Report.

Women’s Freedom.

Bangalore is safe, but not safe enough. At least, that seems to be what the majority of women living in the city believe, based on a study commissioned by The Times of India. The study, which is based on a survey of 900 women conducted by IMRB in six cities across the country, looked at various issues faced by women, beginning with safety, services available, gender issues at home and the workplace, health and financial issues. It shows that while women feel relatively safer in Bangalore compared to other cities, in absolute terms, opinions are divided. An overwhelming 64% of the city’s women said they do not feel safe in the city after sunset, and only 17% said they felt safe “at any time of the day.”

Some parts of the city are perceived to be less safe than others. TheMarathahalli Ring Road area, for instance, is perceived to be either “unsafe for women” or “very unsafe for women” by more than a third of those surveyed. “The stretch of Outer Ring Road between Marathahalli and Bellandur, where I live, is definitely underlit and possibly unsafe. The few times I’ve had to wait alone at Marathahalli junction for a bus or auto haven’t been pleasant,” says Ankita Sharma, who works in an HR firm in Brookefield and travels by public transport. Sharma says there are no street lights in this area and the operators of private vehicles soliciting passengers can get rude and hostile. “After the Delhi rape incident, I became especially wary of these private vehicles. I don’t know if any of them have proper licenses and whether the police keeps an eye on them,” she adds.

Other areas where women felt “unsafe” or “very unsafe” included Kengeri Road and the stretch between BEL Road and Vidyaranyapura. Even the morning stroll, so long a part of the Bangalorean’s day, seems to have become fraught. More than half the women (53%) IMRB spoke to felt unsafe during their morning walks. An increasing number of women feel so insecure that they have begun contemplating carrying a weapon – 42% of the respondents said that they “felt the need to carry a weapon/article of self-defence”

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bangalore/What-women-in-Bangalore-want-Safety-cleanliness-and-freedom/articleshow/18857074.cms?

I can ad my comments on other statistics.

Can some one tell me what Freedom is being referred to here?

Elders Being Killed In India

What is more shocking is the revelation by a Field worker of an NGO  that the Elders are being killed in the Southern Districts of Tamil Nadu,India much in the manner of Infanticide where in tamil Nadu they resort to killing Female children by கள்ளிப்பால் the administering   juice of  Cactaceae.

The Elders are killed by giving them Tender coconut Water and splashing them with very cold water , this is called ‘water splashing,தண்ணி சாத்துதல்  .

Elders Abuse

The other method seems to be  by administering poison injection!

Madurai, the Temple Town of India and Kanyakumari District have this dubious distinction with Cuddalore.

Having had a look at the Statistics, we might look at the problem

The problem as enumerated by the Elders.

The problem of Solitude.

One of the main causes for depression among the elderly is that their children do not spend much time with them even if they happen to live in with them.

Another grouse is that children have left for abroad to pursue their careers.

As one grows old whether it is your son or yourself your perspective and the equation of relationships undergo a subtle change.

Children have their own official pressure, financial commitment and they have their own wife and children to cope up with.

It is not fair to expect that the children behave and communicate with us the same way they have been with us after marriage.

Wish those who complain on these lines might ask themselves  how they have been with their parents and if their parents were to be alive, they would be leveling the same charges against them.

As to children going abroad, the children have a whole life head of them and now thy they have opportunities to earn more by going abroad, which we did not get at our time.

So it is a question of one understanding what is good for the children at the economic front.

Do not for a moment imagine that the children do not think of these problems and are selfish.

In fact my son hesitated for even applying when an opportunity was awaiting. worrying as to how to leave me and my wife alone.

I advised him that at most I might live for about 10 or 15 more years , he has a future to look forward o and that i had been taking care of myself and my wife before he was born!

As to me being old I informed him that there are so many in the World without children and even if they have, for some reason or other could not live with them, all not because of abuse.

I also told him , in the final analysis,one has come alone, lives alone and leaves alone, as a matter of fact.

I think this seems to be a practical way of looking at the problem.

Some parents are not interested to live abroad because they feel they would miss our society and Country.

If you are not prepared to make any compromises at an old age, is it fair to expect youngsters to do so?

Best is to develop an interest in something other than sentimental attachment to Family and go about doing what you love doing but were unable to during your early years.

A gentle man stated that he has Sugar, had knee problem , he has been provided with TV,Laptop ,and all other facilities, and children respect him ‘ yet says he depressed because he has been asked by the Doctors and the family not to work!

What does one say to him?

Children do not respect.

I think there is point in this.

They tend to disrespect elders even when it is not warranted.

They should remember that they would also become old one day.

As to elders, do not offer advice or opinions  and interfere in the daily running of the family.

We have been doing it for nearly 30-40 years!

Why not leave it to other and relax?

Related:
A bed-ridden 108-year-old woman was allegedly raped by her son’s friend at home in Jabalpur town when the rest of her family was out shopping on December 4. The crime was disclosed to HT on Friday by the president of the Jabalpur unit of the Mahila Congress after she took up the matter with Madhya Pradesh director general of police SK Rout in Bhopal.

The accused, Gopi Ahirwar, 45, a waiter in a hotel, lives in the same locality of Sita Pahad in Jabalpur cantonment and was a regular visitor to the victim’s home.

The victim, whose son is a daily wager, lives in the servant’s quarter of an army officer’s house. The victim’s granddaughter said, “As usual, we left the door open before leaving for the market that day as neighbours and relatives often visit our house to see my grandmother.”

http://silverinnings.blogspot.in/2010/12/108-year-old-raped-by-neighbour-and.html

 

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