There are a quite a number of views on keeping the infants with the parents when the infant is about to sleep or is sleeping.
In our Homes , till about ten years back, we never had separate bed rooms.
That was when our grown up wanted a room .
Till then right from my childhood I never slept alone in our Home , nor any one else in the Family.
This was not peculiar to our Home.
Indians used to sleep that way.
Another interesting fact is that we Indians used to live in Joint Families.
One’s belongings like shirts,Chappals,Shoes were every ones.
People used whatever was available.
Cooking was done in the common kitchen and the Firer in the kitchen never got doused till about midnight.
None felt the absence of their parents nor did they feel left out or ignored.
Every one’s needs were met.
Those were the times when emotional cushion was the best.
Some one can be chosen by you to communicate. depending on your need and problems.
Now. as the Tamil Humorist Crazy Moan put it. husband and wife living together is joint family!
The emotional bonding, the physical proximity,and physical touch between the parents and children up to Ten-years has a lot to do with the security feeling of the children in their adolescent and even in adult stages.
The reasons quoted about the inconvenience to parents , to me, looks , childish.
If one wants to have a stable adult, more than any thing, physical proximity is important.
Well there are always exceptions, including the pervert parents who abuse the children.
Keep the children away from them.(this has to be done by the others, like parents of the couple).
Based on my own experiences, I’ve created a short list of the top threats that older babies and toddlers pose to their parents in a co-sleeping environment. I’m sure there are millions more, so feel free to add your own dangers in the comment section below. Together, we must create awareness!…
1. The midnight caller. Parents should be warned against bringing any kind of cellular device into bed with them or within a toddler’s reach. Unless, of course, you don’t mind being bludgeoned in the head with your cell phone before dawn.
2. Eye love you, daddy! So much so, that little Johnny is going to take that cute little finger of his and jab it right through your sleepy eyelid! I would imagine this is why God gave us two.
3. The toddler chokehold. They may be little, but they are mighty. Be aware of your little one’s sleeping position at all times. One minute they’re lovingly sleeping in the crook of your arm, and the next, they’re lying sideways across your throat cutting off life sustaining oxygen to your brain.
4. The fish hook. I’m sure that to a toddler, the two black holes in mommy’s nose may seem like a magnificent curiosity, but to a mom, there is nothing curious about being jarred awake by your child trying to dig your brains out through your nostril.
5. The bitch slap. A more common threat to parents worldwide, this danger is more likely to occur during the morning hours. The bitch slap may be a rude awakening to the parent of an impatiently hungry toddler who wants their damn cheerios right now.
- encourages breastfeeding by making nighttime breastfeeding more convenient
- makes it easier for a nursing mother to get her sleep cycle in sync with her baby’s
- helps babies fall asleep more easily, especially during their first few months and when they wake up in the middle of the night
- helps babies get more nighttime sleep (because they awaken more frequently with shorter duration of feeds, which can add up to a greater amount of sleep throughout the night)
- helps parents who are separated from their babies during the day regain the closeness with their infant that they feel they missed.
Psychologist Thomas Ollendick of Virginia Tech University is currently researching whether co-sleeping is associated with lower rates of nighttime fear.
In the meantime–whether your child sleeps alone or with family members–one thing seems clear. Nighttime fears and separation anxiety should be taken seriously.
Although the kids in the Australian study were selected from the general population (as opposed to a psychiatric practice or sleep clinic), researchers discovered that about 10% of children complaining of nighttime fears fit the criteria for an anxiety disorder.
Other research suggests strong links between anxiety and bad dreams.
A recent study of toddlers and preschoolers reports that 17-month old kids who were rated by their mothers as anxious, difficult, or emotionally disturbed were more likely than other children to have bad dreams at 29 months (Simard et al 2008).