There are two schools of thought on the subject of ‘waning interest of Women in Sex’.
One states that women and men lose interest as Passionate Sex is replaced by Compassion Sex.
The other school argues that ‘remain perpetually high in order for them to produce many offspring, while female desire should decrease as their attention turns, historically, toward child-rearing.’
These studies seem to assume that the interest of Men and Women decrease in general and more so in a long term relationship.
Men do not lose interest in Sex but it is true that they lose interest with the same partner or in a long-term relationship.
But women do not admit their interest in Sex remain undiminished save in the circumstances applicable to men.
However, the interest of Both males and Females remain intact or even heightened in new relationships.
The reason is that in Sex mystery and the thrill of exploration heightens the interest.
This is missing in a long Relationship as the thrill, excitement and a sense of exploration is gone.
This is because in a long-term relationship things are taken for granted.
Sex is interesting so long as it is wrapped in mystery and remains seemingly difficult to achieve.
Women , at least in India, tend to neglect this, pay scant attention to their physical attributes and cease to be interesting to men.
In the case of women ,they do get the feeling of being tired and get excited by the prospect of uncharted territory.
The females while taking care of the child, is also interested in producing more offspring in different combinations.
This also applies to Males.
This may sound shocking to some.
But one should not forget that we are animals by definition and Mother Nature wants to propagate Species.
Sexual Health and interest in Sex will be good if one were to treat it as one treat Hunger/ Thirst, as basic instincts.
Only when you attribute values to them it becomes complicated.
Sex in neither sacred nor is it a Sin.
Take it as it is as one would, avoiding what is bad as one would in Food.
New research is demonstrating what many people already knew from experience: Women lose interest in sex over time, while men don’t.
The finding has the potential to help couples, the researchers said. Knowing that many women’s sexual desire
diminishes over the course of a relationship could encourage both partners to be more realistic about their sex lives, and could help them weather the changes in desire as they occur.
Sarah Murray and Robin Milhausen
, both of the University of Guelph
in Ontario, Canada, asked 170 undergraduate women and men who had been in heterosexual relationships for anywhere from one month to nine years to report on their levels of relationship satisfaction
, sexual satisfaction and sexual desire. Desire was scored using an established model called the Female Sexual Function Index, which ranges from 1.2 to 6.0.
The participants reported being generally satisfied with their relationships and sex lives, but women reported lower levels of desire depending on the length of their relationship. “Specifically, for each additional month women in this study were in a relationship with their partner, their sexual desire decreased by 0.02 on the Female Sexual Function Index,” the authors wrote online Jan. 23 in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy
In fact, relationship duration was a better predictor of sexual desire in women than both relationship and sexual satisfaction. While the 0.02 decrease in female desire was small, it contrasts with male desire, which held steady over time, the researchers said. [6 Scientific Tips for a Happy Relationship
Evolution of desire
Scientists have disagreed on what happens to desire over the course of a relationship. “Some researchers suggest that both men’s and women’s desire would decrease over time as relationships move from passionate love to compassionate love,” said Murray, the lead study author and a doctoral candidate in human sexuality.
Yet evolutionary theorists predict that male desire
should remain perpetually high in order for them to produce many offspring, while female desire should decrease as their attention turns, historically, toward child-rearing.
The new research points toward the latter theory, although longer-duration studies on different groups of people are still needed, Murray said.
Men consistently report higher levels of sexual desire than women. Differences in levels of hormones — testosterone, specifically — are believed to at least partially explain the gender divide.
Hormonal changes that occur as couples move from the passionate early stage
to the compassionate later stage into monogamous relationships sometime between six and 30 months may also mediate changes in desire over time. Pharmaceutical companies are currently researching the impact of testosterone on women’s desire, but so far, the results have been inconclusive.
Hormones are only part of the story, Murray told LiveScience
. “Although they are one piece of the sexual desire puzzle, focusing too heavily on hormones can remove the contextual factors that play into desire, such as whether or not a woman is in a satisfying, loving relationship, and if she has time to feel relaxed, playful and sexy,” she said.
Keeping the spark alive
The results could help researchers understand why women who seek sex therapy complain of low desire more than any other problem. Differences in levels of desire within couples, known as desire discrepancy
, is a growing area of interest for therapists.
“The concept of an absolute level of ‘normal’ or ‘low’ sexual desire is being replaced by the view that low sexual desire is relative to one’s partner’s level of desire,” Murray said. But although desire discrepancy is known to negatively affect overall sexual and relationship satisfaction, very little else is understood about it, such as whether it contributes significantly to infidelity or breakups.
The new research could also help couples manage their relationships over time. In an earlier study, Murray found that women who reported more realistic expectations about what sex would be like
in a long-term relationship also had higher levels of desire than those with less realistic expectations. “I think that individuals who expect to maintain the high level of excitement and passion that often exists in the first few months of a new relationship are setting up unrealistic expectations about what is to come and will be more disappointed when the desire and passion take on different forms,” she said.